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Relationship skill: How to react in face of harsh criticism?

Updated on April 21, 2013
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How to Handle Criticism by Robin?

Relationship skill: How to handle harsh criticism?

Life can be difficult when we are faced with harsh criticism. Critical comment can become a big monster which jumps wherever you go. It can meet you in workplace in form of your colleagues, boss and even team members. At your home, you can see this giant coming as spouse, kids, relatives and parents. Sometimes, even our close friends can be critical, thinking that it is for our best interests. We try to run away from this huge creature but we find it closer to us. Finally, we try to cut off from all the critical people and at the end, we find nobody left.

We wonder what has gone wrong. We are never taught relationship skills in school but we realize that we need it most in life exam. Ultimately, we stop trying to run away and think of ways of dealing with it.

Here, are some steps to make our life easier when we are faced with negative criticism:

1. When somebody passes a negative comment about you, give a pause in your mind. Try to maintain calm and peace inside yourself. This is first and most important step. This helps to maintain inner stability which is most significant during crisis.

2. Check if the feedback is true or false.

3. If the feedback is true, just remove the emotional content from the picture. Take the pure technical feedback and try to improve on it.

4. If the feedback is false, that is a good news too. It implies that you don't need to make changes in yourself. About the person who gave false comments, we need to remember that he or she might be in disturbed state of mind to do such things. We need to send positive thoughts to that person so that he or she can have peaceful state of mind.

5. When we send positive thoughts towards others, we receive them first while creating in our mind. It helps to end negative situations easily and build a positive atmosphere.

These simple steps can help us to easily get out of a negative situation and even convert it into a positive situation. Negative criticisms will become small things which will not interfere you as before.

I am a big fan of Brahma Kumaris, a world wide spiritual organisation and source of some of the ideas are coming from there. If you would like to do more research, you can visit their website.


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      Ruchi Urvashi 6 years ago from Singapore

      Yes, true. Thanks for your feedback. We need to be internally stable and take our decisions wisely while handling criticism.

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      Shasta Matova 6 years ago from USA

      Great hub. So true. So many times we react emotionally and try to protect ourselves, when the criticism is actually valid and can actually help us. Other times it is simply a difference of opinion, and doesn't mean we need to change anything, simply learn a different viewpoint. Sticking with the facts and keeping the emotion out of it helps us know the difference.

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      Ruchi Urvashi 6 years ago from Singapore

      Hi there, thanks for your feedback. Yes, handling criticism need to be taught in school. It is a very basic and important skill that we all need sometimes in our life.

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      Barbara 6 years ago from Stepping past clutter

      Hi Ruchi, I think this is so important. Too bad it isn't taught over and over again in school. Excellent advice!

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      Ruchi Urvashi 6 years ago from Singapore

      Hi Masmasika, Thanks for your feedback. Yes, stability of mind is the key when handling criticism.

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      masmasika 6 years ago

      Great tips and sound advice. Often times we react negatively to criticisms which shouldn't be.

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      Ruchi Urvashi 6 years ago from Singapore

      Thanks Sankari and Healthy Pursuits for your feedback. Yes, I agree that generally we all during our young days have done that kind of instant reaction. I hope this article gives some easy guidelines to help all those who need it.

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      Karla Iverson 6 years ago from Oregon

      Good advice. People often forget that they should actually assess whether or not the criticism has any basis before they react to it. They also fail to pause before reacting. I say "they, but I sometimes do that, too. When I was younger, I did it very often.

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      sankari.nayagam 6 years ago

      nice hub! great points on how to tackle negative criticism! you are giving very good tips! keep writing!

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