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Relationship Issues with Dating

Updated on October 19, 2016

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Relationships and Dating Experiences

Dating has changed over the years, and whether at school or in the public place and is approached so uniquely.

However, many daters are still not sure how to go about their simple approach.

  • When should an individual start dating?

  • Should you start at thirteen, fifteen or sixteen or should wait until you are twenty?

Everybody has their own views on dating.

  • You won't find a serious relationship at thirteen and what would you learn from that kind of a relationship?

It can be an experience to learn more about yourself, and to know the kind of partner you really need in much later in life.

  • Many individuals think they know what they want from dating but do they really know what they want?

Individuals should get into a relationship whether serious or not to know and understand the actual meaning of a relationship before marriage.

It is not real dating at the age of thirteen, such thoughts also depends on different cultures.

If you choose to date at twenty it can be a long wait.

Also, you should be mature enough before you think of forming a relationship.

At your teenage years dating sounds most normal, off-course it is not the same for everyone, some cultures don’t date at all.

Those who date at the age of thirteen can be ridiculous. The many changes still to come are enormous. Dating at thirteen does not always turn out to show a strong relationship.

It is more about immature thinking.

Dating at the age of eighteen is a different idea. At this point in your life you are mature enough to understand the needs of a relationship.

Forming relationships while in high school or middle school don't always last forever. Love can fade in a few months and you can be alone very quickly.

A well-balanced and strong relationship can be formed at eighteen years old. There again it depends on your lifestyle.

Some may think at seventeen years is the answer to dating and that it doesn't sound weird anymore.

The value of a relationship is seen more at seventeen and when older.

Experience is what makes any relationship work.

If you have more than two relationships before the age of twenty you can have an idea of what you actually want from a relationship.

You could be ready for finding the one in this way.

The chronological age does not give any one the right to date early. If you start dating early it can ruin you emotionally.

  • What matters the most when dating?

Dating when mature enough you would be able see the differences about a relationship and know what makes a relationship.

Dating as a teenager allows one to learn about trust, and individuals are wild about their crushes.

They tend to think about each other all the time. It is more like very good friends and sharing good times and some bad times too.

It is not much about the girlfriend and boyfriend thing instead more about two great friends.

Here, the boundaries are quite restricted.

The huge problem about dating is when your child starts to date without you knowing, that can stir up things a bit. Be open to communication.

  • Dating at school.

You are sixteen and in love with a guy in your school. He made the first move; he kissed you but since then nothing!

  • What can you do?

You desperately want him to be yours but you don't know how to go about it. You also don't want him to think you are clingy and childish.

These are the little things about crushes and mixed emotions that individuals feel at this age; it is normal and is worth taking part in to make your life fun in the dating field.

You may wonder what kind of a guy is this who kisses you, and does nothing about it and doesn't come back to you.

Is he decent, sweet, someone who will make a good boyfriend or is he the kind of guy who kisses a girl once then moves on to the next girl?

If you don't know, it should not be too hard to find out.

Everyone has a reputation of some sort, whether it is good or bad, so ask around.

  • Is he a nice guy?

He won't think of you a clingy or childish, if you smile chat and invite him around when you have a get-together with other kids of the same age group and from your school.

If he is the latter through perhaps it would be best to stay away.

Those guys usually spell trouble. No guy is perfect, also don't need some one as unnecessary as that troublesome kind in your life for now or later.

  • An example:

There is a girl at your school whom you are crazy about at first your relationship was great and you laughed and talked all the time.

Suddenly she started behaving as if you no longer exist. The grapevine tells you she still likes you but somehow you feel confused about her behavior. You have tried to talk to her but she won't give you the time of day.

  • What do you think is going on with her sudden change of behavior?

You can only guess without knowing of what is happening in her head.

Either you have done something that has given her huge offense to rack your brains, or she has gone off you. As harsh as that sounds she owes you a thorough explanation.

If she won't talk to you face-to-face send her message via cell phone, or call her for an answer. You deserve more than to be ignored.

  • What do you think of the following example?

You are in the seventh grade this year and you have a new teacher at your school that is quite young and very cute.

All the girls like him but you really think you are starting to fall in love with him.

You can't stop thinking about him and staring at him.

  • What should you do?

Nothing more than you are doing now. You have a crush on an older man and that is absolutely fine and perfectly normal.

You can in no way act on your feelings he is a grown-up and you are in primary school, after all.

Admire him from afar, but don't make a fool of yourself and try anything, okay?

It would be a total disaster.

  • The Initiation

You have finally met that guy you had your eye on him all this time at least for ages anyway you have his number. Great, you are over the first hurdle.

  • Now what are you supposed to do?

While some say the guy should be making the first move. You say it is the modern day, and girls are smart enough to take charge of their relationships.

When you are sending the first message from your cell phone you are basically setting the mood. Don't get too full-on at the start.

Despite the fact you have been constantly daydreaming about him, keep it casual.

  • ''Hi there, was nice to meet you, what are your plans for this weekend?

If you know a bit about him it is even better. Let us say he is mad about movies. Ask him if he wants to check out the latest blockbuster. Casual, upfront and is the nice way to go.

  • The Waiting Game

Your text has been carefully crafted. Full stop, phone book, find name, send. It is out of your hands and you are left waiting.

  • Just how long do you sit and ponder his lack of reply?

In a perfect world he would message you back right away but when he doesn't you are left wondering what went wrong.

Let us consider the possibilities. An hour or two and no reply, he is likely to be at a football game or having dinner with his parents. A day or two and no reply; he is probably run out of a phone card.

  • To message him or not to message him?

It depends whether you play hard to get. If you have established you like each other there is nothing embarrassing about sending a follow-up message.

Tread carefully!

  • Do you want to look desperate?

Avoid referring to your last message, asking if he received it, you will sound like his secretary or even worse, his mom.

The best is to drop the fact you are going to that concert or party at the weekend and ask him if he wants to join you. If you are again left waiting for a reply he is just plain rude.

  • Making a Date

If he has asked you out first you have definitely got one thing straight, he likes you.

  • Woo-hoo!

Now you have to write back. It is that tricky mix of alluring unavailability and having free time to see him you want to master.

When he asks what you are up to at the weekend do you say ''nothing'' and sound like you have way too much free time.

  • Would you launch into an essay-length text about your plans, even if you have to make it all up, just to sound busy?

Decide when you are available and what your plans are and let him know. Then pick a time and day and ask what his plans are. If Cupid has his way you will find the right time to meet.

  • Mistake Message

Your phone beeps; you rush to your in-box and see his name next to the little envelope.

  • Oops!

The message he has sent to you was meant to for someone else.

  • Do you reply, letting him know he has sent his message to the wrong number?

  • Yup!

You may as well use this window of opportunity to get in contact with him. Throw in a casual question at the end of your message and instigate some text banter. You may even find yourself chatting to each other for hours later on.

  • Is dating at a young age worth all the emotional pain?

At What Age Should You Start Dating?

Do you think thirteen is too young for Dating?

When do you think is the correct age for Dating?

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      moonlake thanks for the vote up and children are now thinking different and are doing things their way not giving themselves a chance to be mature enough to date so kind of you to comment on my hubs thanks for all comments

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      moonlake 3 years ago from America

      Very interesting. Enjoyed reading. Kids are dating to young now days. Voted up.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Shyron thanks for stopping by at my hubs and sharing your valuable thoughts I appreciate the votes up, interesting and shared so kind of you to make the time.

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      Shyron E Shenko 3 years ago from Texas

      Devika, this is very interesting. But, I think that most people have lost sight of the fact that dating is just getting to know each other, their likes, dislikes and beliefs; and becoming friends.

      Voted-up, interesting and shared.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Jackie Lynnley thanks for commenting glad you stopped by

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      CraftytotheCore great thoughts here from you and I am so glad to read another valuable comment from you thanks very much

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      Jackie Lynnley 3 years ago from The Beautiful South

      Teens need more active physical things to do together as a group in public places. They can have fun and flirt and not end up acting like adults, but then these things are just pushed right into their faces at such a young age even by parents it is no wonder things are as they are. Important message DDE. ^

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      CraftytotheCore 3 years ago

      Wonderful advice and useful information DDE! I hope for my children's sake they focus on education before they start getting involved in romantic relationships. My mother was 15 when she had me. I was 30 before starting a family.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      tillsontitan, you have a good point is different for every individual thanks for voted up, interesting and useful and for commenting.

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      Mary Craig 3 years ago from New York

      I don't think you can determine the age as a blanket determination. Each child is different, each situation is different, and the intensity is different. If you have a boy and girl dating at thirteen but its not a "serious relationship" to them, I see nothing wrong with it. On the other hand if you have two thirteen year olds who think their love is exclusive and they'll never date anyone else, that's a problem.

      Dating for young people should be fun. If it's too serious they need to wait. You've got some good information here.

      Voted up, useful, and interesting.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      FlourishAnyway so true why rush? So glad you came by and shared your helpful thoughts thanks for your continuous support.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello Colleen Swan so much has changed over the years about dating that nothing can really be said when it comes to dating children do whatever they want. The social networks are some of the biggest issues to deal with. Thanks for sharing your valuable comment

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Mhatter99 thanks for stopping by and have a good day.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi AliciaC so nice of you to share what on your mind about this topic thanks verymuch

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Faith Reaper, thanks for your vote up, and sharing, and more, I am so glad you came by and shared your views on on Relationship Issues with Dating.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      sheilamyers thanks for leaving your kind comment dating is a great experience and so much has changed

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi epbooks so true dating should definitely be at an older age thanks for leaving your thoughtful comment

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      FlourishAnyway 3 years ago from USA

      If teens date too young, it's possible that damage may occur that may not be able to be undone. It is much better for them to work on figuring out who they are as an individual, what their values are, preferences, likes and dislikes. They can spend time with friends, have supervised interaction with the opposite gender but no dating. There's a lifetime left for that kind of stuff. Why rush?

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      Colleen Swan 3 years ago from County Durham

      Nice hub. I think emphasis should be put on the supervision of young people dating. The social networks are so interactive that it can almost be like dating at a distance.

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      Martin Kloess 3 years ago from San Francisco

      I still believe there was magic in Arlene's tear. Thank you for this.

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      Linda Crampton 3 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      This is a thought provoking article, DDE, which contains a lot of interesting points. Dating can be a difficult process for young people. I think that some teenagers date when they are far too young to handle all the emotions that develop!

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      No dating until 18 or older in my opinion!!! The teenage years are so very emotional and every little thing is like it is the end of the world for them. I would not even know what to do if I had to be on the dating scene nowadays! Yikes. But, no, for children dating ... as they are children.

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      Blessings, Faith Reaper

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      sheilamyers 3 years ago

      I sure wish I could've read this kind of article when I was in high school. Maybe I would've had better luck getting a date. Great info!

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      Elizabeth Parker 3 years ago from Las Vegas, NV

      I would tell my teenage self to put off dating until my late twenties if I could! But, I think so many kids these days start dating early- even at twelve years old. I'm glad I was a bit older than that. At twelve, that should be the last thing on their minds!

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      billybuc thanks for sharing your valuable thoughts on Relationship Issues with Dating: I appreciate you stopping by.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi MsDora thanks for votes up and useful I so agree with your comment definitely is the correct way of living through each phase of a child's life. So glad you shared your encouraging views here.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I am so happy that dating is in the past for me. It was a confusing and painful time for me....you covered this subject quite well my friend.

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 3 years ago from The Caribbean

      Voted Up and Useful. No! Dating at a very young age is not worth all the emotional pain. Kids need to be kids without having to deal with the adult problems of relationships. After they have figured out the basic preliminaries like personal worth, self-respect and respect for others, and have made basic decisions about education and the future, then male-female relationships make sense.