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Relationship issues with Dating
Relationships and dating experiences
Dating has changed over the years, and whether at school, or in the public place dating is approached in a different way.
However, many daters are still not sure how to go about their simple approach of dating.
When should an individual start dating?
Should you start at thirteen, fifteen or sixteen or should wait until you are twenty?
Everybody has their own views on dating.
You won't find a serious relationship at thirteen and what would you learn from that kind of a relationship?
It can be an experience to learn more about yourself, and to know the kind of partner you really need in much later in life.
Individuals should get into a relationship whether serious, or not to know and understand the actual meaning of a relationship before marriage.
It is not real dating at the age of thirteen, such thoughts also depends on different cultures.
If you choose to date at twenty it can be a long wait.
Also, you should be mature enough before you think of forming a relationship with someone.
At your teenage years dating sounds most normal, off-course it is not the same for everyone, some cultures don’t date. They have arranged marriages.
Those who date at the age of thirteen can be ridiculous. The many changes still to come are enormous.
Dating at thirteen does not always turn out to show a strong relationship.
It is more about immature thinking.
Dating at the age of eighteen is a different idea.
At this point in your life you are mature enough to understand the needs of a relationship.
Forming relationships while in high school or middle school don't always last forever. Love can fade in a few months and you can be alone very quickly.
A well-balanced and strong relationship can be formed at eighteen years old.
There again it depends on your lifestyle.
Some may think at seventeen years is the answer to dating and that it doesn't sound weird anymore.
The value of a relationship is seen more at seventeen and when older.
Experience is what makes any relationship work.
If you have more than two relationships before the age of twenty you can have an idea of what you actually want from a relationship.
You could be ready for finding the one in this way.
The chronological age does not give any one the right to date early. If you start dating early it can ruin you emotionally.
What matters the most when dating?
Dating when mature enough you would be able see the differences about a relationship and know what makes a relationship.
Dating as a teenager allows one to learn about trust, and individuals are wild about their crushes.
They tend to think about each other all the time. It is more like very good friends and sharing good times and some bad times too.
It is not much about the girlfriend and boyfriend thing instead more about two great friends.
Here, the boundaries are quite restricted.
The huge problem about dating is when your child starts to date without you knowing, that can stir up things a bit. Be open to communication at all times.
Dating at school.
You are sixteen and in love with a guy in your school. He made the first move; he kissed you but since then nothing!
What can you do?
You desperately want him to be yours but you don't know how to go about it. You also don't want him to think you are clingy and childish.
These are the little things about crushes and mixed emotions that individuals feel at this age; it is normal and is worth taking part in to make your life fun in the dating field.
You may wonder what kind of a guy is this who kisses you, and does nothing about it and doesn't come back to you.
Is he decent, sweet, someone who will make a good boyfriend, or is he the kind of guy who kisses a girl once then moves on to the next girl?
If you don't know, it should not be too hard to find out.
Everyone has a reputation of some sort, whether it is good or bad, so ask around.
Is he a nice guy?
He won't think of you a clingy or childish, if you smile chat and invite him around when you have a get-together with other kids of the same age group and from your school.
If he is the latter through perhaps it would be best to stay away.
Those guys usually spell trouble. No guy is perfect, also don't need some one as unnecessary as that troublesome kind in your life for now or later.
There is a girl at your school whom you are crazy about at first your relationship was great and you laughed and talked all the time.
Suddenly she started behaving as if you no longer exist.
The grapevine tells you she still likes you but somehow you feel confused about her behavior.
You have tried to talk to her but she won't give you the time of day.
What do you think is going on with her sudden change of behavior?
You can only guess without knowing of what is happening in her head.
Either you have done something that has given her huge offense to rack your brains, or she has gone off you. As harsh as that sounds she owes you a thorough explanation.
If she won't talk to you face-to-face send her message via cell phone, or call her for an answer. You deserve more than to be ignored.
What do you think of the following example?
You are in the seventh grade this year and you have a new teacher at your school that is quite young and very cute.
All the girls like him but you really think you are starting to fall in love with him.
You can't stop thinking about him and staring at him.
What should you do?
You have a crush on an older man and that is absolutely fine and perfectly normal.
You can in no way act on your feelings he is a grown-up and you are in primary school, after all.
Admire him from afar, but don't make a fool of yourself and try anything, okay?
It would be a total disaster.
You have finally met that guy you had your eye on him all this time at least for ages anyway you have his number. Great, you are over the first hurdle!
Now what are you supposed to do?
While some say the guy should be making the first move. You say it is the modern day, and girls are smart enough to take charge of their relationships.
When you are sending the first message from your cell phone you are basically setting the mood.
Don't get too full-on at the start.
Despite the fact you have been constantly daydreaming about him, keep it casual.
''Hi there, was nice to meet you, what are your plans for this weekend?
If you know a bit about him it is even better. Let us say he is mad about movies. Ask him if he wants to check out the latest blockbuster. Casual, upfront and is the nice way to go.
The Waiting Game
Your text has been carefully crafted. Full stop, phone book, find name, send. It is out of your hands and you are left waiting.
Just how long do you sit and ponder his lack of reply?
In a perfect world he would message you back right away but when he doesn't you are left wondering what went wrong.
Let us consider the possibilities. An hour or two and no reply, he is likely to be at a football game or having dinner with his parents. A day or two and no reply; he is probably run out of a phone card.
To message him or not to message him?
It depends whether you play hard to get. If you have established you like each other there is nothing embarrassing about sending a follow-up message.
Do you want to look desperate?
Avoid referring to your last message, asking if he received it, you will sound like his secretary or even worse, his mom.
The best is to drop the fact you are going to that concert or party at the weekend and ask him if he wants to join you. If you are again left waiting for a reply he is just plain rude.
Making a Date
If he has asked you out first you have definitely got one thing straight, he likes you.
Now you have to write back. It is that tricky mix of alluring unavailability and having free time to see him you want to master.
When he asks what you are up to at the weekend do you say ''nothing'' and sound like you have way too much free time.
Would you launch into an essay-length text about your plans, even if you have to make it all up, just to sound busy?
Decide when you are available and what your plans are and let him know.
Then pick a time and day and ask what his plans are. If Cupid has his way you will find the right time to meet.
Your phone beeps; you rush to your in-box and see his name next to the little envelope.
The message he has sent to you was meant to for someone else.
Do you reply, letting him know he has sent his message to the wrong number?
You may as well use this window of opportunity to get in contact with him.
Throw in a casual question at the end of your message and instigate some text banter.
You may even find yourself chatting to each other for hours later on.
Is dating at a young age worth all the emotional pain?
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