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20 Reasons Why Dates Are Like Job Interviews

Updated on June 20, 2012
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Jeannie has been writing for HubPages for over 5 years. She covers a wide variety of topics—anything from hamsters to office work.


Getting Ready for the Big Day

You've put on your best outfit. You went through a lot of trouble to get your nails and hair looking perfect. Maybe you even bought some new jewelry or shoes for the occasion. You've been rehearsing what you are going to say. You check in the mirror one last time to make sure there is no food in between your teeth. Perhaps you even pop a breath mint in your mouth to ensure you have fresh breath. Now it is the time for the big moment! But the question is, are you going on a first date or are you going for a job interview? Chances are, there is very little difference!

If you are anything like me, maybe you've even been dating and going on a lot of job interviews during the same time period. Let me warn anyone out there reading this that really needs a job - there are a lot more available men out there than there are good jobs. Trust me on that one! Now, are there a lot more good men than available jobs? That is the question! But I am getting off track.

After a while, both dating and interviewing have started to merge in my mind. You might say I am crazy (you certainly wouldn't be the first), but the more dates and interviews I experience, the more I am positive they are pretty much the same thing. Let me list my reasons.

Reasons Why Dates Are Like Job Interviews

  1. You are probably wearing at least one item that is uncomfortable, and you have no intention of ever wearing it again should you see your potential employer or your date more often.
  2. You are typically on your best behavior. If food is offered in either situation, you are careful not to slurp or burp, if at all possible. Passing gas is the biggest no-no of all.
  3. If you really like the job or the person you are dating, you are going to present your skills in the best possible light.
  4. During the date or job interview, eye contact and reading body language is very important.
  5. Grabbing the other person and bringing up money is not appropriate during a first interview or a first date.
  6. It is best to try to stay awake during either situation when you first meet.
  7. You must at least pretend to care about what the person sitting across from you has to say.
  8. Bringing your children or your mother along in a date or interview situation will most likely kill your chances of getting a call back.
  9. It is important to show up on time. However, you don't want to show up too early because you will appear desperate.
  10. When going to an office or a home for the first time, you must assess the location and determine if you could spend a lot of time there in the future.
  11. Admitting you have 20 cats at home is going to kill the mood during a date or an interview. Smelling like you have 20 cats at home will probably end both the interview and the date pretty early.
  12. You are going to take a lot of time fussing over your outfit in either situation.
  13. Trash talking your former boss or your ex is probably going to end things quickly.
  14. You will sit across from your date or your potential employer and ask yourself if you can deal with that person on a regular basis.
  15. Saying goodbye is always completely awkward.
  16. After the date or the interview is over, you sit by the phone and hope for a call if everything went well.
  17. If things did not go well, you hope the phone never rings.
  18. After days go by, you start to call your own phone just make sure it works. You make excuses, but it looks like it is not going to happen for you.
  19. Your self-esteem might start to take a hit if you've been out on a lot of first dates, but no second dates, or if you've been to a lot of first interviews, but get no job offers.
  20. Eventually, after you've given up on a second date or a second interview, you decide you didn't like them that much anyway.


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    Jeannie InABottle 5 years ago from Baltimore, MD

    Thanks, Alecia! I definitely prefer interviews over dates though. Although the free food on a date is a nice touch. :-)

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    Alecia Murphy 5 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina

    This is very true. While I have experience with one more than the other, I can completely understand this. Great job!

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    Jeannie InABottle 5 years ago from Baltimore, MD

    maheshpatwal - You are so right. I think practice makes perfect when it comes to interviewing or dating. I used to be a pro-interviewer! Unfortunately this economy has me inexperienced since there is barely anything to even apply for now. I've never been a great dater though. :-)

    StellaSee - I think you are probably right. 85% has to be chemistry at the job interview. I've been to plenty of interviews and knew I was more than qualified for the job. But sometimes it just doesn't work out. If I feel awkward with them, I usually do not get a call back. Plus, I usually don't want a call back either!

    leann2800 - Yes, it is definitely hard finding both a good man and a good job. It would be exciting to even find one anytime soon. Hehe.

    Thanks everyone for reading my hub and posting comments!

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    leann2800 5 years ago

    Amen. Being interviewed and interviewing...I think it is harder getting dressed for a date than it is a job interview. I have spent more time in a mirrror for first dates and interviews.....And finding the right guy is as hard as finding a good job. You can get lots of bad ones but a good one...

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    StellaSee 5 years ago from California

    I agree with you Jeannie, after many interviews and from past jobs that I really enjoyed, I think working for a company/getting past the interview is kind of like a relationship match. I’ve had jobs that were kind of boring at times, but if you have fun, interesting and supportive co-workers it makes it worthwhile to show up to work everyday. I read somewhere that during an interview (unless the position is really technical or something like that) 85% of it counts on how well you have chemistry with the interviewer and the 15% is based on your skills and stuff you put on your resume.

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    maheshpatwal 5 years ago from MUMBAI

    Jeannie very nice humorous take on the interview and first date. The more job interviews you'll give / the more you go on dates , more are the chances of yours getting mastery of that particular art.

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    Jeannie InABottle 5 years ago from Baltimore, MD

    medcaribbeanskul - Dating can be so painful. Honestly, I would rather go to more job interviews. At least that ends quickly enough. Thanks for the votes!

    bravewarrior - You are so right... at least with a job you get paid and don't lose any money in the deal.

    aethelthryth - I am skeptical about the existence of decent guys or decent jobs. I don't think anyone likes dating!

    Byron Wolf - Hahaha... Yes, I sometimes sit by the phone after a date or an interview. The phone never rings when you do that. Thanks for the votes!

    nybride710 - Wow, two weeks of phone conversations without meeting can be annoying. Good call on telling him it was like an interview... that usually speeds the process along.

    randomcreative - Thanks so much! I am glad you liked it.

    Thanks everyone for the comments!

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    Rose Clearfield 5 years ago from Milwaukee, Wisconsin

    So true! Great job as always.

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    Lisa Kroulik 5 years ago from Minnesota

    I remember telling my now-husband that we had to meet pretty soon because I was starting to feel like I was on an extended job interview. We talked nearly every day on the phone for two weeks before meeting in person.

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    Byron Wolf 5 years ago

    Great insight there. I never put the two and two together, but you're right! They are pretty much the same.

    I love the part about calling your own phone after to check it's working. I think I actually did that waiting for a call back on a job once. :D

    Voted up.

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    aethelthryth 5 years ago from American Southwest

    I personally found it way easier to find a good job than a good man.

    I was sitting around with some men friends one time complaining about how not-fun dating is, and they all started saying how much they hated dating too. I was shocked, and told them, men at least need to like dating, or nobody will ever get asked out!

    I wonder if interviewers like interviews.

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    Shauna L Bowling 5 years ago from Central Florida

    Too funny, Jeanie! Unfortunately, the analogy is right on! Nice take. The only difference is, with a job you get paid. With a mate, often you pay and I don't just mean with your hard earned cash!

    I think I'll just stay home with my 20 cats and write!

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    medcaribbeanskul 5 years ago

    Funny take. Reminds me of my dating years when ALMOST all points here really hit the nerve (I don't have cats). thank you very much for sharing. This hub is worth voting all the way up

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    Jeannie InABottle 5 years ago from Baltimore, MD

    Yes, the more dates I go on, the more I feel like I am preparing for an interview process. Thanks for checking out my hub!

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    dotty1 5 years ago from In my world

    hehehe never thought of them like that before :)