- Gender and Relationships
When One Completes the Other
Scientists say that while choosing a mate we often look for physical traits that differ from ours. The main reason for this apparently strange phenomenon is the need to diversify, the need to inject new genes in our offspring - genes that will endow our children with better chances for survival.
I believe that when we seek opposites in the character of our partner, we extend the genetic rule to the social relationship - which makes a lot of sense. Imagine a couple making its way in a community: two different characters will have more social resources than two similar ones, allowing them for a better chance at success and acceptance.
Opposites attract even on the personal level, and one partner will always find something new in the other. Though, both must be prepared to make sacrifices: for example, the quiet one to entertain the guests and the talkative one to keep quiet to let the other guests speak.
Often, ensuing relationships become tense and difficult. But the alternative is a boring and uninteresting companionship. The first option, however challenging, offers engagement and potential for development, whereas the second may cause partners to slowly drift apart, until it is all over.
When we say "opposites attract", we often focus on the "opposites" and overlook the "attract". The latter is an action verb, and as such it implies change, power and movement - towards each other. Such a relationship may not suit everybody, but if you decide to take it on, you guarantee yourself an exciting ride!
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