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Relationship Lies That Can Get One In Trouble

Updated on August 24, 2020
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Relationship takes commitment and understanding. There are some lies, though seen as little but can destroy a relationship in the long run.

Relationship involves two individuals, who have decided to be involved in each other lives. Accepting someone else into your life takes trust, and no one wants to be made a fool, especially by someone who you love. There are some little lies that less attention are paid to in a relationship. I called them little lies because, we don't see the harm done in saying them thus we term them as unimportant. But what we fail to understand is that a relationship is very sensitive and takes conscience effort in making it work.

Lying about being over being an ex, keeping big secrets to oneself, especially secrets you know can affect your present relationship, lack of proper communication among others can destroy a relationship really fast, no matter the time and effort invested in building it.

  1. Lying About Being Over Your Ex: This is you entering into a new relationship with baggage from the past, it makes relationship hard to grow. You still possessing feeling for your ex makes you not available emotionally even though you guys and no longer. This isn't fair, no one wants to deal with that partner who can't seem to get over an ex, this involves you fighting for attention with an ex who isn't even present in his or her life. Lying about your feeling for your ex can easily destroy a relationship, it makes the love questionable.
  2. Holding On To Secret From The Past: Openness should be present in every healthy relationship, especially when it involves big secret concerning your past. I am not saying that your partner needs to know everything about tour past but the key things, especially things you wouldn't want him or her hearing from someone else. If he or she eventually finds out from someone else, mistrust comes to plays as it leaves them wondering if you have other hidden secrets, they aren't aware of.
  3. Issues Concerning Money: Money is a sensitive topic, so it should be treated as such. In families, even among friends, money issues most times lead to mistrust. In a relationship especially when combined finances is involved, you should avoid pretending to make less than you do or more than you do.
  4. Pretending To Be Okay When You Are Not: A healthy relationship is one where communication is two way. No one is a mind reader, most times your partner may not know where he or she has gone wrong so speak up. Don't keep your emotions to yourself, let it out, then adjustment can be made.

No one enters into a relationship with a full knowledge of what to do, so we must try to learn everyday for our relationship to be a healthy one.

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      NicoleDobo 

      11 months ago

      I lied too and lost the man i want to be with. Now im stuck with my kids father. FML

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      dashingscorpio 

      11 months ago from Chicago

      Good points but there is also a "flip side" to keep in mind.

      We are responsible for doing our own due diligence when it comes to our mate selection/screening process and "must have list" for choosing our mate. That means asking questions and observing.

      Too often people see what (they) want to see and hear what (they) want to hear. They also ignore what was NOT said as well.

      In the beginning of most new relationships there is an "infatuation phase" whereby if someone is attracted to you they're likely going to do their best to AVOID saying or doing anything which may "blow it" with you! It's important to keep that in mind.

      Trust like respect is something which should be (earned) over time. The mistake a lot of people is offering "instant trust" because they have a crush on someone.

      Oftentimes (we choose) to ignore "red flags"!

      Aside from people lying to avoid "blowing it" with you there is another factor which shouldn't be overlooked.

      Sometimes people lie because they're afraid of being "judged" about their past and they at least want someone to see another side of them before passing judgment.

      Last but not least some people actually lie to themselves.

      They want to believe they're over their ex and then the phone rings... they get a text or email and suddenly they're pulled in.

      They "go along" to "get along" because they hate fighting...etc.

      Ultimately most people are NOT "open books". They usually require a certain amount of time to relax and feel secure enough to reveal their "authentic selves". Everyone has "walls" built up around them. Everyone has "emotional baggage" as well.

      It's up to each of us to decide if it's worth understanding the "motivation" beneath the lie when we're trying to determine if it's a "deal breaker". Intentions matter.

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      Marissa 

      11 months ago from Nigeria

      You just hit the nail on the board with this article. Great job! little lies like you mentioned especially keeping of secrets are a real danger when it can cost you your relationship.

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