Relationship skills: How to manage a relationship?

"The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships"

as quoted by great motivational and relationship speaker, Anthony Robbins.

When our relationships our smoothly gliding even the worst situation seems like a small hill. We can take the challenges in our career and life looks close to perfect. However, when faced with relationship crisis, we are faced with a giant which tends to affect everything. What is relationship skill and how can we learn it easily is a common question in everybody's mind.

Today, the bookstores are filled with self-help, psychology books which talk about the latest relationship mantra. There are increasing number of seminars and online videos but relationship skill is still a big puzzle. The more effort we try to put in our relationships, the less it seem to work. There are more books, psychologists, seminars but still there are more divorces, child-parent issues and more pain in this world. What is happening and what has gone wrong?

Is there an easy way to make it all work?

Well, there is a solution and that is very simple. Sometimes, when the solution is too simple, we tend to overlook it. We think how can such a difficult problem be solved so easily. To believe is our choice. We can experiment with the solution and based on our results, we can keep it or discard it.

The mystery is solved. The secret is we need to focus on ourselves. We need to forget about others and how they should behave. We need to just think what we are thinking. When the camera is on ourselves, power is within me. We hold the key to our relationships. When we are peaceful and stable, our perception is clean and clear. When our world view is clean, the relationships just happen. We don't need to work on it. When the seed is watered, the whole plant grows on it own. We don't need to work on individual parts of the plant or different relationships. The keywords are : Focus on Inner Self.

When we are having a relationship issue, we need to consider only one person to change the tide, that is ourselves. When we change, the situation changes. The change needed is both internal and external. We need to clean our mind of all impure and negative thoughts. We need to focus on good things about other.

When faced with our worst enemy, we need to think of at least one good quality of that person. While interacting with that person, we need to be focus on that positive quality. If we press on this rule, soon we will find our worst enemy turning to our good and caring friend. If you are having some relationship issue with your boss, spouse, child or anyone, try this method one time and experience the results directly.

Yes, it might sound too easy to be true. However, we need to test it few times and check if it works.

Some of the solutions to relationship issues in my article are coming from teaching of world wide spiritual organization, Brahma Kumaris. So, if you are interested to learn more, visit and read the below resources: