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News Flash! There Won't Be Another Date! —50 faux pas that men make in dating— Stephanie Bailey

Updated on October 1, 2013
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My passion is writing about love, sex, dating, and relationships. I write based on my own personal experiences and those that I relate to.

Ladies a lot of the time we wonder why a guy doesn't call us back, but what about when we lose interest in him? So...he wonders why you don't want to continue dating or why you have just dropped off the map?! Maybe it's because he has done one or more of these things while on a date with you:

1. Having his phone out on the date

2. Talking about his Ex incessantly

3. Having you chip in to help pay for the date when He asked you out

4. Expecting you to pay on the first date

5. Forgets his wallet

6. Being cheap

7. Telling you, "next time you pay"

8. Not having a generous heart

9. Not paying attention to your allergies or food restrictions

10.Drinking too much/too fast

11.Wanting to take shots with you on a first date

12.Not being able to hold a conversation

13.Talks poorly about his mother

14.Belittles or completely takes no interest in what you do for a living

15.Planning every date around happy hours

16.Consistently not planning dates (can't decide on the restaurant or making reservations)

17.Texting: unless someone he knows is in the hospital or he's an on-call doctor—texting during a date is not acceptable

18.Leaving the table to answer his phone (again, not on-call and no emergency) and being gone for more than 5minutes

19.Not dressing your best for dates— too casual (wearing a baseball cap, flip flops etc.)

20.Telling you to dress casual on a first date—unless you’re going hiking

21.Too comfortable too soon - passing gas, burping

22.Checking out other women on your date

23.Poor hygiene—Bad breath, body odor, unruly nose hairs, long or dirty nails

24.Doesn't look you in the eyes when talking

25.Waits a week to call after the first date

26.Brings you out with his friends on a first date

27.Inconsistencies with communicating (texting every day then stopping)

28.Horrible listener—doesn't remember your name and/or things you just told him

29.Negative attitude

30.Talks about themselves all the time

31.Consistently interrupts you when you’re talking

32.Controlling or jealous when you are together

33.Rude or belittling to wait staff when dining out or is a bad tipper

34.Points out a flaw they see in you right away to make you insecure

35.Poor manners—Talks with a full mouth of food—spits

36.He eats off your plate without asking

37.No chemistry when kissing—bad kisser

38.Asking you out on a date or to meet up last minute

39.Being ten minutes or more late meeting or picking you up and not calling

40.Always expecting you to go to his place or you to drive

41.Not chivalrous—open the car door or any door,'s a panty dropper

42.Argumentative or overly sarcastic

43.Overly loud talker

44.He doesn't compliment you

45.He walks in front of you

46.Not introducing you to his friends

47.Sexual innuendos on the first date

48.Not walking you to the car or not making sure you are safely inside once you are home

49.He has a roommate—it’s his parents and he's over 30

50.Centers every conversation around money—not having enough or having too much

Bottom line—a guy should be a gentleman, chivalrous (no it is not dead), and respectful....don't settle for anything less.


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      Stephanie Bailey 

      7 years ago from Denver

      Thank you for the Vote Up dashingscorpio. I agree, no one likes the "use too's." People should be authentically put in the effort when it comes to dating--- verses playing games.

      It shouldn't be hard to treat someone you care about with love, and respect. :)

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      Stephanie Bailey 

      7 years ago from Denver

      Thank you for reading!

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      7 years ago from Chicago

      Some very funny reasons not to have a second date! Voted up!

      Of course I'd rather have someone "be them self" than fake me out on the first date. It sure would save you a lot of time. LOL!

      Seriously the worse thing is having someone be on their "best behavior" just to get you to (emotionally invested) in them and then afterwards they revert back to their "authentic self". That's when the woman tells the guy; "You (use) to open my car door." "You (use) to compliment me." I guess in some ways we're better off knowing how a person (really is)! Eventually they'll either change on their own or meet someone who is cool with the way they are. :-)

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      Stephanie Bailey 

      7 years ago from Denver

      Thank you Alphadogg16, I agree but you would be surprised how many men lack on common sense :). I also agree that woman try to change things when the compatibility is just not right. Thank you for reading!

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      Stephanie Bailey 

      7 years ago from Denver

      Thank you marketeconomy, yes the always wanting the woman to drive or come to their place all the time drives me nuts and is suck a lazy dater thing to do! Relationships are about working together. Thank you so much for reading!

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      Stephanie Bailey 

      7 years ago from Denver

      Thank you DDE. Yes, commitment can be scary but when you can trust in love and put in the's not so frightening :).

    • Miss-Adventures profile imageAUTHOR

      Stephanie Bailey 

      7 years ago from Denver

      Thank you for reading!

    • Miss-Adventures profile imageAUTHOR

      Stephanie Bailey 

      7 years ago from Denver

      Thank you all for reading!

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      Devika Primić 

      7 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Interesting and useful information here and commitment can be scary for many individuals.

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      7 years ago

      Great list Stephanie - another is ALWAYS wanting you to drive. I don't think he always has to drive, but always wanting you to drive to where he is centrally located (if you live more than 30min apart), always meeting at his place before going out instead of yours, or always wanting you to drive yourself, and he always drives himself - it would be nice to go places together......not just meet there:0), and my neighborhood is nice, too - lol.

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      Kevin W 

      7 years ago from Texas

      This was a very interesting hub Miss-Adventures. Most of the things on your list are just common sense and if I guy does them, he's obviously not mentally ready for any kind of committed relationship. However, a lot of women attempt to change things they have absolutely no control over. Thumbs up on your hub.


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