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Is it Normal to Argue All the Time in a Relationship?

Updated on May 17, 2022
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Fernando is a millennial writer, natural philosopher, and Engineer looking to reinterpret social subtleties and add value.

You’re having a good day. Your spouse comes up to you and is having a crappy day. Something is out of the ordinary. An argument starts. She's tired of you. There is a disagreement. This begs a huge question in your mind. Is it normal to argue all the time in a relationship?

Is it Normal to Argue All the Time in a Relationship: Arguing

It’s healthy, but it’s not something you would want to do daily. And there are a few reasons why.

  • Arguments are stressful. Nobody likes to feel like there’s something wrong. Especially when your partner is coming at you.
  • They can be detrimental to the progress of the relationship. Hey, if someone’s a little under the weather, an argument could hurt the relationship. In fact, relationships usually don’t feel the same after so many arguments. So, if you truly had a choice, don’t argue.
  • They are not the same as discussions. Discussions – in all honesty – are much healthier for a relationship. Without any spite or aggressive tone, a couple can have a general discussion about anything they want to talk about. When you’re arguing with your partner, it’s just not the same.
  • There’s no guarantee they will be positive. Good luck if you’re having a bad day: arguments aren’t guaranteed to be pretty. Of course, they don’t alway have to be negative. It’s always best to try to stay as positive as possible. That’s why you need to be extra focused on positivity when they do arise.

Arguing has its drawbacks, especially when you and your partner can’t find a conclusion in a timely manner

Is it Normal to Argue All the Time in a Relationship: The Ill Received Message

The Ill Received Message

Just because you want to get your point across doesn’t mean it’ll be received accordingly. And just because your partner doesn’t agree with you doesn’t mean you have to agree to try something new. And this is the problem when it comes to these sorts of arguments: you just can’t find a middle ground. And this is the type of arguments that we all dread.

When you’re feeling under the weather – or your partner isn’t feeling too well – why argue? Save it for the morning. There’s no reason to give it your all on this day, and timing is key to a healthy argument.

Interestingly, arguing is as essential as it is bad. When you’re arguing with your significant other, it’s because something came up that you want to clear things up about. There is a disagreement between you two, and either one or both of you want it resolved. So, there’s nothing wrong with this. This is perfectly OK, and it happens in relationships all the time.

However, as mentioned before, it depends on the context and what’s going on at the time. You don’t want to do it all the time, and you want to be weary of your partners’ emotions and your own. After all, some partners just don’t have a filter and want to find some extra drama in their lives.

Is it Normal to Argue All the Time in a Relationship: What to Do

There are different forms of arguing, and not all of them are the healthiest for a relationship.

You recognize the issues and have acknowledged you have more power over your relationship than you think. The amount of influence your words have are both astounding and astonishing. If you are in the mood to destroy your partners’ feelings, you can choose to. If you want to build that person up, you may. Your partners’ feelings are in your hands. It’s debatable whether this is a good thing, as it’s usually for the better. But just remember that your partner is just as human as you are, and you need to take great care of that person’s feelings.

You are fully capable of turning your relationship into whatever you want. After all, the act of arguing isn’t the issue. It’s the resulting habit of how the couple deals with those issues and what comes out of it. As soon as you realize these things, you have already come far as an adult.

This content reflects the personal opinions of the author. It is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and should not be substituted for impartial fact or advice in legal, political, or personal matters.

© 2019 Ferny Vise


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