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Marriage Relationship skills: How married couples can continue to enjoy everlasting love and happy married life?
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- Relationship skills: How to react in face of harsh criticism?
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Relationship skill: Marriage with everlasting love
Marriage is a big decision which most of us make at some point of our lives. When we decide to get married, our intentions are good. We have found a good partner. We are in love. We want to live with him or her for rest of our lives. We are excited and happy. We get married.
After marriage, we enjoy our new status and respect. We try to be perfect spouse and give our best effort to make it work. We sacrifice. We enjoy the intimacy. Everything seems to be perfect externally but sometimes, internally we start to feel the burn out. As we feel tired, we tend to start having expectation from our spouse. We want him or her to do this and if he or she is not doing, we feel hurt. We might not tell to others but we start to feel a bit distant from the same person who was so close to us.
Here, are some simple steps which can make your married life easy and enjoyable:
1. Give yourself first priority.
This idea might be inverse of what you might be thinking till now. After marriage, we tend to give first priority to our spouse. We think we need to take care of him or her as our first duty.
The reason is when we take care of ourselves properly, only then we will be able to look after others needs. For instance, if we are depressed, we can't help others. If we are emotionally, mentally stable, we will create a positive environment where ever we go and this will automatically help people around us.
2. Think positive about your spouse.
We generally overlook this while making our best efforts to make the relationship work. We tend to do so many sacrifices for our spouse but all that is nothing until we change our thinking about him or her. This is very important.
We need to think good thoughts about our spouse in our minds. If our mind is clean, rest will come naturally. We don't need to make an effort to speak good words, they will come on their own.
3. No expectations.
The big difference that comes after marriage is that most partners start to have expectations from each other. When they are unmet, they feel sad and hurt. Ultimately, they blame the other person for their problems.
When we have no expectation, we are like free bird. We prison ourselves when we expect from others and wait for him or her to do what we want. We become dependent and we lose our freedom. So, the simple strategy is to live without expectations.
4. Be a happy giver in relationship.
Giving is better than taking. When we give, we are blessed and the whole universe works to give us much more than we give. Whenever you are facing a difficult problem in marriage, ask yourself, what can you give happily?
Please remember, we don't need to suppress ourselves while giving. The giving is only good if it is given with pure heart, clean mind and no expectations. This simple strategy can work miracles in your relationships.
Life is meant to be easy and flowing but sometimes we are too busy with our career and we forget to tend it with care and love. Use this opportunity to shower love, peace and happiness to your partner.
I am a fan of Brahma Kumari, a spiritual organization and source of some of the ideas might be coming from their teachings. If you would like to do research, you can go to their website:
- Brahma Kumaris Official Website - Home
A Spiritual organization committed to self transformation through meditation and positive thinking