- Gender and Relationships
Men Who Manipulate Young Girls: You Gross Me Out!
Really, people? Is it that hard for you to become a human being?
I recently started reading the memoir by Jaycee Dugard, A Stolen Life. In case the name doesn't ring any bells, she is very significant to me. You see, I graduated high school in 1990, and Jaycee Dugard was abducted on the road on her way to school in 1991. She was only 11 years old! I'm fighting back tears now, because I have two teenage girls, 17, and 13, both older than she was at the time.
[I'm finding it difficult to continue writing this, even though I've kept my composure while reading her memoirs]
I will try to explain my sheer disgust and disdain for anyone who uses children for their own, sick pleasures. I've been following the news about James Hooker, a 41-year-old school teacher who recently left his wife and kids to move in with his 18-year-old former student. I don't care how much he caries on about how they got intimate when she turned 18-- that's still a baby in my eyes! I have a 17-year-old daughter, which is only a year younger, and I know how impressionable and naïve our teenage girls can be.
Now back to Jaycee Dugard:
In the book, Jaycee painfully describes her abduction, abuse, torment and kept slave-style treatment she endured for 18 years before being "discovered" by the authorities. Not only did her assailant have a history of felony conviction, but he was diagnosed as bi-polar by a psychologist, and yet he was free on parole when the kidnapping/entrapment went on for almost two decades! During this time, Jaycee was the teenage mother of two children, both fathered by a man who was a drug-addict, married to a woman who turned her cheek to her husband's sickness, and son to a mother who raised a psychotic "Momma's Boy."
A little girl's life, childhood, freedom and sanctity were taken away, and even accomplices didn't think it was appropriate to do the right thing to let authorities capture a man who manipulated a young girl for his own pleasures. You ladies are rotten to the core. Sorry for being so blunt, but when the shoe fits, wear it!
Now back to this sicko who enticed a teenage girl with a Serotonin rush....
I am a mother of teenage girls, and I completely support the mother of the 18-year-old naïve fool who fell for the balding, mediocre, mid-life crisis guy who happened to teach at her school. On a side note, I also had a similar experience: not with older men, but by having my husband leave me and my kids for a younger woman (although, not in her teens!).
I don't care if I hurt any insecure men with this statement: You all make me sick when you use naïve, vulnerable and trusting young women to boost your egos. I'm sort of glad that young girl (finally) came to her senses after the teacher was arrested for acts dating back from years ago. I hear the dwarves on 'The Wizard of Oz' singing "ding-dong the wicked witch is dead"; only it pertains to a former teacher now.
Narcissists should have no rights.
About Jaycee Dugard: I'm near the end of her memoir, and you know what strikes me about her? How mature she was about all the events that happened to her (and trust me-- everything I suspected happened to her, happened to her). She constantly put her two daughters ahead of herself in every situation, no matter what the situation was, which is ultimately why she was kept for so long in her repose of fear from a man who constantly manipulated her-- physically and emotionally. When I think about how she was only 11 when she was plucked from the face of society, education, and social interaction, I'm still amazed at how much more mature she is than the sick men who use women for their "problems."
My final word.
These men who use young women (girls) are sick, and no different than a criminal or drug addict who is wondering when to follow through on their next heist or high. And yes, Jaycee Dugard's sick captor was also a known drug addict who failed several tests. Shame on the justice system who let him live among a society of law-abiding citizens.
If you can't handle your urges, be it male or female (although, it would be hard for a woman to take advantage of a man/boy), then turn yourself in and don't use excuses to manipulate innocent victims. On a side note: the man who kidnapped Jaycee said that 'angels told him to do those acts, and she was there to help him with his sickness-- so he doesn't do it to others'... talk about not owning up to your own actions!
Jaycee Dugard is free now, and has the love of her two daughters-- no matter what. But she lives in fear, constant chaos for her memories, and was robbed of her childhood-- because of a selfish, Narcissistic man who used her to promote his own needs. The teacher who coaxed a teenage girl into leaving her family, friends and education behind to live in a fantasy world that he deceived her with is no different.
I hope that justice will be served. I have no mercy for these types. Reap what you sow.