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Online Dating For Men: Choosing Additional Photos
We’ve already discussed the selection of your main profile photo, and now we’re going to talk about all those extra pics you’re allowed to add. Please realize that if you add extra photos, they will likely all be looked at, so it’s important you not just toss any old pics into the mix.
And in case you’re wondering – you should have at least 1 more photo that’s a full body shot. Yes, you may have listed about average in your profile, but average is a relative term. Y’all are always trying to figure out how big our butts are, it’s only fair we get to see yours, too. So make sure you include at least 1 other pic.
Most men do this – if you don’t, it will be very easy to skip right over you.
Yes to pics with pets.
I love seeing a man posing with his dog or cat or horse. Or just seeing the pet themselves. It shows you’re capable of caring about something beyond yourself, and it makes me assume you can look after a living creature. This is good subliminal info for women who want to have babies someday – it makes you look like you have father potential.
Yes to you in a suit.
Even if it’s a few years old. Something from a friend’s wedding, something some a formal function – we like to know you’re willing to dress up if need be. And many of you don’t seem to realize how much your level of attractiveness increased when you’re in a suit. Just try it, we’ll like it.
No more than 3 extra pics.
I have seen men include as many as 12 extra pics. Don’t do this. I don’t care if most of them are wilderness and beach shots (no idea why so many men include those) and I don’t care if most of them are you – if you have more than 3 pics, you are way too interested in yourself. I don’t mean you want everyone to see you, either; I mean you think everyone already wants to see that much of you. This is not normal behavior unless you’re a photographer, and even then, if I like your pics, I can always see your portfolio later.
No pics of you bare-chested.
Oh my God these turn me off. I don’t care how nice your body is – advertising yourself in that way makes you look like a player. Don’t do it. If you’re proud of your body, mention that you enjoy working out and keeping fit. But don’t show us in your profile. Yes, we will probably find it very attractive, but not online.
No pics of you leaning on your Porsche.
This makes you look ridiculous and the only women you’re going to attract are gold diggers, cos no one with any self-respect is going to want a man who thinks his car makes him special. And if you’ve chosen your car as one of your 3 pics, you must really think it’s important. That said, if you have an old car that’s your pride and joy – an old Challenger, for example – then that’s probably ok, as it’s a lot less pretentious. Keep in mind, however, a lot of women will not realize the appeal of a car like that, and will assume you haven’t been able to afford a new car for the last 30 years.
No pics with women.
Unless you’re included a photo of a woman who is clearly your grandmother, don’t do this. Don’t even add a photo of your mother unless she’s holding up a sign that’s says that’s who she is! Besides, why would you want a pic of your mother on a dating site, anyway. We might start to think she’s part of the reason you’re single! And it goes without saying – no pics of any hot women, no matter who she is! Y’all seem to think that if we see hot women hanging on your arm, we’ll find you more attractive. This sometimes works in person – it Never works on the internet!
No pics with children.
I don’t care if your profile says you don’t have kids – show a pic of you holding a toddler and we’re going to assume your profile is wrong. Besides, I find it creepy to see pics of a child on an internet dating site, no matter the capacity. If you really feel you must include a child’s photo, make sure your profile says who the kid is to you – not his name! – just how you know him. Nephew, brother, etc.
Obviously, you can include any photos you want to include.. but these tips will ensure you're not including anything too off-putting. Good luck in your search!