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Plenty of Fish, Review

Updated on December 29, 2008

Plenty of Fish, Review

Rating 1/5

(1 worst - 5 best)

Plenty of Fish has to be one of the most over used and abused dating websites. Wanna know why? It's absolutley free. A dating profile, for an intimate encounter, hang out, actual "dating", friends, email/chat, and long term relationships are the words that are supposed to let you know what that person is "looking for." But really it's just a sham, people do this for fun.

Really, how serious is a dating site that can take you 1 minute to put a profile up. Can't be that serious. What erks me the most about sites like this is the fact that the dude that created it is probably laughing about all of this. Apparently him and his girlfriend run the site out of their condo. Hundreds of thousands of dollars a day is brought in by advertising, and once I realized this it made me want to stop logging in, in the hopes of finding someone normal, but no. Finding someone on Plenty of Fish, is like winning the lottery, sheer luck. Forget probability.

Oh and the craziness of it all is the ads. The ads on this site are other dating ads, not to mention one of the creepiest dating ads I've ever seen--one looked like an inbred child with a mans face and pig tails and buck teeth. The other "real" or seemingly real dating sites that are at least a bit more legitimate know that once you are on Plenty of Fish you will be so freaking annoyed with the opposite sex that you will need to somehow retore your faith and try out a paid dating webpage.

The only thing I can tell you that should make you think twice about being suckered into Plenty of Fish is, my friend and I call it Plenty of Freaks, it only gets worse from there. Be aware, and don't give out too much information to anyone on this site, well, any dating site for that matter. You just never know who you are going to run into.

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      justin 5 years ago

      Plenty of fish is a terrible site. Most females are obese trashy ir both. Hihh expectations gold diggers who I wouldnt normally give the time of day. The worst part is how flaking they are. Often wanting to talk for hours on end. They usually give their cell so you can text them but I dont need a pen pal. Oh and I love the ones with pics of them in their bras and then they say how they arent looking for sex. lmaom Trailor trash fat pigs.

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      ROBO\_WARRIOR 5 years ago

      Tried returning to pof again with no joy; but they have change there rules; basically saying if you recieve so many blocks you will be banned, the site also has a twitter page which is as helpful as the help centre of its own site..... NO HELP AT ALL. Maybe if Markus hired people instead of relying on volunteers; Members EX members may get treat better

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      Brian Herring 5 years ago

      The site banned me without warning or reason. The site itself should be banned in my opinion. I never found one interested person on it and I'm not a bad candidate for dating.

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      sensualspirit 5 years ago from Overseas, but back to the US soon

      Unfortunately cyber bullying is alive & well online & not just on POF. In fact it is getting worse every year.

      Most people aren't aware of cyber bullying & they chalk it up to some kid in school doing it which is NOT true.

      There are plenty of adults who go around bullying people online every day. Cyber stalking is on the rise as well.

      Until people experience it, they will never know what it feels like.

      Michelle

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      Mr D 5 years ago

      "They have a never ending list of rules and some truly nasty individuals in a clique that dominates the forums and gets anyone who disagrees with them suspended. "

      This nails it on the head! I was just banned for 3 years because I suggested some changes to their body-classification system e.g. BBW is not a proper way to describe a person's figure and there was no option for underweight!

      On that site most women ignored my essages yet were still there 2 years later when I looked back!

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      Kyle 6 years ago

      I agree with Sarah (2 posts above). There is really no problem with the WEBSITE. It functions as designed. 90% of the complaints I've just read over the past hour, are about the profiles and those using the site. Don't blame the creators or administrators for operating a FREE website. If they choose to get their revenue from display ads, so bit it.

      Personally speaking, I've been on POF on/off for the past several years. I tried others such as Match, Yahoo, OKCupid, etc.... All are nearly identical, except they require you to pay them. True that I've encountered some highly questionable individuals, but so too have I met some really nice ladies (just not 'Love Connections').

      I think POF is simply a microcosm of the real world (i.e. take a stroll though ANY Walmart). These are the same people who are online (POF no exception). Like anything worthwhile, it takes time and due-diligence to sort through the crap just to get the good ones. I regard it as no different than panning for gold.

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      6 years ago

      I've had some response and exchanged 1 phone number... but my pof experience is a terminally ill patient on life support. Started messaging another girl the other day after many non-replies. She rarely bothers to string together a coherent sentence, let along a convocation. Asks me nothing about myself either. Yet when I wished her well with the site and said take care... well, she said "aren't we chatting then?". Really frustrating experience on there!

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      John 6 years ago

      Meet Russian women they are the BEST! Gorgeous in and out ~ no games with them ! Forget spoiled American women - most of them not all. As for POF the site is a complete SCAM ....!!!! No one rsp-onds at all ~ Ia m vewry handsome, honorbale USMC marine - etc... BEWARE !

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      6 years ago

      Online dating is very tough with pof! I'm early thirties, medium build 5 foot 10, ok looking (I think) and its rare as rare can be that I get a message from someone I'm interested in. My wantstomeet me section has 20 girls on it, but none of them catch my interest (not wanting to sound shallow). I did get loads of views a day, but now I've been there for 6 months I guess a lot of the views are the same people, so I only get a few a day (at best). If I message a nice looking girl there is almost no possibility of a reply to my messages sent out. I've got a good profile and I write blanket, but very well written messages tailored enough to each profile. I have everything optimised now. I'm not sure whether this is exactly what pof want me to do (spend ages on there messaging people, but never scoring a hit), or whether they've tried their best and the site doesn't work because women who are even slightly attractive are looking for better than me on there. All I know is the only real reason I still use it is because there is one nice girl that I chat with on a regular basis, but she isn't really there for meeting up. I'm carrying on chatting to her though, because she may eventually want to meet. It might be that women are dubious about meeting men they have met online. If you're a guy on there it definatly helps to be very good-looking and not average looking.

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      mamart 6 years ago

      I asked someone yesterday how she met her second husband after being a widow for five years. On the way out of a cafe, the cashier looked at her and asked her if she would go out for coffee with a guy who was also checking out. So there, you just never know. Still looking for my next boyfriend and wish it would hurry up.

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      az lady 6 years ago

      ive been on her several times over the years. Never had a problem getting attention. But I have met men who put up old pictures, say the are younger than what they are. Stalker who i had to change phone number, email and block him. Nightmare. I think there are just alot of players on pof. Ive met few nice guys but no attraction. I am sure its no place to find that life long partner. Maybe church and other public places be best place for us who really want serious relationship.

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      az lady 6 years ago

      ive been on her several times over the years. Never had a problem getting attention. But I have met men who put up old pictures, say the are younger than what they are. Stalker who i had to change phone number, email and block him. Nightmare. I think there are just alot of players on pof. Ive met few nice guys but no attraction. I am sure its no place to find that life long partner. Maybe church and other public places be best place for us who really want serious relationship.

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      molson 6 years ago

      To mamart so you also know the old trick of getting back on they got me twelve times and i am back in five mintues and still i am still there

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      mamart 6 years ago

      One member had posted his profile in Spanish with English translations some of which was true to translation. However, a great deal of it was not translated correctly as what he really wrote was that American women are fat and full of drugs. He also demeaned Americans and this country in general. He was from another country visiting here with his relatives so he only wanted a quick friend. I cut and pasted the parts of his profile that were troublesome , and not only did they eliminate me forever from the site, but little did they know that I got in anyway, and that profile is still there.

      Please, be very careful about this site. I know that it can work for some people. But, truly I would want no part of an organization that allows this to happen. I am pretty , well-educated, and a great person who is honest. They said they eliminated me forever, " after reviewing your actions on our site".

      I am still getting emails from this company to view my matches, if you can believe.

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      nick 6 years ago

      laureaann

      he must have been some lonely

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      dogpatch 6 years ago

      why i have one gal here with a picture from the sears fun in the sun catalogue i can see the picture on the other side saying eggplant not so smart

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      puffroni 6 years ago

      well i will tell you that with all the matches pof give's me it is a good thing i Don't get lost in the woods on a cold winters night and need a fire to keep warm i would freeze to death cause i would'nt get a spark

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      bob 6 years ago

      sarah my sweets why you are talking to wemon using a picture of men why yes they on here now you see why someone dont show up to meet you in person like why dont you all screw your heads back on get with you all i tell you all this in a good way i could give you some users names but it is not allowed on here yes i know all about the nice ones i got lots but they want to play hey let them dont let them know you are on to them all for one...one for all just laught at it.....because nobody in their righ mind goes on theys places

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      Laureaann 6 years ago

      I met my future husband on that site. While there were plenty of jerks messaging me because they thought I was willing to have a one night stand, there were also plenty of decent men willing to be my friend if thats what I was looking for. I have actually made quite a few friends while on the site. I no longer have a need for it and have since deleted it due to my being engaged. Speaking for myself, I think I am pretty decent looking, have a heart of gold, and my only expectation was to have a man give me the attention I dont give myself. Sorry some of you have had such a bad time on the site, your only other options would be to pay or get out from behind your computer screen and put an effort to finding your true match, if he/she exists.

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      sarah 6 years ago

      where are people coming from! I am intelligent, articulate, and have chatted to many nice people on fish (not psycho's, etc etc etc). The grass is not always greener on the other side and regardless of whether you get 1 message or 100, if you meet someone that you genuinely like then you don't go on any dates with the others! there is good and bad everywhere in the world and life is what you make it.

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      Ed 6 years ago

      If you're a guy, even a good looking guy with a good job, it's a great place for emailing and IMing girls. You may even meet some, but the simple facts are a. there are just too many guys, which overwhelms women and b. most of the women are players. If you're not a disgusting fat slob of a woman, you will get dozens of emails a day. If you're a woman getting a dozen emails a day, why wouldn't you want to try out everything and see who's the richest, best looking, most romantic, etc. A guy on that site may have the greatest date in the world and the gal still won't return his calls the next day. Why? Because she still has 20 other guys out there to squeeze into her calendar. There's always something better around the corner.

      For some reason I still find myself on this site. It's addicting to see who might have emailed you or looked at your profile. Hell, I even got some ass last week. But for the most part it's just broken dates at the last minute and a big headache. It's time to realize that trying to date women from dating sites, especially from POF, is like trying to drag a VW up a mountain. It's not worth it.

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      patrick 6 years ago

      To brokin angle..why yes all the gals i talk with on pof tell me the same thing i get along with them ok..becaues i call them my little sweets pof puffronis...i just have one who gives me the cold cold heart bit wemon lie alot on their profile like a high scool picture while they are 50 years old...some will try and get you deleted if you wont talk with them...they are trying to replace the love mommy never gave them...or maby daddy took of on mommy...there are some lost gals on pof

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      broken angel! 6 years ago

      I hate to sound big headed but i am attractive,,, so have got alot of attension on the site. went on there because i have lost all faith in men..

      if the blokes look okay and normall you find out after they add you on fb they are fakes & players.

      or you get weridos who will email you and keep emailing you until you answer.. or in my cases block them.

      this site is a waste of space!! i hate all the men on it, if anything its made it even harder for me to trust a man.. been single 20mnths after i was cheated on soo.

      ive lost complete interest in all men defo after using this site.

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      Devotion 6 years ago

      i had a pof profile for some time so i decided to add something to it.......so i added my passion seems to be playing a fools game looking to win...i also added....is it possible to succeed with any act of betrayal in about an hour i was deleted but there is a little to getting back on in 5 mim so there are to many holes in pof

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      james 6 years ago

      it has been said let the most honest of men write a letter of only six lines and you can find enought in it to hang him with get my drift

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      Joe Blow 6 years ago

      Meredith A Iager you must be very ignorant & how computer savvy are you not to use an ad blocker. What an idiot. Firefox with ad blocker & i have never seen one ad! Also Chrome has an ad blocker too. If you are too fucking stupid to use anything but IE that is your own dumb fault.

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      suziequeue 6 years ago

      Toronto man charged with assaulting woman he met on dating site

      2011/08/13 | CityNews.ca Staff

      Police have charged a 30-year-old Toronto man with sexually assaulting a woman he met on an online dating website.

      Police say the suspect met the woman on Friday after they arranged a date on the Plenty of Fish website.

      When they returned to the home of the accused, police say he attacked the woman.

      Slovan Stulic has been charged with sexual assault and forcible confinement.

      He was scheduled to appear in court on Saturday at 10 a.m.

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      suziequeue 6 years ago

      Please be careful on POF. I received many many emails when I posted attractive photos. Of the emails, there were only three people to consider as a possible date. One of them was an MD. He reached out to me and said I seemed special. We messaged each other through the site quite a bit. After about a week I told him I was shutting down the profile and he quickly asked me for my cell phone number before I cut communication. Well he texted me often, telling me he is a surgeon at a local hospital and his luck with the site was so good, he felt "Like a kid in a candy store," I assume because of his MD status. He told me he would like to take me to his house in Bermuda. Well I looked up his name on the state medical license board and his name was not listed. Yes there was another person with a similar last name at the hospital in question, but I called the doctor at the hospital and he told me it was not him but he would like to have a home in Bermuda. The fake doctor asked me to meet him on several occasions and then would break it off at the last minute saying he got called in to surgery. Well finally I looked up his cell phone number on the reverse look up and it turned out to be a completely different name, and following up still, I found out that he is a contract administrator at a corporation in my county. He is also married with two children. His wife is very pretty. Oh, the photos in his profile are not him either and I'm sure the guys in the photos will be surprised.

      I reported this to POF and my profile was permanently deleted and he is still allowed to scam women. I called the police to ask what could be done about this type of behavior, but I was told since no actual crime was perpetrated, there was nothing that could be done. I was told, "People can take on a whole new persona on the Internet, it happens all the time now."

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      ryanj 6 years ago

      this pof must be a hooker site at the end of my profile i said i do not want to hear from you if you are a hooker i was deleted in about one hour if you tell the truth on pof you wont last this must be his people picked by him hooking and asking for money becaues times are hard for them like im a single mom and times are hard another says she is looking for a man for her mom who has lots of money cause her mom is so sweet she should have the best now is she wacked out or what

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      james 6 years ago

      just to comment on mamart piece yes she meet her husbund on pof but soon she will be back on pof behind his back or he will be back on pof behind her back or else they someday say to each other honey lets get a pof account just for the hell of it then it all blows up up i know first hand nothing ever last when you find it this way no they are not lucky

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      mamart 6 years ago

      A good friend of mine met her husband on POF..so sometimes it works for the lucky..

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      mamart 6 years ago

      Just found this on a search...had no idea..

      http://plentyoffish.wordpress.com/2011/01/31/plent...

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      mamart 6 years ago

      Put in any dating site into the BBB. There is a dating site that puts BBB right on their site without being a member. Just hit the BBB on their site. Anyone can write a complaint on BBB even if the company isn't with the BBB. General complaints, how many times anyone complained and the reasons are all there.

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      ryan 6 years ago

      plenty of fish site slows down to a crawl at the end of the mounth when the welfare and pensions checks are out everybody got a date you dont see them on until about tuesday looking again the gals start early on friday morning looking for the free meal and drinks hookerville this site should be called

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      james 6 years ago

      this site pof are for the real nuts dreamers all of them on here markus should be locked up in a padded room this site should go i like the people on welfare saying the work for the goverment looks good on them all

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      OldGuy 6 years ago

      I'm even suspicious of this site. I wouldn't be surprised if plentyoffish is affiliated with same.

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      mamart 6 years ago

      They have permanently deleted me because I was the only real person out there. I complained about a bigot to them, and they got rid of me. Did me a huge favor , let me tell you..

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      rastajon 6 years ago

      hey oldguy; the reason she didn't correct you about her eye color was that she really has blue eyes...you were right....scam

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      OldGuy 6 years ago

      I just left Plentyoffish for the last time. I was email-ing this lady whom I had commented on her beautiful blue eyes. She thanked me and we started a long communication. When I reviewed her bio I realized she had noted her eyes were noted as "HAZEL" in her narrative. I immediately texted her with an apology but she seemed very unaffected by it all. Did you ever meet a girl whom you got her eye color wrong and she didnt correct you? Not possible right? Another issue was she lived near Allentown,Pa. I lived three towns over from her, about 18 miles. She never heard of my town...not possible either. Finally, when she texted me she used very young terminology and a lot of punctuation, like the kids of today. Deduction: She is a young person playing around or somebody working for plentyoffish who entices you to use the system more. Either way= SCAM.

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      Max57221 6 years ago

      I must say I really feel for the men and women who are truly looking for someone to be with. I see a lot of guys complaining on here, I understand, it sucks to think you are good looking, have a career, make lots of money, but yet none of the pretty women respond, think about it fellas, these women are beautiful atleast in their pictures so why does a beautiful women need to be on a site like plentyoffish to meet a man? ITS A DAMN GAME FELLAS, THEY ARE ONLY LOOKING FOR SUCKERS TO SPEND MONEY, BOTTOM LINE!! WHEN ARE YOU GUYS GOING TO WAKE UP??PLENTYOFFISH IS A BUY AND SELL SITE! YOU ARE EITHER BUYING SHIT OR SELLING DREAMS. 90% of the blond bimbos you see on there are 100% prostitutes BOTTOM LINE. These are women who were on match.com and other sites and ever since the economy went to shit these women cannot find the sugar daddies as easy as they once did, so now they are on plentyoffish looking for the desperate older men who will give them anything they want! PLENTYOFFISH IS FOR PROSTITUES AND THE MEN WHO LOVE TO SPEND ALL OF THEIR HARD EARNED MONEY ON THEM!!

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      OldGuy 6 years ago

      About these dating sites being fake. I can tell you for sure most of them are fake. Reasoning: have you noticed that on the weekends there is less message traffic? MUCH LESS!! Did you think that is because everybody went out on weekends or because they wanted you to think they went out on weekends.......wrong again......it's because DATING SITE EMPLOYEES ARE OFF ON WEEKENDS. GOT IT?

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      OldGuy 6 years ago

      Where does a divorced guy in his 50s go? So So looking, responsible, retired or not but a good income. There's nowhere in rural america, maybe in urban setting. Most of the ladies I've met off this dating site were very hurt by previous experiences. They were ready to snap at you at any comment they perceived to be an affront on their psyche, lifestyle, intelligence, character, etc. We single old guys are all in the same boat. One consolation however; after dating a few psychos, crazies, liars, thieves, scammers and prestidigitators, living alone at home becomes quite enjoyable.

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      David 6 years ago

      I have been on Plenty of Fish off and on for about four years. I must say when I first went on there I had some success. But lately, I feel like the ugliest guy in the world.

      I don't know what has happened to that site, but it's going downhill fast. Members are so selfish and rude.

      I have written close on 200 messages this year and had only one reply from a woman who wrote, '**** off, you're ugly.'

      Err, I'm not Brad Pitt but I'm not the Elephant Man either. And she was nothing special. In fact, she was overweight, but I decided to overlook that because on paper it looked like we had something in common. Guess she was last in the queue when they were dishing out manners.

      I don't bother messaging women now. I just sit back and hope someone will write to me. I do receive messages sometimes but they're always from old women over 50, fat and haggard. I'm only a youngish man of 37!

      I have a lot going for me but because I run my business from home, I do not meet many new ladies. Hence the dating site option.

      The funny thing is I read a lot of profiles and all the women say they're sick and tired of guys messaging them asking for sex. There are loads of guys out there with manners, but these women aren't interested in them. They always go for the good looking types who then turn out to be perverts.

      Serves them right. They don't deserve a decent man.

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      sean1er 6 years ago

      Well in san francisco it's pretty good to be honest I've been on it for like 2 months been on 2 dates and I got about 12 phone numbers so no complaints here. The women are pretty down to earth and seem like they genuinely want a long term relationship.

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      Julz 6 years ago

      POF in Australia is the worst excuse for a dating site and seems to only attract the scum of the earth, girls, if you are fat/ugly or have kids you just may have to settle for an overweight bold guy, im sorry but these are the cards you have been given, so live with it, no decent man with decent looks is ever going to look at your profile twice, and same goes for the guys, the site is packed with weird people who seem to have glorified images of themselves that im affraid are completely unrealistic. And the girls who are decent looking, want nothing but everything, to get treated like a little princess and continue to live in a little girls fantasy. Lets face it.....these people are horrible and the question you have to ask yourself is this......why are they on the internet trying to find a mate? Is it because every decent person in the REAL world figured out that they are messed up pieces of crap and stayed well clear. These people are avoided not necessarily because of their looks, but rather their minds. They are **** in the head on multiple levels, some of them are not even looking for a mate, instead they use the site as a method to rate their photos as most women are in a constant, never ending mode of self check.

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      Andrew 6 years ago

      Yeah it's crazy. The majority of the girls want the following dude: Tattoos, piercings, beer, into phillies, and with a beard. Plus, they keep their profile for the laughs/entertainment where the creepy dude e-mail them. I'm thinking, these girls must be such losers if they use the site for laughs and boredom. I don't know what's worse; the dudes sending out the embarassing creepy e-mails, or the girls expecting them to only make fun of them behind the computer.....Though POF isn't toooooo bad; Ok cupid is the worst.

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      Max57221 6 years ago

      Listen up guys, like I said in my prior post, if you are a GOOD GUY looking for a GOOD WOMAN plentyoftrash is not for you, try and find another site, a more prestigous site, think about it gentleman? the site is simple to navigate and free to join, so you have to look at it as a scrap heep, atleast that is how I do, these pretty blonde bimbos you see that say they are driven, successful, ambitous, well educated, well travelled-ON A SUCKERS BANK ACCOUNT, witty, are full of shit! even if they are not full of shit. Why would a successful beautiful woman be on such a bottom of the barrel site? Ha these pretty bitches can meet men anywhere! I see so many pretty well dressed phony model cunts on there everywhere I look. I used to email lots of them only to get no responses.

      Listen up gentlemen! if you just want to get in the sack with some of these cunts then you have to play the game! you want love and honesty? then meet someone another way. This site is too trash to be real.

      Make sure you post no more then four pics of yourself! four quality pics showing your personality, not some stupid bathroom pic with your shirt off, if you post pics with your shirt off make them only beach or pool pics where you are caught in motion showing your personality and your having fun, thats important to these stupid cunts. also SMILE! dont show off your dumb bike or fancy car! its stupid and these cunts are a step ahead of you suckers! If you are a highly successful man-80,000-100,000 a year income then you should not be on this site to begin with and you nee to be questioned! this site is for guys like me who hustle these cunts! you think I ever took one of those cunts out to dinner or for coffee? like 99% of them say in there date option! all you hear is the word CHEMISTRY from these cunts lol! its a bunch of bullshit brothers! I gaurantee you most suckers have heard that line after they forked over the dough for dinner and shit! and then when he gets home he texts her and she avoids him or tells him there was no CHEMISTRY and he is a nice guy but no thanks, these cunts have suckers lined up so the next day it is another sucker to take the cunt to dinner because she is starving and cant cook and bullshits how she goes to school for her phd or some bullshit excuse that a true mack can see through. I never message any cunts on there I let them message me because when these cunts message me to meet or just a message then that to me means she wants to me to f*ck her, and I do most of the times:) You are wasting your time if you send out messages expecting responses unless you portray yourself as gold! I go for the 37-up for woman I like them older and with money and their shit together and they always want to fuck, first night! if you want this bitch to be your woman then you are asking for trouble! I just want sex and I act like I want a relationship. I never give these bitches my real num,ber, only the disposable!

      Let me tell you! some of the cunts have two and three profiles! one of them being the main one with info and pics then they will have another two maybe, one with no pics, these cunts will start talking to you then have another pretty cunt message you to try and fool you! so many suckers are falling into different kinds of traps on that site! These gold diggers are so easy to spot! fuck! thes cunts look good! they always show some glamorous pictures of themselves doing something in another country, fancy clubs, on expensive yachts, in mansions, 99% of the time that is bullshit! these are hookers basically doing all of this shit on a rich old ugly motherf*ckers money lol. they say they want a man who is, Kind?, what does a kind guy do? lol, they say they want a guy who knows how to treat a lady? lol, they say they wany a guy who is well travelled? lol, these kinds of guys if they are on plentyoffish have diseases or some big fucking problems to be slumming on that site. SHAME ON YOU! just get a nice call girl fuck, you cheap asses, then the assholes end up paying through their noses for these lying broke cunts lavish lifestyle lol. THAT IS WHY SO MANY GUYS COMPLAIN ABOUT THE CUNTS HAVING UNREALISTIC VIEWS AND WANTS.! Your just looking to f*ck a couple of times then dissappear! I love hanging out in the cunts condos and taking the suckers cars for spins:))

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      Andy k 6 years ago

      hi i,ve just deleted my account on pof because there is so many stupid people on here. I,m just a normal guy and was on pof for 2 years. you are better of just meeting people in the normal way, good luck

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      Marcio 6 years ago

      I'm glad I've found this blog to express my opinions about this phony site. I created a profile on here 5 months ago and it's been a struggle ever since. I did meet a gal on here and we ended up in a somewhat relationship and I just broke it off with her a few days ago.

      This girl was so emotionally unstable and always caused drama and never took blame for her fault. As she was always the one creating drama and made me look like I was the one who had the issues. I've never dated such a manipulative woman in my life.

      This has got to be the worst relationship I've ever had and I'm 36 yrs old. I've dated over 600 woman since I was 18 and this girl topped them and it happened to be the only gal I met from a dating web site and it was POF. I've always met girls from friends, out and about or at bars. I decided to finally try POF as a few guy friends said that they've hooked up with girls from here so I figured why not.

      Fellas just to let you know, this gal was latino and from Colombia. She was the biggest freeloader and user I've ever came across. She said that I had to pay her bills if I was to tell her what to do. She said she expects a man to pay for everything and that she didn't want to work full time ever. She only worked 15hrs a week and always had the excuse that she was going back to school. But said that after she goes to school she then wants a kid. That's why she could only work part time to have an open schedule for school. That was a lie and the excuses for not going to school were getting old.

      I've spent so much money on her for dinners and going places it was a joke. She kept saying she wanted to get married and have a kid. But she wanted to party all the time like a 21 yr old and showed no signs of wanting to settle down. She was bi-polar, moody, manipulative, gold digger, broke and a player. She always had her phone on silent and turned upside down. She would never leave her phone anywhere in her place. It would go with her to the shower, bathroom or to take her dog to go pee. It doesn't get any shadier than this. I would ask her why she never has her phone on and why it's always upside down and she would say I was insecure. That's a good one, really!

      The chemistry was great and so was the sex so I put up with her bs way longer than I should of. She would break up with me every other day expecting me to chase her. I did not fall into her trap of chasing her and just ignored her which in turn she would end up calling me and want me back the next day. She would claim if we were to hang out again, then it would just be friends with benefits. I said fine, then she would act like we were in a relationship the next day. This woman was insane and drove me to the point of craziness. She finally disrespected me to the point of no return so I left her for good. Then of course I have been getting psycho texts of name calling of the worse things you could imagine for hours at a time for 3 days in a row. So that relationship is done for good now.

      So I went back on pof looking for new prospects. I'm sure you're asking why bother going back on this site? I wasn't going to let her win and keep me from dating more woman online.

      For the last week I have been emailing lots of woman on pof. I only go after the very attractive ones as I've a very attractive male. I've always dated 9s and 10's because that's my caliber. I have emailed at least 40 women in the Seattle area within a 50 mile radius. I have not got any responses from these woman which I could not understand. Like I've read in some of these posts on here, all these woman have unrealistic expectations and have kids at the same time. A woman with 1 or more kids in not in any position to be that picky. I've emailed woman that are hot who have 2 kids and no responses. I was just shocked why no responses. I also noticed that Markus the owner is not charging to see who's read your emails, what a joke. He's charging 8 cents to see who's read each email. Here is what it says when you click on who's read you email.

      I'm glad I've found this blog to express my opinions about this phony site. I created a profile on here 5 months ago and it's been a struggle ever since. I did meet a gal on here and we ended up in a somewhat relationship and I just broke it off with her a few days ago.

      This girl was so emotionally unstable and always caused drama and never took blame for her fault. As she was always the one creating drama and made me look like I was the one who had the issues. I've never dated such a manipulative woman in my life.

      This has got to be the worst relationship I've ever had and I'm 36 yrs old. I've dated over 600 woman since I was 18 and this girl topped them and it happened to be the only gal I met from a dating web site and it was POF. I've always met girls from friends, out and about or at bars. I decided to finally try POF as a few guy friends said that they've hooked up with girls from here so I figured why not.

      Fellas just to let you know, this gal was latino and from Colombia. She was the biggest freeloader and user I've ever came across. She said that I had to pay her bills if I was to tell her what to do. She said she expects a man to pay for everything and that she didn't want to work full time ever. She only worked 15hrs a week and always had the excuse that she was going back to school. But said that after she goes to school she then wants a kid. That's why she could only work part time to have an open schedule for school. That was a lie and the excuses for not going to school were getting old.

      I've spent so much money on her for dinners and going places it was a joke. She kept saying she wanted to get married and have a kid. But she wanted to party all the time like a 21 yr old and showed no signs of wanting to settle down. She was bi-polar, moody, manipulative, gold digger, broke and a player. She always had her phone on silent and turned upside down. She would never leave her phone anywhere in her place. It would go with her to the shower, bathroom or to take her dog to go pee. It doesn't get any shadier than this. I would ask her why she never has her phone on and why it's always upside down and she would say I was insecure. That's a good one, really!

      The chemistry was great and so was the sex so I put up with her bs way longer than I should of. She would break up with me every other day expecting me to chase her. I did not fall into her trap of chasing her and just ignored her which in turn she would end up calling me and want me back the next day. She would claim if we were to hang out again, then it would just be friends with benefits. I said fine, then she would act like we were in a relationship the next day. This woman was insane and drove me to the point of craziness. She finally disrespected me to the point of no return so I left her for good. Then of course I have been getting psycho texts of name calling of the worse things you could imagine for hours at a time for 3 days in a row. So that relationship is done for good now.

      So I went back on pof looking for new prospects. I'm sure you're asking why bother going back on this site? I wasn't going to let her win and keep me from dating more woman online.

      For the last week I have been emailing lots of woman on pof. I only go after the very attractive ones as I've a very attractive male. I've always dated 9s and 10's because that's my caliber. I have emailed at least 40 women in the Seattle area within a 50 mile radius. I have not got any responses from these woman which I could not understand. Like I've read in some of these posts on here, all these woman have unrealistic expectations and have kids at the same time. A woman with 1 or more kids in not in any position to be that picky. I've emailed woman that are hot who have 2 kids and no responses. I was just shocked why no responses. I also noticed that Markus the owner is not charging to see who's read your emails, what a joke. He's charging 8 cents to see who's read each email. You can als

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      Max57221 6 years ago

      Let me first start out by saying that I am a regular type guy, good looking as I have no problem meeting women in public, I make a modest living, single with no children I am in the maritime industry and I have my own place and I am content in life but apparently that is not good enough for these stuck up broads on plentoftrash. I mean who are these sad cunts kidding? you see words like generous, kind, knows how to treat a lady, financially secure, looking for a partner in crime, seeks chemistry. all of these words are code words gold diggers use to solicit desperate white collar men with money. If your are not white collar or do not portray yourself as white collar, over 6 feet tall and clean shaven and look like a f*g model then they will not give you the time of day on there.

      The kicker is these sluts have the nerve to post sleezy pics of themselves laying in their beds and what not but then have the nerve to say they are classy and have high standards yet they take pics of themselves holding their phone camera lol! This site is good if you want to lie your ass off just to get in the sack which is what I do on there. but if you are a good guy genuinely looking for love then you are in the wrong place. Your going to end up hurting in your wallet and your heart. I got one Caucasian cunt to believe I was an aspiring musician while she was a teacher and I was able to have sex with this woman a couple of times but as soon as she started digging into my personal life I bounced her shallow ass.

      Most woman on plentyoftrash are just bored, demented, bi polar nut cases who are just looking to be taken out to dinner on your money and then after dinner is done they tell you how they don't feel there is chemistry and there will be no second date after the sucker payed for their dinner they then find another asshole who is desperate and weak to pay for their dinner and coffee, I have more respect for a prostitute then some of the trash on plentyoftrash.

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      mlm 6 years ago

      What a relief to read these comments. Hands down plenty of perverts, plenty of jerks, or plenty of farts are on there. Here is my story:

      In 2008 I went on there for about 3 months. Back then It wasn't so bad. Yes, you have to weed through a lot. I met 2 nice decent guys, and 1 guy that was just flat out weird. Well, i didnt find what i was looking for back then.

      Fast-forward to now 2011. I joined last month and only lasted 3 weeks.Yes enough said. The ppl on there are heidious. Like someone said its a numbers game. I'd say 1 out of 50 are decent. Most of the guys on there are just there for sex. My profile had details of what I was looking for and not such as hook-ups, but to no avail, pervs kept filtering in somehow. I met 4 guys off there and the last one I met was enough for me to delete my account.

      2 out of the 4 guys came on real strongly on me as if it boarder on being sexually assaulted. I did nothing to lead them on. The other 2 guys were douche-bags. One wanted to borrow my car for the day.what the hell>?loser. The other guy I met said he had to go for a min and never came back. I mean come on and have the deceny to let the person u need to leave not lead them on. It seems that site is chalked full of players. I noticed when I was on there back in 08, the same guys are still on, and what's hilarious is they are also on other dating sites. What players.

      Seriously, if you go on there, please be careful. I feel the world/society is bringing out more nut-jobs. If you want a good laugh, then by all means its for you or if you feel like being abused, its all for u.

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      Matt 6 years ago

      ^^ see that's kind how POF runs it site.

      If you're a genuine girl you get a bunch of nonsense

      If you're a genuine guy you get nada.

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      cyberball 6 years ago

      My experience with plenty of fish was pretty boring and I have a few stories to tell. When I first joined I filled out all the profile stuff pretty completely and was very specific about my likes and dislikes.

      Then I started messaging male profiles with a view or hello, what I found was a few guys who actually had been on some dates already and had a very low expectation.

      I guess my photos is what got me the most attention, I ended up with hundreds of requests and I just did not have time to respond to them all.

      Out of the loads of responses I replied to 5 guys. The first one was really nice and sent me a message everyday and asked me how my day was and gave the impression he was such a gentlemen but after a few emails back and forth he stopped sending messages out of the blue, for what reason I don't know.

      The next guy was a real pervert he kept talking about how good was I at giving a blow*** and all his messages were x-rated. So I quickly deleted and blocked him from my inbox.

      The third guy was pretty intellegent and he tried to school me on the types of men that were on POF saying that I seemed like a decent girl and I should not waste my time. He lived in my area and gave me his phone number, I gave him a call and he said he was a police officer and that kind of freaked me out, but then he said he wanted to see me and that I could come over to his house for dinner. I declined because it was too soon to be in such intimate quarters without even going on a date. He kept texting me, leaving me messages and anytime I popped my head onto the dating site I would see his requests. It just got frustrating so I deleted my account and set up a new one.

      The 4th guy I talked to seemed normal and so we started texting each other back and forth and then one night he texted me and wanted to know everything about me but I learned the hard way that it is best to keep some information to yourself.

      So I switched the script and asked him questions about himself and when I asked about his job he got all mad and called me a fake and a liar. WTF? I was really confused and tried to find out what he was so upset about and he said I was asking too many questions and I was pretending to be someone I was not.

      The last guy sent me a picture of himself on my phone and we actually talked on the phone not just texting. Before him all the other guys it was just instant messaging, texting and emails.

      This guy actually could hold a conversation on the phone and wanted to take me out to dinner and dancing which seems pretty cool idea until he said he worked for a magazine and wanted to take my picture.

      I let him know that I did not want my picture taken and he said he made lots of money as a club promoter and wanted to take me out to a nightclub and take my picture.

      After several phone conversations and him trying to get me to come out to a club I just decided I was not ready for the party lifestyle. He kept texting, calling and wanted my Facebook ID, boy am I glad I did not give it to him.

      Okay it really is not worth it. I thought it would be easier to meet someone on the internet but it is just a waste of time, it would be better just to meet someone in a bookstore or something.

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      Matt 6 years ago

      I recently rejoined this site a couple weeks ago. I'm a 28 year old single male just for reference that's new to the dating circle.

      The problem with this site is that in my eyes it seems designed to keep people fishing for as long as possible. It doesn't seem like the sit even cares that much if ppl actually find a lasting relationship or note. Many of the forums "veterans" are middle to older aged ppl whom have been divorced a few times and are still "dating". I don't know about you, but I don't mind dating for a little bit until I learn my away around the whole love game. But I eventually do want to settle down with someone, if I’m in my late 40's/50's and either divorced or still single, I’m not going to be giving out dating tips to anyone or at least not be smug about it.

      This is basically how it happens:

      A good chunk of the males on here are going to fall into one of the following categories - shy/new ppl/dating virgins or creeps/cheater/scammers.

      Legit guy cycle: 1. sends out crap messages >> 2. does research>> 3. refines message>> 4. still gets minimal responses>> 5. leaves site out of frustration>> 6. later comes back repeats steps 1-4> 7>>. goes to forum for advice, they advise him to change his profile>> 8.guy changes his profile 60 times until it's no longer resembles him anymore>>9. finally lands a date with a girl, she figures out he's completely different from his profile or a creep then gets pissed> rinse and repeat whole cycle

      legit girl cycle: 1. Gets blasted with 1024785 crap messages from shy/newbs/creeps/scammer >2. defenses and requirements go up> 3. girl finally finds a guy she think can work out, ends up he's not all like his profile or a scammer/creep> 4. defenses and requirement really go up and adds in "no games or stalker plz thx" >> 5. gets to the point where it's almost impossible for any guy to break through her defenses let alone a shy guy/dating newb.

      Solutions for POF:

      Put a minimum word amount for messages and have a better defaulted subject line. I've seen it suggested on their forums (they seem selective on what advice or who they listen to) and seen it work for other dating websites. Will help against scammers/creeps and force new ppl/shy ppl to send better quality messages for better results so they're not whining all the time on the forums :).

      Have a section devoted to both profiles and communication techniques, heck if it were me I'd throw in health/job/photo taking advice as well to help ppl's profiles really stand out. They have a profile reviews section and half the users use that for their "no reply back" problems, aka they have communication issues. The forum experts think those type of ppl can find all the answers on that through the search engine. Which can be like finding a "needle through a hay stack" and a lot of the threads are locked and not labeled as such.

      I actually had to go outside of their site and Google useful communication techniques as their search engine is just too much of a mess. The forum moderators will be really strict with their users and grumpingly reroute them to their FAQS, meanwhile their FAQS will have broken links which just redirect you to the forum directory instead of where it’s supposed to go.

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      elaine 6 years ago

      I was on Plenty Of Fish for a while, and I can testify that for sure, that Markus guy, owner of Plenty Of Fish, does not care about the safety of the women on his site at all!!! All he cares about is his pocket book and how much he's making. I went on a date with a really good-looking guy, who turned out to be a total creep. I went out with him 3 times in total. On the 3rd date, we went back to his place. His apartment had pictures of several of his ex-girlfriends with their eyes plucked out! Needless to say, I got totally creeped out, made an excuse to leave, and I never went out with him again. But he kept on calling me and harrassing me. And even wrote me harassing emails through that site. I reported this Markus, forwarding the harassing emails to him as evidence, and you know what happened? He kicked ME off the site!!! And that guy is still on there!!!! And you believe that BS???

      I read in one of the newspapers somewhere that the Orangeville woman who was murdered might've met her killer on Plenty Of Fish. However, Markus claims that the Orangeville woman was off his site when she was murdered. Honestly, I wouldn't believe a single word that guy says. He's probably lying in order to protect his pocketbook and his stupid site. I hope the police doesn't believe that guy. That guy's a moron and his site should be shut down. And I hope that it does get shut down, for the safety of all women!!!

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      well done 6 years ago

      I'll bet most of these posters are the exact type of losers they actually talk about!

      Most of the comments are stupid - you odnt seem to realise its just all your own personal interpretations. you REALLY have NO CLUE what the other person rejecting you online is actually doing or thinking. there are a lot of subcultures using dating sites - popel will have various agendas that most fo you couldnt begin to imagine (unless you are a posychologist maybe)

      But the most iportant things is - POF is no diffrent to any other dating site. Surely you see its the SAME people across all the sites?

      Im not tall or good looking but I dont find it hard ot get meets off POF. And its free. And so......what more do you want? I mean really, go a pay $100 subs to a paid site - ITS THE SAME PEOPLE AS ON POF!!!! Geez.

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      Nancy 6 years ago

      I was on and off POF for about 3.5 years. It wasn't the only site I used but it was the worst in terms of representing everything about online dating that is difficult and discouraging. Yes, lots of married guys. Or guys who are otherwise attached. Scammers. Single guys who are in love with the idea of a relationship but don't actually want to have one. And guys just looking for sex. And crazy guys. I know that there is a similar set of problems for guys (gold-diggers and scammers and girls looking for free dinners) but I am writing from my perspective. Making my way in the offline world now. All I have to thank POF for is confirming the suspicions I had going in about online dating. I was told not to look for love in my real, non-virtual life (i.e work), but that is where it was. Online dating is as bad as I thought it would be, and anyone - male or female - who manages to find love there is extremely lucky. The odds are not in your favor.

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      ???? 6 years ago

      Markus what I lost? I met one of your nigerian spammers on pof!!!

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      Shrimp The Brit 6 years ago

      One thing I know for sure: POF shows users as being online when in fact they are NOT online. I know two men on there and have asked them both about seeing them online. Both of them told me that they are not online when the site claims they are. One guy said 'it's a fake promo thing to make the sit elook more active than it actually is". Neither of these men know each other so I think it's true.

      Also, on another POF complaint board, a man was saying that someone saw him online when he actually had not been online for quite some time.

      I met one man from POF and he seemed great until we had a fight. Then the truth about his life came out. I eventually broke it off because it was difficult for us to get together....I was living with a female friend,m unfortunately, helping her out, and he and I had no privacy. He, incredibly, is in his forties and lives with family, so we couldn't go there. We ended up talling alot on the phone and he seemed sex-obsessed and scared me off.

      We were briefly in touch recently, as I called him even though I'm the one who broke it off. He responded in a flurry of calls. I told him I was finally getting my own apartment again, something he had been pushing for. He claimed to not have been touched by anyone since me and sounded excited about starting over. Then he suddenly said he was scared and disappeared.

      I've left a few messages and he refuses to pick up the phone. Guess maybe he'll turn up because he knows my move date and maybe is just holding back until then. Who the hell knows. I have alot of problems in trusting men in general and this eroded my soul.

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      maryrose 6 years ago

      I am fed up with Plenty of Fish also, there are so many perverts on here that talk like they are the best people ever until you talk on the phone to then and then they turn in to perverts. Thenif you turn them in or REPORT them they turn on you and say you are a stalker or lieing aout them and women on there don't have enough sence than to believe them... I tried to warn them and so did others but they contacted him and told him insted of finding out for themselves, and now the women he verbily abused and was a pervert to he says they are lieing about him. I reported him a couple times and some women I talked to say they reported him but HE is still on there SELLING BOOKS so he says. ANd lieing he was so vulger and tries to get you to do things to Yourself while he talks you through it, lol ANd if you don't he gets mad His profile name is Danhandy from Kingsport, A man tired to warn them because his sister was abused by this man and they took him off instead of Danhandy!! Do you want to be subjected to this type of man he should be put on the SEX site only if the POF site is so desperate to have this kind of man on their site.

      And then they let him lie about some woman saying SHE was stalking him and lieing aout him..Because he wasn't interested in him.. Who would be interested in him except a slut so you be the judge and don't believe evrything these so called MEN write about themselves. He told me if what he said to me got out his reputation would be ruined and he would do anything to stop that from happening.....He lives in public housing and only draws 600 a month so he told me and is sick with Cancer and COPD and some other illnesses.....This man should NOT be allowed on this site to abuse women OH YES He also HATES FAT women....

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      gg 6 years ago

      lol, still here...

      OK, revamped my profile: better pics + better about me section by miles. Now, I am getting some validation that my profile is indeed alright by at least some 1st contact messages.

      ... the big problem: I just don't find any of those that do contact, add to wantstomeet or faved me (in one case) attractive. Whilst I wont respond to a generic one liner from someone I'm not interested in, I have had some people write some thoughtful messages that would make me feel really guilty about not responding... so I usually say thanks and write a few lines... and they understand im not interested - so no need to ignore a thoughtful message.

      That said, whilst its nice to get some messages, they aren't going to lead to a date, because I'm not into them. I don't think my standards are too high. I have to be honest, it feels like all the ones I can be attracted to enough to date are hell to get the attention of on pof.

      I know its not all about looks, but you have to be attracted to your partner (at-least in the beginning, before attraction gets replaced by more permanent things).

      I still can send message after message with no response. It just gets read... and that's it. Its at a point where messaging is totally pointless.

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      TotallyAndrew23 6 years ago

      eh. Got the same treatment from MATCH.com. Online dating just sucks in general. Like when you go out, I don't think a girl would immediately alienate someone whereas online, they can delete an e-mail and pretend you don't exist. I can't wait for the beach weather!! :)

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      gg 6 years ago

      This has to be a set-up! This has to be about internet marketing more than online dating. I have my suspicions now that the site is deliberately set-up to keep people on the it, by ensuring that genuine women meet the players and genuine men meet nobody. I've wasted a lot of time on the site so far, with some, but very little progress. I keep emailing, but they get read... and I don't get a reply. I send a pic with each message, and my profile will get viewed, but still no reply.

      Maybe, like in the real world, most of these pof people aren't single themselves... maybe the women to men ratio is soooo small that they are permanently unavailable, even on a dating site! Where is all this male competition coming from? There is supposed to be roughly a 1:1 female:male ratio in the world. So, the only explanation must be that either Mr pof has the site set-up this way to keep us there, or there are a pile of guys on there who are already taken, but want more. I dont have any expectations above how well I could do in the real world, given a chance to meet a pile of single women.

      This sucks!

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      totallyandrew23 6 years ago

      Yeah it's pretty freakin crazy. They all judge on looks and it's pretty sad to be honest with you. I'm decent-looking with my own unique style, I loooove going to the gym and I shower of course :p When these girls say they want something different and someone steps up, they don't know what to do. Plus, it seems like they want the drama/crazy dudes because that's what they find exciting in their lives. To anyone new into a city, just meet people from work or join Match.com which im gonna do. Plentyoffish (and okcupid) is basically a hook-up/clicky/judge-only-on-pics website and it's really sad.

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      Karen 6 years ago

      This site is ridiculous! Have yet to meet a genuine guy on here! I get emails from men every once in awhile that I might be interested in, but after a few emails back and forth they usually just fall off the face of the earth. Guys on here constantly complain that women delete their emails and don't respond, well, when I try to be polite and let someone know I'm not interested, all I get is a rude comment back. Okay, so you sent me an email cuz you're interested and now suddenly because I rejected you, you make negative comments about how I look? Grow up! Lots of insecure, nut-job men on here. Beware ladies!

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      Mwaah x 6 years ago

      I got so fed up with plenty of fish that I went to this site. You can create a free profile. Hope you get as much out of is as I have :)

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      gg 6 years ago

      Still sending message after message with no reply, and the odd occasional read/deleted. Had one girl message me back after well over 20 days, with a nice enough reply with an xx on the end, saying she doesn't use pof much, which I know isn't quite true, but never-mind (she had read the message on the day it was sent). I guess she may be dating and keeping me on standby... who knows, but I did send a reply back and she read, but didn't then reply to that. I know online dating shouldn't be this hard!

      I don't expect even most girls to respond... but, I should be able to get a range of dates after sending out email after email. If its so hard to get 1 date, how on earth am I supposed to select the right one! This feels like such a waste of time! And its so hard to think of something good to write to someone with a few lines of text in their profile!

      Honestly, I can get more attention, without any effort, in a random club on one night than I can in 2 months on plenty offish! But I don't like the idea of going with a complete stranger in a club.

      Maybe my messages are lame... I have a bit that I do copy/paste, but then I add a bit about their profile to tailor it, but like I say - its hard to think of anything when their profile is short and generic.

      So, I have 8 wants to meet me (apparently), only 1 of which I'm attracted to. I have 2 first contact messages, both of which I'm not attracted to. After tons and tons of messages sent out, I have had one very late and brief reply, although it was pleasant. Plenty offish is right!

      Still just waiting for that 1 person who messages, attaches themselves to the meet me or messages me back that I can at-least be attracted to enough to see myself dating.

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      Lisa 6 years ago

      To the man with CP, you are continually getting banned from POF because you are not taking NO for an answer..when women dont want to see you anymore. You need to learn how to move on..your borderline stalking. You need a life.

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      sherry 6 years ago

      I think plentyoffish should be renamed to plenty of players..There are tons of them on there..

      I met a rotten player who is now going on his 5th year of being on the site..His old profile was Andy12345a and now he deleted it with a new profile ThomasTomi he is a liar and sadistic womanizer..His old profile said he is 39 but his new profile says he is 37? lol..

      His old profile he changed so many times it was ridiculous..When he first joined he said he was looking to date, then just before he delted that profile he said he didnt want anyone who was looking for a relationship to contact him.

      Now his new profile says he is looking for a relationship but he wants a woman with morals?

      If that was true then he would block married women and women looking for sex from contacting him but he isnt blocking them.. Any woman with some intelligence would notice that..He is using a different photo that he never used on his old profile but after meeting him I know for a fact it is the same guy..Many of those guys on that site have been on it for years and after awhile they delete the old profile, make a new one and subtract a few years off their age..lol..The site is a joke

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      Linda 6 years ago

      I met the love of my life on Match.com. A year later he broke my heart. He was not a handsome successful blonde hazel eyed man from France, but a black Nigerian scammer. I also met people on POF and one of them is a really nice normal guy . It is not the site that is to blame. Liars are everywhere and on every site. Have met some losers on POF, too, but met a guy on ZOOSK who presented well but who had a mouthful of broken rotten teeth...wanted to kiss me and couldn't understand why I said no. Still thinks he is quite a catch. So, good luck to us all.

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      gg 6 years ago

      well my 'wants to meet you list' is going up at about the rate of 1 a week. I've been on there 6 weeks now... and I have 6 on that list. There is still only 1 of them I would see myself approaching. Maybe if someone appears I could like, then I would send her a message (I'm not being picky here). My viewed me section can get 9-12 a day, no one contacts me.

      For me, sending out messages has been a total waste of time (a lot more than 30). I know some people get better results... but I have a theory (and its been said before) that this is a site for just good looking people (not average, not OK, not passable). I only got 1 first contact message... and it just happens to be from someone I could not be attracted to.

      I think it would be nice if people were just using a dating site because they aren't having success in the offline world. That might be because of lifestyle or living arrangements or even shyness approaching women/men, first off. Me for example: I live outside a main city and work in a company with mostly men in it, and I'm really not the kind of guy to start trying to chat-up a shopping assistant, librarian or other women I briefly come into contact with. A dating site seemed like the perfect solution.

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      Craig 6 years ago

      Yeah, I call it Plentyofflakes. I moved from New York to Texas and tried the stie to meet people. I met the following people:

      1) A 31-year-old who still partied like she was 18

      2) A woman who mentioned going out with one person who swiped her sunglasses, another who kept staring at the waitresses, and yet, blew me off for some guy she was attempting to try things with. She's still on the site, so I imagine it didn't work out. Her loss.

      3) Another party girl who mentions "this town is filled with cliques." Yet when I call her, she has the chatting skills of a mime.

      4) A lady who comes to the date 20 minutes late. When she arrives, she's talking on the phone, and spends the whole date talking about herself. Never even asks me about myself.

      5) Another woman whose teeth I have to pull to talk.

      It goes on and on. Bottom line: avoid Plentyofflakes. It's a waste of time, and the only people who show up on there are alcoholics and game players.

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      Andie 6 years ago

      I guess I won the lottery then, because I found someone that I'm actually going to spend the rest of my life with. I had no hope in the site whatsoever, I tried it just for the hell of it and to meet new people. I have made a few good friends off the site, and how my fiance and I met on the site is a complete fluke! We were totally out of each other's range but somehow we came across each other's profiles and started talking. I liked him from the start, and when we finally met in person (about 5-6 months after our first POF conversation) I knew he was the one I was going to spend the rest of my life with. But other than Casey, I've met some crazy horny men on there and that part I hated. I honestly like(d) it better than Zoosk, because I have no money. I'm a college student from a small town that is slowly dying... there are no jobs unless it's factory work or if you already have a degree. So POF was almost like a Godsend for me. Honestly, this was the single thing my ex did that was good was tell me about the site.

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      lisa 6 years ago

      I like POF and it does take awhile to warm up to on line chatting find its best if you message back and forth for a few weeks get to know about the other person and then decide to meet. Im happy with my life and when going on a date want to have fun and not make it out to be serious Lighhten up people besides what are your options meet someone at work in a bar etc... this way you can take time to express yourself and feel comfortable getting back into dating. Why stay lonely all your doing is getting older and if ya dont like what you see in the mirror change.

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      gg 6 years ago

      you have a point from a women dating experience on POF, but a man will experience a totally different one: a lot of us send out ton loads of emails and get zero response. Then women complain about the one liners and non-tailored emails (effectively spam advertising for a date... which I think is very sad). I do not do this.

      I have had 1 first contact email from a women on there and 3 women now clicked they wanted to meet me (one of which probably doesn't realize she already ignored my email over a week before, when I had a different profile name and another recent pic than I do now). It just goes to show how quickly women are to dismiss us guys on there.

      Don't get me wrong, I'm not blaming women-kind; rather I'm blaming the dating environment of online dating and human nature. These women are getting too many emails from guys, I believe. Maybe if they reduced the number of emails a guy can send in a day, that might stop all this rubbish.

      Then you say its free, but it isn't. There is the old saying "time is money".

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      Snobunny 6 years ago

      I'm reading alot of complaints and moans. Gheez, it's a free dating website. I'm disfigured from burns, don't struggle for offers in real world. I've had a lot of responses and been on a few dates, mixture of good/bad dates. reason i am on pof is live in a small city and stuck in a certain social circle and keep meeting same kinda guys or getting hit on by married men. Go on pof with no expectations and take things for what they are and stop taking it so seriously everyone!!

      Have fun or leave it alone

      x

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      Meredith_A_Iager 6 years ago from Maryland

      Thanks everyone for sharing experiences!!!!! Keep them coming!!!

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      gg 6 years ago

      update: now on 27 emails... and I'm beginning to see what I think will remain as a constant reoccurring pattern for me (inbox has no replies), if I let it!

      Some people above have said things like "if you don't do well in the ordinary world in a bar, then you'll suck on pof as well"... but Physical attractiveness alone goes beyond an unresponsive photograph, doesn't it? I mean, it's how you carry yourself, how you respond to them that can attract them... and its what you say and how you say it... and all of those things marry together with your looks to get the girl interested in you. Now, on POF you can't do any of those things, so its just about having near perfect features and looking good in a few photographs. Really, it makes it very hard to attract anyone for average looking blokes, up against stiff competition on there... so, it stands to reason, if the only way to utilise the full attractive potential on these women is to meet them in person... and they aren't going to reply to messages based on photos and text that is nothing special, then that possibility is not happening... and POF becomes a waste of time (big time). It took me rather a long time to write all those emails!

      I'm not emailing super attractive women, but just the ones I think there could be a spark if I met them in the real world. I've met women in the real world randomly, and looked into their eyes and we've been instantly attracted... but that same thing, for me, is totally absent on POF.

      People do OK on there though, make no mistake. I have a friend who isn't an amazing looking model... but he has had some response, at-least, and has even been on a few dates, but with women he didn't like in the end. He says his response rate is around 1/10 to emails though, so even he gets mostly ignored... but perhaps he's high enough up the looks order to get some action, atleast.

      So, I'll keep my POF open, but I'll just trawl around looking at women's profiles from time to time... and maybe if I see one a really, really like, I'll simply add her as fav... or I'll use the meet me feature. But I am definitely not going to be wasting my time writing those emails any-more.

      If you are doing well on POF, its probably because you're either rich or you have significantly above average looks. Fair play to you, and I wish you well.

      bottom line: the online dating game is a big competition in which you only get to compete on your looks. If you're not 7/10+ as an absolute minimum, then its a no go approaching any women other guys would hit on. I mean, 6/10 or 5/10... then you'll find it impossible going, getting all those read, but no response. You don't have to be a really ugly guy to score a zero on POF.

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      gg 6 years ago

      Well, I signed up to the site about a month ago to the day now. I have had loads and loads of views, one first contact message from a women I couldn't find attractive and one meet me from another women I could never find attractive, unfortunately. I have sent out at-least 16 emails and received a big fat zero back. I'm not a model type bloke, but generally at-least some girls have found me "cute" in the real world.

      In the real world I can drop subtle hints to girls and they will either respond a bit then shut me out... which is fine, or they'll return it.

      Just the way my life is, I have very little opportunity to meet new people. I'll tell you one thing... If I had 16 different girls to meet in the real world, I would do a lot better than on POF.

      I'm not going to blame the site or the girls... but somehow, its not working for me. I'm a nice guy, funny... I bet I would make a great partner for the right girl, but the only way to discover her is to meet a pile of potentials and date them in person... but then they aren't giving me that chance. They don't seem to realize that dating is part of the selection process; it isn't the one you selected. I only email the kind of girls I could probably attract in the real world. Shame. Its also smashing my ego a bit, to be honest.

      Hopefully it will pick-up or I will score a few dates at some point.

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      OkCupid FTW 6 years ago

      Worst forum moderators ever. Total fucktards. Don't even think about posting there.

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      michael  6 years ago

      ch 3rd, 2011 at 2:38 PM CST

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      The women on Plentyoffish are all about what a guy looks like.I am a 27 years old black guy. What I am about to say is the god honesty truth. I signed up on Plentyoffish a few years ago in 2004. Sent out like 40 to 60 emails to women and got like 2 replies back with just thank yous . Sent like 4 or 5 emails this one female because she really caught my interest and she email be back and said "" I am not interested and please stop before I block you!"" So I closed my account because I was having no luck at all. So to ease my mind from the bs. I began to do alot of weight lifting and running and aslo drinking alot of water. And I continue to do so for 6yrs hard as hell. And it paid out. My arms were cut and got bigger , chest caved in and now I have a six pack and developed thigh and calf muscles in my legs. It seem like I gained 2 to 3 inches in height. The summer of 2010 I got alot of tattoos done on my arms and chest. Some big some small. Got like 15 done , if you count one on my neck it be 16. Anyway I went back on the website withmy make over pictures. I was amazed , I was getting like 15 to 20 emails a day from women , black women and even women from different races. The funny part about it was some females that dissed me from the past that made the fist initiation to wanting to get to know me. Even the girl that said she was going to block me even emailed me. When I told about the past she played it like she didn't remember. So now I see that what all females want is a man trophy and want that man can supply them. They don't care about getting to know the person you are. Its messed up that the first thing a woman ask you is what type of work you do. Not what makes you happy , sad or cry.

      The women on Plentyoffish are all about what a guy looks like.I am a 27 years old black guy. What I am about to say is the god honesty truth. I signed up on Plentyoffish a few years ago in 2004. Sent out like 40 to 60 emails to women and got like 2 replies back with just thank yous . Sent like 4 or 5 emails this one female because she really caught my interest and she email be back and said "" I am not interested and please stop before I block you!"" So I closed my account because I was having no luck at all. So to ease my mind from the bs. I began to do alot of weight lifting and running and aslo drinking alot of water. And I continue to do so for 6yrs hard as hell. And it paid out. My arms were cut and got bigger , chest caved in and now I have a six pack and developed thigh and calf muscles in my legs. It seem like I gained 2 to 3 inches in height. The summer of 2010 I got alot of tattoos done on my arms and chest. Some big some small. Got like 15 done , if you count one on my neck it be 16. Anyway I went back on the website withmy make over pictures. I was amazed , I was getting like 15 to 20 emails a day from women , black women and even women from different races. The funny part about it was some females that dissed me from the past that made the fist initiation to wanting to get to know me. Even the girl that said she was going to block me even emailed me. When I told about the past she played it like she didn't remember. So now I see that what all females want is a man trophy and want that man can supply them. They don't care about getting to know the person you are.

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      Fred Beisswanger 6 years ago

      I have been getting this message that I have done something wrong, no detail is given what I did wrong. Being on POF is a great waste of my time, most woman come from broken marriages, divorced or separated, angry and bitter, unable to enter into a new relationship. I must have been 6 years on POF, in all this time I meet 2 woman, one was sleeping around and the other lied about wanting to see me again. I am not bitter I just let them go. Some woman are on POF looking for a penpal, I believed POF was a site to find a mate. The site is free but it is still a waste of my time. Most woman will not answer to an email, there are a few who say " thank you Fred". One woman freaked me out, she said she was a man before and if I would sell my mustang, there are a few things left yet before she is a complete woman. They say I have done something wrong, what hypocrites. May this be a wake-up call for all of you.

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      random 6 years ago

      UNKNOWN - you should list his name on the accounts so people can steer clear.

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      UNKNOWN 6 years ago

      My ex is on POF. He's got 2 profiles and is HPV positive. Have fun girls.

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      James 6 years ago

      I have only a few nice words to say about this site. The most good it's done was help me meet some new friends, but that's it, nothing considered a "relationship."

      A lot of the women on there have some unbelievably high standards for men. I am an average, artistic man and every time I sent a message, it either is disregarded or there's a rare chance someone might reply, but stop within a week.

      BTW, I met someone I'm about to start dating on FACEBOOK. Suck on that, POF.

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      Elaine 6 years ago

      Forget about POF and go on a descend site there are top rated dating sites such as E-Harmony and others. If, your just looking to get laid then POF is for you but, I pray your using some kind of protection judging from the horrible stories I read about the site from others most of them arent wrapped too tight so you make your bed and you lie in it. If, your seeking a good descend male/female go on a real site where they highly scan good people and no one's prefect but, at least you'll feel comfortable in speaking to someone on a paid site I met my husband 2 years ago on a top rated dating site and it's been great. Pay the money and dump this site.

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      rome2011 6 years ago

      there are three types of ppl who sign up to pof.com. 1) ppl who are shy and are afraid to ask ppl out on dates, 2) ppl who are busy with school or work, thus, have no time to date and, 3)ppl who are utter jerks, nobody wants their sorry asses, so they go to pof.com to find someone willing to deal with their garbage. The ppl I have met have either been ppl who have mental health problems, are high school drop-outs and or arrogant jerks looking for sex. you really got to be careful with pof. the majority of the ppl on there are absolutely disgusting.

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      Pacman 6 years ago

      Ok well it seems fake people have infiltrated this site to promote other paid sites I have had nothing but real fun times with members for free if I wanted to pay to meet someone id go to the strip club

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      Stacey Smith 6 years ago

      Okcupid.com isn't bad for a free site. The privacy is MUCH better, and it's more user friendly.

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      An Educated Observer: Edit 6 years ago

      Having read through many of these posts, I'm a little surprised to find so much negative commentary. The website has certainly evolved from its earliest stages: initially, when Lavalife was still a free service (with a far better GUI, more extensive screening protocols, and an admittedly more diverse user base), POF (with its slapdash architecture--last I checked, there were still several grammatical/spelling mistakes on its splash page) seemed to cater to a fairly homogeneous clientele; now it boasts remarkably broad demographics. Given its unprecedentedly large number of users (almost certainly a consequence of its being free to use), the site, predictably, offers something approaching a representative sampling of all types--the freaks, the fascinating, the damaged, the decent, the unemployed, the successful, the liars, the earnest, the educated, the illiterate, the attractive, the unattractive, the wafflers, the resolute etc--and as such might be seen to present reasonable cross-sections of the locales it serves. The claims on this forum that assert the site is populated with fake profiles and powered by bots are almost assuredly false. When I was active on the site, I averaged 10 messages a day; as generic as many of these were, with one or two exceptions, I always got follow-up emails to my responses. That said, I typically responded to one or two per day: people are generally pickier/feel empowered to be so when they are contacted; initiating contact yields a lower net result. The site's setup ensures that only those currently or recently online are pictured in the splash banners--most 'random' contacts occur as a result of having just logged on or having just changed one's profile. Since most people tend to make contact vis-a-vis these splash banners, it's a fair assumption that the person you just saw and saw fit to message (not through an advanced or general search) was indeed online when you messaged them, and as such you will typically get a near-immediate 'unread-deleted' or 'read-deleted' tag. Generally, people do respond to messages sent in response to a email indicating interest, so long as it is sent in a timely fashion and presents an image/conversational standard in line with the profile in which they've expressed interest. My success rate as an initiator of communication was considerably lower: I could generally expect a response rate of 1.25 in 3. It never occurred to me that the site might be powered by bots; experience has suggested that potential respondents were as real as I was.

      This is the first time I have offered commentary in an open forum. I opt to do so because my experience on POF has led me to agree in spirit but disagree in fact and principle with many of the complaints here posted. Many of my experiences on the site have been largely positive. I have found a (so far) successful long-term relationship by way of a POF-facilitated introduction, and similarly, I have met many interesting people from demographics that I would otherwise never have encountered. When I was dating (and had the luxury of a flexible schedule and time to spare), I averaged 6 dates a week--often I would meet two people in one day. Although most of the dates I had were disappointing, I viewed the screening process as necessary and roughly equivalent to the amount of disappointments I've had dating from face-to-face, barroom, and work-related encounters.

      The online dating scene is exceptionally cynical. It encourages serial dating, narcissism, disappointment, and other undesirable effects. So too does the bar scene, dating from casual, real-world acquaintance pools, and third-party hookups. What makes the online scene particularly troubling is that it provides an accelerated and exceptionally visible manifestation of ostensibly normal social relations. Online dating websites are tools. Those who can master their rhetoric, acquaint themselves with their quirks, and recognize their failings and opportunities will make the best use of them. Because these sites facilitate serial dating, encourage narcissistic behavior, and enable the naturally untrustworthy as well as the decent and well-intentioned, they inevitably provide a more concentrated experience of disappointment or elation as opposed to conventional means of meeting like-minded others.

      Still, the benefits are manifold. I often liken online dating to being a VIP at god's barroom. Despite the deceptions (old pictures, falsely stated convictions/intentions, etc) that the anonymous nature of the internet enables, one finds oneself empowered with a remarkable ability to separate the wheat from the chaff, provided one can read carefully between the lines (i.e. master the rhetoric) of the typical online profile. Imagine standing in a bar and asking everyone present who has a child, or is jobless, or lacks a high school education to step to the left of the room. Next weed out the age-inappropriate prospects; continue down your list of requirements, and you have a significantly reduced dating pool, and consequently, a better chance of meeting an appropriate mate. Inevitably, people lie, but nothing save experience will allow one to make the distinction.

      I have been on Lavalife, OKCupid, Casual Kiss, and EHarmony. While the pay sites have the benefit that only those possessed of a credit card and the will to spend money to satisfy whatever compels them to date online, POF has MORE people. If you treat the site like an airport--that is, a cross-section of all walks of life--then you will enjoy greater success. There are all types represented; most of these will be unsavory, ill-intentioned, and cruel. A precious few will be interesting, interested, and compatible. I advise you all to give the site another chance, and this time, pay more careful attention to how you represent yourselves, what limits you place on messaging, etc. Bear in mind that the majority of complainants on this forum have similar complaints. If you can see through the equivocations and questionable motives of others, you might just find someone like yourself.

      Cheers,

      A well-researched and enthusiastic observer

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      An Educated Observer 6 years ago

      Having read through many of these posts, I'm a little surprised to find so much negative commentary. The website has certainly evolved from its earliest stages: initially, when Lavalife was still a free service (with a far better GUI, more extensive screening protocols, and an admittedly more diverse user base), POF (with its slapdash architecture--last I checked, there were still several grammatical/spelling mistakes on its splash page) seemed to cater to a fairly homogeneous clientele; now it boasts remarkably broad demographics. Given its unprecedentedly large number of users (almost certainly a consequence of its being free to use), the site, predictably, offers something approaching a representative sampling of all types--the freaks, the fascinating, the damaged, the decent, the unemployed, the successful, the liars, the earnest, the educated, the illiterate, the attractive, the unattractive, the wafflers, the resolute etc--and as such might be seen to present reasonable cross-sections of the locales it serves. The claims on this forum that assert the site is populated with fake profiles and powered by bots are almost assuredly false. When I was active on the site, I averaged 10 messages a day; as generic as many of these were, with one or two exceptions, I always got follow-up emails to my responses. That said, I typically responded to one or two per day: people are generally pickier/feel empowered to be so when they are contacted; initiating contact yields a lower net result. The site's setup ensures that only those currently or recently online are pictured in the splash banners--most 'random' contacts occur as a result of having just logged on or having just changed one's profile. Since most people tend to make contact vis-a-vis these splash banners, it's a fair assumption that the person you just saw and saw fit to message (not through an advanced or general search) was indeed online when you messaged them, and such you will typically get a near-immediate 'unread-deleted' or 'read-deleted' tag. Generally, people do respond to messages sent in response to a email indicating interest, so long as it is sent in a timely fashion and presents an image/conversational standard in line with the profile in which they've expressed interest. My success rate as an initiator of communication was considerably lower: I could generally expect a response rate of 1.25 in 3. It never occurred to me that the site might be powered by bots; experience has suggested that potential respondents were as real as I was.

      This is the first time I have offered commentary in an open forum. I opt to do so because my experience on POF has led me to agree in spirit but disagree in fact and principle with many of the complaints here posted. Many of my experiences on the site have been largely positive. I have found a (so far) successful long-term relationship by way of a POF-facilitated introduction, and similarly, I have met many interesting people from demographics that I would otherwise never have encountered. When I was dating (and had the luxury of a flexible schedule and time to spare), I averaged 6 dates a week--often I would meet two people in one day. Although most of the dates I had were disappointing, I viewed the screening process as necessary and roughly equivalent to the amount of disappointments I've had dating from face-to-face, barroom, and work-related encounters.

      The online dating scene is exceptionally cynical. It encourages serial dating, narcissism, disappointment, and other undesirable effects. So too does the bar scene, dating from casual, real-world acquaintance pools, and third-party hookups. What makes the online scene particularly troubling is that it provides an accelerated and exceptionally visible manifestation of ostensibly normal social relations. Online dating websites are tools. Those who can master their rhetoric, acquaint themselves with their quirks, and recognize their failings and opportunities will make the best use of them. Because these sites facilitate serial dating, encourage narcissistic behavior, and enable the naturally untrustworthy as well as the decent and well-intentioned, they inevitably provide a more concentrated experience of disappointment or elation as opposed to conventional means of meeting like-minded others.

      Still, the benefits are manifold. I often liken online dating to being a VIP at god's barroom. Despite the deceptions (old pictures, falsely stated convictions/intentions, etc) that the anonymous nature of the internet enables, one finds oneself empowered with a remarkable ability to separate the wheat from the chaff, provided one can read carefully between the lines (i.e. master the rhetoric) of the typical online profile. Imagine standing in a bar and asking everyone present who has a child, or is jobless, or lacks a high school education to step to the left of the room. Next weed out the age-inappropriate prospects; continue down your list of requirements, and you have a significantly reduced dating pool, and consequently, a better chance of meeting an appropriate mate. Inevitably, people lie, but nothing save experience will allow one to make the distinction.

      I have been on Lavalife, OKCupid, Casual Kiss, and EHarmony. While the pay sites have the benefit that only those possessed of a credit card and the will to spend money to satisfy whatever compels them to date online, POF has MORE people. If you treat the site like an airport--that is, a cross-section of all walks of life--then you will enjoy greater success. There are all types represented; most of these will be unsavory, ill-intentioned, and cruel. A precious few will be interesting, interested, and compatible. I advise you all to give the site another chance, and this time, pay more careful attention to how you represent yourselves, what limits you place on messaging, etc. Bear in mind that the majority of complainants on this forum have similar complaints. If you can see through the equivocations and questionable motives of others, you might just find someone like you.

      Cheers,

      A well-researched and enthusiastic observer

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      Davieboy 6 years ago

      A complete waste of time for anyone with an once of self-respect and dignity is what Plenty of fish is. As tina explains, "The expectations are so high and people are searching for supermodel and GQ guy types." If you want to find out who in your community to avoid when it comes to dating just enrol yourself in Plenty of fish for a while. When I met ladies none of them looked within 20 years of the pictures they used on their profiles. I really wanted to ask why they thought the hubby asked for a divorce in the first place but couldn't do it. Sad state of affairs there. Look at all of the dinky obscene sites he has advertised on his page. I'd go back for entertainment value but it's even to sad for that. Imagine me going on POF one afternoon and instead meeting a non POF lady climbing up The Grouse Grind instead later that same afternoon.

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      Fiona 6 years ago

      I joined plenty off fish and after about 2 weeks I caught onto to the fact is was just players, low life bottom of the sea men that were on it. It thought I managed to secure a date with the guy .. then after checking out him out in google found him to be slightly different. So then I realised he was a liar. Its not the fault of plenty of fish its society as a whole. Everyone needs to just get out and have a life and hopefully meet somebody naturally. Its hard, its painful at times but its a lot better than getting your self esteem eroded by constantly getting rejected and messed about by the majority of people of these sites and in the long run its damaged to your soul.

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      SingleMash 6 years ago

      We're launching a new singles network called SingleMash. SingleMash is a new site which allows users to connect with other users with that single status in their area. The main reason behind this site is quite frankly, all the other free singles sites out there are rubbish. So we made a better one.

      It's completely free and our user base is growing rapidly within the UK.

      If you wish to sign up and have a browse then go to:

      www.singlemash.com

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      Bad Judgement 6 years ago

      This is to all the women out there..There is a guy on plenty of fish by the name of Sargent, he tells you he is in Army over in Iraq and gets out in 4mos. He sends you these most beautiful emails and really tries to make you melt. He goes as far as telling you he is in love with you, it goes on for a week or so and THEN HE ASKS YOU TO GO OPEN A CHECKING ACCOUNT FOR HIM!!!!! I USE TO WORK AT A BANK AND I AM TELLING YOU WOMEN OUT THERE DO NOT I REPEAT DO NOT OPEN A CHECKING ACCOUNT FOR ANYONE OR SEND THEM MONEY!!! THEY CAN DO FRAUDULENT THINGS AND YOU WILL BE HELD RESPONSIBLE AND CAN EVEN GO TO PRISON!!!!

      I WANTED TO TELL SOMEONE BUT DIDNT KNOW WHERE TO POST IT AND FOUND THIS SITE AND THOUGHT THIS WOULD BE A GREAT PLACE TO POST IT.

      As for the POF site, there are liars, weirdos, psychos, etc everywhere you just have filter thru them. You can even meet someone in person and they end up being all the above.

      JUST BE CAREFUL ON WHO YOU MEET AND WHO YOU GET SERIOUS WITH BECAUSE ITS NOT LIKE IT USE TO BE YEARS AGO.

      Good Luck to all!!

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      Trying it... 6 years ago

      Just looking for a hook-up ( no pun intended) site that does not charge. Not paying to date people or look at profiles. Read some comments but not judging this site just yet. Who knows.......Sam sure does!

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      Steve 6 years ago

      I've been on POF for quite a long while, and do agree it's hard connecting with the right woman... there's a low reply level, and yes, they do misrepresent themselves at times, or at least present their 'best' (old pics, head shots only, soft-focus and distance shots, etc.)... so while I have met some good ladies, they've always been a little of a disappointment. Yet I stay on in hopes of finding a nice lady who also is attractive. Not looking for the perfect match, but going without a match is better than a poor one :)

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      Brandi 6 years ago

      Plenty Offish. com lol

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      LEw 6 years ago

      Well All I have to say is that Internet Dating is B.S. Period. Out of all the other sites though....This one does not cost you a dime and the "quality of people" Are no less than those of ones that will cost you alot of wasted time and money!

      If you idiots think spending an hour on creating a profile and a 29.95 monthly deduction from your paycheck ensures a "better quality of people", Shame on YOU.

      At least with POF.....You can do what people are ALL on there to do, for FREE!

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      Online dating in Vegas from a woman's perspective - Thanks to all of the wonderful single men in Las Vegas. It's been great meeting you. 6 years ago

      LIFE IS SHORT. GO MAKE MORE FRIENDS.

      I think people get on dating websites with all of the wrong expectations.

      Yes, there are liars, cheats, thiefs, prostitutes, pimps, drug dealers, pedophiles, serial killers, people who would greatly benefit from psychiatric services, married people posing as single people, and people who are just plain not grown up enough to be seeking any kind of human contact whatsoever. And yes, some of these people have emailed me on dating websites. But I haven't actually met any of those people in person. All of the people I have met are very normal people.

      I've been on Plenty of Fish for five months and I have met a lot of great guys. I see POF as pretty much the same as Match.com because the same guys are on both websites. Far more have asked me out on Plenty of Fish though and I've made a lot of friends that are fun to go do things with.

      I don't go meet guys with the expectation that they are going to be Mr. IT for me and I seem to attract guys who are like minded. We're both hoping to meet people who are interested in relating to someone as a person, enjoying that person's company, and enjoying the activities that your local area has to offer. To me, that is the definition of dating and also the definition of life. Enjoy what you're doing and enjoy the company of the people who are gracious enough to be there with you.

      I still go do stuff with many of the guys that I met on Plenty of Fish months ago. No, we turned out to not be a romantic match, but they're still wonderful men. They don't want to go do stuff all by themselves anymore than I do and are just as happy for the company as I am. I love it when they call and ask if I'll go to their office party with them or they say that they're bored and want to catch a movie or go listen to a new band, or they're finally brave enough to try salsa dancing or ice skating, or they're dying to go hiking, or they're going out with their friends and they just want me to go along, or....whatever.

      I get to meet their friends and they get to meet mine and sometimes there are new connections made through these mutual friends. Which is kinda how it's all supposed to work, right?

      Think about it, our daily routines just don't expose us to that many different people. Plenty of Fish is a great way to meet people you would otherwise never ever get to meet.

      Stop looking for your one and only and just start meeting people who share your interests or who maybe can teach you something. Enjoy them as people, not as your "potential" anything. No, they may not be the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, but their friend, relative, or colleague just might be. :)