Causes Of Nagging And How To Avoid Nagging

Nagging is irritating and it is poisonous in a relationship especially in marriage. There is a saying that goes ‘there is no smoke without fire” and when you think about it, it is true. Before a wife start nagging, there must be something that triggers it, she has reason(s) for nagging.

Husbands tend to feign innocent when there is a talk about nagging. However, if a woman is nagging verbally, it means that somehow, her husband is nagging her emotionally but he might not understand it as nagging.

There are various reasons, which can provoke a woman to nag, and some of it are listed below:

Apparently, women crave for attention, women desired their men to give them the necessary attention they need without having to ask for it. It amazes me when some men start asking, what does women want? It is very simple; women need care, love, affection and attention. She is not saying that you should sit at home and nurse her like a baby, she is just saying please notice every details about me and I will be happy. For instance, complimenting her when she changes her hair style, when she puts on new dress, when she cook your favorite meal, when she do something nice in the house.

Conversely, when you do not notice anything she does, you don’t care if she is in a bad mood or going through an emotional trauma, you don’t even notice when she is ill and when she cannot bear it any longer, she would want to express her concern. You should try as much as you can to remember to compliment her and thank her for those little things she does for the kids, and for you, it goes a long way in strengthening her to do more. Men who complain that their wives nags are mostly those who have failed in appreciating and complimenting their wives.

In every relationship, whether business or family; communication is very important; its significant cannot be overemphasized. It is a life wire to every relationship. But when there is infringement in communication, trouble abounds. People bound by interacting or communicating with one another.

Some men does not know how to keep their environs clean, imagine a man who came back from work or from his business place. He enters the house, in the sitting room, he removes his tie and dump it on the couch, his suit or shirt on the sofa then he goes inside his bedroom and dump his pant on the bed. The next morning, the same man who does not know where to keep his clothes when he comes home would go to the wardrobe and take another clothe and put on, I think its odd.

How would his wife feel, I mean she spend so much time to keep the house in order. She can only endure for a few periods before she would voice out. As you know women cannot keep something inside for very long without expressing it. What stop him from keeping the clothes he wore previously inside the laundry basket or bag, to save the poor woman the stress of picking up clothes, which are scattered all over the place.

#Learn To Be Observant:

Most women complain when their men seem to be absent minded around them and around the home. Though there are ways a woman can express herself nicely; you know like darling, you didn’t even notice that I have changed my hair, you didn’t notice that I changed the bed-cover, you didn’t notice that I wasn’t feeling fine since yesterday?" etc. But not all every woman know how to be calm when they are pissed off about things. Therefore, to live in peace with a woman learn to be observant and apologetic. Come up with something like: ‘oh I am sorry, I have been too busy and stressed out these days to notice, thanks for changing the bed-cover, thanks for taking care of the house etc. However, Do not snub her when she complains even if she yell at you, be calm and sensitive to what she want.

Please don't be like; it’s nothing new, I know you would finally change the bedcover, it is your work, or do you expect me to do that for you? Ultimately, you are looking for trouble, you just succeeded in infuriating her more and more. Those statements may sound clever, self-satisfying but in a long run, it does not do any good in your relationship therefore should be avoided unless you do not desire peace in your relationship or marriage.

#Bridge the Communication Gap:

Learn to communicate with your spouse as often as possible. When there is change in your office or meeting schedule, you should at least alert your partner, so that he or she would be aware of why you came late or why you would be late. If you fail to communicate with your wife or husband why you would be late, you are inviting nagging into your relationship, because women generally does not tuck in their feelings without letting them out and on the process, it would be tagged as ‘nagging’. It is always easy to judge women when they start nagging than finding out why they nag.

#Learn To Be Tidy

Keeping things tidy around the house is one of the simplest but difficult task to do. whether you are the sloppy type of husband or not, try and help out around the house. Don't leave the whole work at home for your wife. Whenever you can, try and keep your closet clean so that everybody will be happy.

It is when the workload is too much for one partner that he or she will become frustrated and stressed out and stress is not a friend of anybody, it tells all over the person. When someone is stressed, he or she can lash out at anybody around him or her at any point in time. Hence, you have to learn to balance the work at home to make life easier for you and your partner.