Opposite Gender Friendships

Everyone goes through phases in life that can alter their adult life substantially. As a child you see nothing wrong with making friends with the opposite sex, but as an adult many seem to think no such friendship can truly exist without the concept of the two sleeping together. To this I say you are living in an insecure state of mind, and the only reason you may think a friendship with a man and a woman can’t exist without sex is because you yourself have never been blessed with such a friendship.

My male best friend and I have been just that since we first met at the age of fourteen. Yes, I will admit the desire was there in his part when we first met, but the friendship was just too grand to take it elsewhere. It is due to this friendship that I have learned first hand how a man truly thinks, and how to determine if a man is worth your time or not.

As we grew older our conversations changed, our advice to one another when in a relationship increased and we became tighter than ever with no sex involved whatsoever. Yes, there came times when one of us would find someone who couldn’t understand the friendship and worried that it would become something more, but we never let that stop us from being each other’s friends and frankly nothing ever will.

Insecurity is a downfall many of us face, but I am just too blessed to let that get the best of our relationship. The friendship we share has lasted now twenty something years, we are both happily married to our respective soul mates now and we each have one child. Through the years we drifted apart a bit due to distance, but the communication is still ongoing, either via email or phone conversations and our friendship is as strong now as it ever was.