What is True Love Between a Man and a Woman

In research the author has found people trying to define what love is; many confuse infatuation/lust for love. These feelings don't last long, this is, why many relationships/marriages falls apart. Umpteen individuals with physical attraction/infatuation/lust feelings joined; end up in rebound relationships, after a break up. Many people believe in someone special/soul-mates or twin-flames; they are there for them in this world. At times rebound relationships can make a person think with the opposite gender male/female or bisexual/homosexual/transgender having the opposite characteristics compatibility with their partner's beliefs and ideas. Oh what a tangled web we human beings weave having grown accustomed and hanging on to our relationships, to how we think what love is with attraction/infatuation/lust feelings combined. Sometimes, folk feels these feelings with their partner/companion of the opposite gender/bisexual/homosexual/trans genders with the opposite characteristics compatibility can make them feel insecure within that relationship. The opposing partner out of fear and for: - greed, jealousy and emotional abuse will have a firm emotional grip on their partner due to the fear that their partner will leave them alone.

The physical attraction/infatuation/lust feelings combined with a person could be that it's for financial gain, or wanting and needing love from a person. The author found people saying, 'rose tinted coloured glasses;' a person entering a relationship could think they are in love with another bisexual/homosexual/heterosexual/trans gender having the physical attraction/infatuation/lust feelings joined. These feelings act like blinkers and don't see the opposite gender male/female or bisexual/homosexual/trans gender motives. Their motives become obsessive, fulfilling their material needs to keep their status with their companion/partner making their life a living hell.

How folk defines their partner does truly love them, when they are enforcing their compulsive psychological traits upon them, they seem to think this is a natural way of life and doesn't see the signs when they are deep in love with compassion with them. Aggressive demeanour behaviour often ends in emotional pain and abuse due to insecurities of the living-in-partner/spouse. It's a time, when individuals review home life situations, and look towards their partner for psychological behaviour; don't feel blamed for life situations having gone wrong within a relationship. The partner's aggressive behaviour profoundly portrays from fear that they misinterpret love for infatuation and lust.

The inconsistency of feelings with a couple can make one of them realise the relationship has grown apart and both wants to go in different directions with their lives. This could happen at any time; with a relationship spending an amount of time together. The decisions made of staying together for the sake of children or finances causes unbearable pain. Some people begin to realise with lengthy time invested to the relationship this isn't true love with feelings and knowledge they realise with another compatible person of similar interests and ideals life can make them happy. It's wise with an amicable agreement for separation, rather than keeping the relationship alive where no-one will benefit in unhappy surroundings.

Egotism, fear and feeling insecure feelings gets in the way humans think, often people fall for second best believing physical attraction/infatuation/lust feelings joint, is love. These feelings men and women may have felt after sometime or years in their relationship with the opposing companion/partner/spouse trapped. How can people know they have the surety they have found the right partner, when they are trying to define what true love is? The author found in research people needs love and compassion in their life to feel secure, when meeting someone new through social gatherings or through friends. A male/female or bisexual/homosexual/trans gender chemistry will evolve and the couple will try solve they are suitable for one another, when their radar of attraction homes in on a particular person, looking for that special person in their lives; are these feelings infatuations or lusts? Many times physical attraction/infatuation/lust feelings arise getting to know the opposite gender or bisexual/homosexual/trans gender having opposite character traits, individuals tend confuse these feelings with true love. Occasionally, infatuation and lust lead to one night stands when two consensual people are looking for sexual desire with no emotional feelings attached; it's possible one/both consensual partners could have a partner/spouse at home where home life isn't so romantic. It's rare these passionate infatuated lustful one night stands could lead to a true love.

Some people feel confident and secure with themselves and driven by these feelings, when they see the most beautiful person male/female or bisexual/homosexual/trans gender person in the world. At times some people may fear rejection; the confidence and security they have combined with their will-power driving them to take a leap of faith to approach the person they are spellbound by. This spiritual magnetic energy force, forces the spellbound person to approach the most beautiful person male/female or bisexual/homosexual/trans gender person for them to get to know them. In time, especially when the person they have approached they find them compatible and with true love and respect grow to have an everlasting loving relationship.

It is the driving spiritualism force of the globe’s population beliefs believing and defining it’s a divine love bringing soul-mates/twin-flames in the Divine Universe of bisexual/homosexual/heterosexual/trans gender together. Love is deep a compassionate emotional connection, unconditional feelings without fear and expectations from their partner/companion of /soul-mates/twin-flames of any genders. It is teamwork of supporting one another and working towards their goals in life without negative emotional feelings.

The author’s definition of true love is being to a complete degree honest and truthful with oneself and their partner, to trust, share and respect and to understand one another cherishing every moment they spend their time together. It's also, being physically attentive, generous, caring and considerate for the well-being of their partner's happiness conjoined as one person. These deep emotional feelings felt for another human being, have inspired me to compose a poem 'Love Truly is' to attempt and represent what real true love is.

Love truly is sharing

No matter how daring.

Love truly is having someone to cherish

Just be Who You Are

So you can flourish

Love truly is battling it through together,

No matter what the pain,

No matter what the cost.

Love truly is a heart you wear round a chain

Love truly is that can never be lost.

Love truly is A secret Love

Pure, heavenly as a dove

Love truly is when you Run to me

The only love that can be.