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People's Mean Comments Come From Insecuity

Updated on November 23, 2015

Have you ever had a friend who made you feel like you were not good enough? Say you liked a good looking guy and they told you they only go for a certain type of girl. First of all that is not always true. There are some guys who are really good looking and they go with girls who are not that pretty. You like who you like. Second of all these people are saying these things because they feel this way.

Do not ever let anyone else make you feel like you or not pretty or good enough. You know your worth. Never let anyone else make you feel like you cannot have what or who you want. You can have the guy you want and you can have the life you want. If you have not dated the guy you wanted in the past that does not mean that you will not in the future. Sometimes it is all about timing in life.

These people do not feel good about themselves so they have to make judgment's about other people. They have to make other people feel that they cannot get who or what they want. They think may tell you that they are being honest but it's an opinion. They do not know every single guy in the world and they do not know what the future holds. They are just making judgments based on their insecurities.

Look in the mirror and you be the judge. Do not let these people put these things into your head and bring you down. Never make someone feel that you are not pretty enough. If you keep hanging around these people soon enough you will be listening to the things they say and you will start to believe that you are not pretty enough. When you start to believe that people will pick up on it and you will be scared to take chances and go after what you really want. It is not a healthy way to live. So think positive and believe in yourself.

Think of all the guys that do like you. Think of all the people that say you are good looking. If so many people say it and you are dealing with one person who is negative then you know that what this person is saying is not the truth. This person is saying it because they are jealous.

A true friend will not say that. A nice person will not say that. Do not surround yourself with people like this. You have a choice for the people that you want to surround yourself with. You do not have to surround yourself with people who put you down and make you feel bad about yourself. You can have friends who raise you up and make you feel good. They are out there. Just look for them and do not settle for friends who treat you badly.

If they are people you work with or friends of the family or even family members do not listen to them. Once again they are not in control of your future. They have these self limiting beliefs and they are trying to rub them off on you. Do not let them get to you. Just shrug them off because the truth is they do not know better.

There are some people that you cannot avoid and then there are people that you can avoid. If you can avoid these people do your best to avoid them. You do not need them in your life if all they are going to do is bring you down. You do not need that kind of negativity in your life.

Be the best person that you can be and go after who and what you want. When you come across a guy who is good looking do not feel like you cannot be with him because of comments that these people say. He can like you. The relationship between you and him can work out. You do not know what the future holds. The only one who knows is God. So keep your head up high and surround yourself with people who will bring you up and not bring you down.


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    • Jpanaro982 profile image

      Jpanaro982 2 years ago from Eastchester

      Anyone who says "ur too ugly to get someone good looking" is not a friend. Friends do not put each other down. That is not being honest. That is being cruel.


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