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"Not a Man"
Again I find myself at the keyboard and thinking much about life and the problems the world faces and the pain and suffering we see all over the news. It is sad to think people struggle to get along and need to take their anger to the level of physical and emotional abuse.
Welcome to the Fireside and may you find some peace here even in the words I write. A hard subject to broach and yet one which is all around us and one so often that is held quiet in the home. This is not my usual subject matter by any means but it is something that hurts us all indirectly so please forgive me if I step on a few toes.
I have placed out all the goodies so please help yourself and above all make yourself comfortable. Know this is a place of safety and love. Above all know that you are loved and appreciated.
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What does a dandelion gone to seed have to do with violence or abuse. I chose it to represent the fragility of those who who suffer at the hands of an aggressor. Both mentally and physically. Neither are acceptable and the aggressor needs to be exposed.
The greatest fear many women and children have is the shame that is attached to speaking out. What sadness I feel in my heart this night for all those who suffer. In the past several days I have heard of two cases involving women and children and their exploitation at the hands of these people who call themselves men.
What a sad and stupid world these men live in. The convoluted minds that roam our streets daily, working among us and pretending to be people they are not. Yet coming home at night and making unrealistic demands of their spouses and family.
Life is hard enough today but to add to it fear, doubt, anticipation and frustration to wives and little children all it does is compound the problem. Children who are raised in such a household will have long lasting effects they carry for many years to come. I spoke with a man a few weeks back that held his family at bay for years until he nearly lost everything including his wife and family. It was a turning point for him and he began the long slow process of getting help.
In society today there are many options for people who struggle in this area. The problems will never go away until you are willing to address them gentleman. Please get some help before you lose everything in life that means anything. My greatest concern is you will raise you children to do the same.
I have also over the years spoken with men that are abused emotionally but cutting remarks. On the news a few months ago a man charged with killing his wife. His only defence was he was no longer able to take it. A life could have been spared if some help would have been sought.
Help is available
I do not profess to be an expert on the subject. I have no degree or piece of paper to hang on the wall. I can tell you when you listen to a mother and her children weep over the pain and in many places nowhere to go it is a hard hitting fact. They are trapped and far too often choose to stay because it is all they have and know.
The best thing we can do is be supportive and help them find their way back into a safe society. If you know someone who is hurting on the inside please step forward and offer help and love and do what is needed to stop this.
Thank you all for listening to me vent but there is a better way than living in a revolving door of abuse. Verbal, Physical. Mental or emotional is not the way. Hugs to all who suffer.
For you the abuser there will be a day you will answer for your actions. Try stepping out of line in the outside world and see what happens. You be unpleasantly surprised and after need to deal with the consequences of your actions through the law. Stop lying to those who live at an arms length. Be open and honest and please get some help. I think the picture here depicts very well what you are leaving behind where ever you call home.
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