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Protect Yourself From Gold Diggers
stop attracting gold diggers
How do you stop attracting gold diggers? I would say you have attracted a gold digger if you have showed your wallet off one to many times. Maybe you thought you had to impress this girl with how much money you make.
I have decided to write this, because I have seen it many times. I have had friends taken advantage of, and wonder what happened. Well, the answer to this is simple. There are a couple of things you can do to protect yourself from gold diggers.
It may sound harsh, but the fact of the matter is, that if a man keeps flaunting money in my face, I kind of get annoyed. Women can see this behavior a mile away. The only fish you are going to catch with this method are the ones that like money.
Women that do not bite it when you do this are the ones that are not gold diggers. Start off by not flaunting your money. The money flaunt happens in several different ways:
He makes sure she sees the car. He might do this by going to the vehicle during a social setting, and retrieving information from the vehicle from her. In some instances, this is innocent, but I have seen it when it wasn’t. We can spot the difference.
Do not open your wallet and hand your money out
You are having a casual conversation, and you decide you want to boast a little about your money. I have seen this tactic more than once. He slips it in kind of like this :
“I enjoy my money more than my work…”
“I buy women whatever they want, I treat them good…
“Women use me for my money…”
There is more. What I have listed are just the main examples. If you say things like this, you are trying to attract a gold digger. I am not a gold digger, so I am not impressed with these types of statements, I am rather annoyed, and sometimes (depending on the content), insulted.
Here is a big one… Do not open your wallet and hand your money out. Yes, this too does happen more often than not. Some men actually feel the need to just hand money over and say, “here you go, buy something nice…” Yes, I have had this happen to me. I scratch my head, and try to figure out why this has happened. It is a man trying to impress a woman with money. I was not trying to get his money, and I again, felt insulted.
A person that is not a gold digger will keep dating you
If you throw bait out for a gold digger, she will bite. If you want to stop attracting gold diggers, use a different type of bait.
Stop talking about your money.
Dress casual; don’t become flamboyant in a million dollar suit, and keep the setting casual if you are going out.
Do not be fake. If you are a fake, you will attract a fake person.
Avoid talking about how much money you make. If you have to speak about your employment, and the question arises, try to be vague about what type of work you do.
If you follow the simple steps listed, you are well on your way to attracting the right type of person. Some people prefer gold diggers, and if that is the case, it is fine, as long as there are two parties agreeing, then it doesn’t really matter.
I am not trying to put gold diggers down, I am trying to help protect the possible naive person that keeps attracting that type, and doesn’t want to. Try not to be so clueless about your actions. Pay attention to what you are saying and doing.
You do not have to dress like a bum, but keep it casual. Dress causal, keep the restaurant casual, and keep the conversation casual.
Try not to discuss your employment, your money, your billion dollar car, or where you live at first. You can discuss this stuff later if you want. Don’t worry, if she is a gold digger, she will soon stop dating you if she doesn’t think you have money.
A person that is not a gold digger will keep dating you. When you are sure she is not looking for your wallet, and you really have a huge edge to talk about all of your riches, it is okay to do so, when you find out for sure that she is not a gold digger.