Why extra-marital relations
Life is changing at fast pace as change is law of nature. Change is inevitable and reality of life. Change is continuous and never ending process. We may or may not like to adopt change but we cannot restrain ourselves from change, as advancement in today’s technology is cause of change. Change is like running water, we can't hold it.
Marriage which is union of two to live and dwell together is also effected by change. As change leads to increase in expectations, manifestations, desires ,etc. People marry with big dreams in mind and when those dreams are not fulfilled they tend to get dis-hearted and thus start looking for the support from the outside world, where they cross their limits and stretch their boundaries for their comfort without thinking of results.
Love, affection, care which are important components in the marriage starts missing and loosing grip. As they start losing the importance of relationship. But then they start living life for family, kids ,society, friends and people around them or where they dwell in, as they start thinking what they will think, and start taking it as family obligation on shoulder to be fulfilled.
It is worst in Indian customary few people are married with parents choice so they can’t even say anyone anything or blame parents. They start feeling unhappy and unsatisfactory from their life which thus leads to extra marital relations. The main hidden cause of extra marital relations is lack of care, love, mutual understanding.
Exploring further we can say 'extra marital affair' is not new thing happening in our society. The idea generated the same moment, the concept of marriage came into being. Relation of marriage itself suggest a question, can there be a relation outside marriage ? In today's society we face this relation every second door. People are finding solace here and there, feeling relaxed for sometime but still our question is answered. Why extra marital relations exist ?
In some societies, people enter into marriage without understanding the true meaning of marriage. They do so simply as social custom, convention or duty towards family, parents or over all society. Such marriages are nothing more than 'an arrangement' to live together. Keeping aside the emotions, feelings, desires, dreams and possibilities of love make the so called marriages an 'unholy tie up'. As you can cut the wings but you can't kill the desire to fly, people stretch their wings across the sky without knowing limits. Here I am not supporting such relations outside marriage but I have few words to say that to understand 'extra marital relation' we need to understand the meaning of true marriage. Marriage is a pious relation only if both partner understand it's true meaning. Some time marriage is taken as bond between a male who is provider and protector and female who bear kids and manage kitchen. If the relation is not deep rooted in hearts and souls, caring for each others feelings, emotions, supporting physically as well emotionally, then no marriage can stop partner going out for other relations.
Unhappy marriageis the main reason behind 'extra marital affairs', it may be due to any further reason like incompatibility between the spouses, financial instability, abusive marriages, insecure family atmosphere. Although other reasons can't be ignored. Some time such relations start out of fun or flirt. Working conditions, professional similarities, business associations, materialistic targets can also create possibilities for such relations.
Reasons can be listed more and more but still 'love and affection' blended with some care and understanding can stop partners going beyond limits.
