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Nagging Wife and Sloppy Husband
Nagging wife and Sloppy husband
Nagging Wife and Why She Nags
Nagging is irritating and it is poisonous in a relationship especially in marriage. There is a saying that goes ‘there is no smoke without fire” and when you think about it, it is true. Before a wife start nagging, there must be something that triggers it, so far she is not insane; she has a reason for nagging.
Husbands tend to feign innocent when there is a talk about nagging. However, if a woman is nagging verbally, it means that somehow, her husband is nagging her emotionally but he might not understand it as nagging.
There are various reasons, which can provoke a woman to nag, and some of it are listed below:
Lack of attention
Apparently, women crave for attention, just as children crave for food. Women desired men who gives them the necessary attention they need without having to ask for it. It amazes me when some men started asking, what does women want? It is very simple; women need care, love, affection and attention. She is not saying that you should sit at home and nurse her like a baby, she is just saying please notice every details about me and I will be happy. For instance, complimenting her when she change her hair style, when she puts on new dress, when she cook your favorite meal, when she do something nice in the house.
Conversely, and you do not notice anything she does, you don’t care if she is in a bad mood or going through an emotional trauma, you don’t even notice when she is ill and when she cannot bear it any longer, she would want to express her concern, a nice woman would approach her husband in a pleasant manner. ‘Darling, you didn’t even notice that I have changed my hair, you didn’t notice that I changed the bedcover, you didn’t notice that I wasn’t feeling fine since yesterday? etc. These few states could be overblown if her man failed to come up with something like; ‘oh, I am sorry, I have been too busy and stressed out these days to notice, thanks for changing the bedcover, thanks for taking care of the house etc. However, when her husband snubbed being sensitive to her yearnings and goes like; it’s nothing new, I know you would finally change the bedcover, it is your work, or do you expect me to do that for you? Ultimately, you are looking for trouble, you just succeeded in infuriating her more and more. Those statements may sound clever, self-satisfying but it in a long run, it does not do any good in your relationship therefore should be avoided unless you do not desire peace in your relationship or marriage.
Meanwhile, you don’t just say it and ignore her again in the future, you should try as much you can to remember to compliment her and thank her for those little things she does for the kids, and for you, it goes a long way in strengthening her to do more. Men who complain that their wives nags are mostly those who have failed in appreciating and complimenting their wives.
Lack of communication
Poor Communication among Couples
In every relationship, communication is very important; its significant cannot be overemphasized. It is a life wire to every relationship. But when there is infringement in communication, trouble abounds. When there is change, in your office or meeting schedule, you should at least alert your partner, so that he or she would be aware of why you came late or why you would be late. If you fail to communicate with your wife or husband why you would be late, you are inviting nagging into your relationship, because women generally does not tuck in their feelings without letting them out and on the process, it would be tagged as ‘nagging’. It is always easy to judge women when they start nagging than finding out why they nag.
Some men does not know how to keep their environs clean, imagine a man who came back from work or from his business place. He enters the house, in the sitting room, he removes his tie and dump it on the couch, his suit or shirt on the sofa then he goes inside his bedroom and dump his pant on the bed. The next morning, the same man who does not know where to keep his clothes when he comes home would go to the wardrobe and take another clothe and put on, I think its odd.
How would his wife feel, I mean she spend so much time to keep the house in order. She can only endure for a few periods before she would voice out. As you know women cannot keep something inside for very long without expressing it and when they express it, it then turns to nagging. What stop him from keeping the clothes he wore previously inside the laundry basket or bag, to save the poor woman the stress of picking up clothes, which are scattered all over the place.