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My most recent break up
Relationship built on lies
I don't understand how someone could think that a relationship could be built on lies. I honestly can't get past how he told me, from the beginning, that he was being completely truthful and showing me his true self. Well, he definitely showed me his true colors, but they weren't good. I'm not sure he realized what he was doing. He was into some stuff that was sketchy, though I didn't know to what extent. I was worried about what might happen, but, of course, since I cared about him, I pushed it to the back of my mind. I didn't know that it was going to end the way it did. I don't want to go into details, but, he was arrested on the one year anniversary of John's death (anyone who knows me, knows we were really close) and I had to go on a search for my car that he was driving that day. He wasn't in my car when he was arrested, so I had to bug the police department that arrested him until they told me where he was arrested at so I could go search for my car. I found my car, safe and sound. He was released after 24 hours, and after a week and a half, I gave him another chance, with conditions. He showed up with a car that he said was borrowed from a friend. There were still questions in my mind and I was still skeptical as to what he was into. Well, the day after my birthday, things took a turn for the worst. I almost got arrested because of him, and he abandoned me with no way home, leaving me to take the fall for him. No charges were pressed against me because security cameras don't lie (Thank goodness!). I had to find a ride home after they released me from any wrongdoing. He was arrested the next day on different charges and presides in jail to this day. I had a few conversations with him, his dad, his friend and a short conversation with a bailbondsman before hopefully getting my point across. I'm done with anything to do with him. I drew the line when he abandoned me and almost got me arrested for something he was responsible for. I'm thankful that I finally learned my lesson with him, though it was the hard way. I feel much better now. There was so much negative energy following him around, and I felt it every time he was near me. I pushed it aside as just his past following him and thought that eventually it would clear. Obviously that wasn't going to happen; karma caught up with him and I was starting to have that negative energy rub off on me. I feel much lighter now that he's gone. I don't regret eliminating him from my life, though him being in jail makes it a little easier. Now I just need to decide if I want to write a letter telling him how all the lies affected me, just to give him some closure in case he ever gets out and tries to come back. He'll never convince me to take him back, and I doubt he'll be getting out any time soon, but I think he deserves closure. Advice is appreciated, judgement is not. Thanks.