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HIV/AIDS: Unprotected on Purpose

Updated on May 20, 2015

AIDS Does Not Scare People Anymore

When I was 17 and a senior in high school I lost my aunt to AIDS. She was only 36 years young and she left 3 young children behind. I later found out that her boyfriend and youngest son were also both HIV positive. Her 2 other children tested negative, thank God! The family knows that her boyfriend of about 10 years infected her INTENTIONALLY. We know this because an ex-girlfriend of his had died of AIDS a few years before my aunt died. She had tried to warn my aunt about him but my aunt wasn't having it. She stood by her man. My mother and other aunt also warned her that they had seen her man driving around town in his Impala with another woman in the passenger seat. She defended him at every turn. Eventually people just stopped telling her things. She turned a blind eye and lost her life.

Fast forward 20 years and the evil bastard is now a registered sex offender. He fled the state and is now married to a woman with a young daughter. They are both now HIV positive and somehow he convinced her that SHE had infected HIM. She knew nothing about his past. My family has reported him to the Department of Justice and he has not yet been arrested. He is still out there taking lives.

One of my college friends admitted to me that she usually has unprotected sex with guys she meets in clubs and bars. This woman has an accounting degree from a private college and she told me she can tell who "has something" just by looking at them. I paused and waited for the punchline. I hoped she was joking but she was dead serious. This woman is divorced with 2 children. She may be educated, but she isn't very bright. She is playing a game of chance with her health and her life. She is risking leaving her kids to grow up without a mother.

No Excuses

Decades after AIDS was identified people are still engaging in casual, unprotected sex with multiple partners. Call me naïve but I struggle to understand this. I watched my aunt die a slow, painful death. I can only imagine how she felt knowing that she was leaving her children because of a man she ignored many warnings about. I wonder if she struggled with guilt over that.

There are people out there like that. And there are more of them than you think. They have been hurt by someone and they do not care about hurting you. Unprotected sex can be used as a very deadly weapon. Protect yourself and think twice, then twice again. In this day and age of technology and imagination, there are literally thousands of contraceptive barrier products on the market today. For those who are shy like me, ordering these products online and having them delivered to you discreetly is an option.

There is nothing more sobering than a positive HIV test. After all the excuses you might think up for why you didn't use protection, you will wish you could take it all back after your life is changed forever by devastating news.


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    Motherbynature 5 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

    HIV/AIDS is still very relevant but the media attention has died out. People see Magic Johnson and they think AIDS is about as threatening as asthma. I am so sorry about your wife's infidelity. My advice to you, as someone who has been in your shoes, is to get tested for everything for as long as it takes to make you feel comfortable about your health. I think one year to 18 months of testing is good. Anything beyond that and you are becoming a slave to fear. Thanks for reading :)

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    Motherbynature 5 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

    @morningglory24 I'm sorry about your uncle. No matter how he contracted the virus it is still painful to watch someone you die. Evil is very real and we all need to be aware.

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    Jon 5 years ago from UK

    This is scary, HIV is not a thing of the past, and I worry sometimes about it as my wife too may have had affairs during our marriage, defiantly emotional ones if not sexual, good hub.


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    morningglory24 5 years ago

    I had an uncle who died of AIDS, but I believe it was drug related. I'm so sorry about your aunt. There are many people out there just like this man. Some are angry and just want to take as many people down with them as they can and others just don't care. It really is evil.... and people need to be warned. Great hub.

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    brittvan22 5 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

    Oh ok thanks it was a good read!

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    Motherbynature 5 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

    brittvan22, thank you for taking the time to read. I'm heading over to check out your hub on the subject.

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    brittvan22 5 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

    Good story to bring about awareness, I also hubbed on the topic of Aids my situation was slightly different. Its sad that adults have this unrealistic view of this serious and deadly epidemic. Knowledge is power and we need to be more educated. Great hub!

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    Motherbynature 5 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

    Hi mommiegee. I agree with you. I know lust is powerful and difficult to overcome but also there are many steps before you get to unprotected sex. Thank you for reading and commenting.

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    Mommiegee 5 years ago from Alabama

    This is a very interesting hub. Thanks so much for sharing. Maybe people will think twice before engaging in behavior that leads to incurable diseases. We loose too many friends and family members to something that could have been PREVENTED! I guess common sense is really not so common after all and loved the genius/stupidity quote.

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    Motherbynature 5 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

    Hi CyberShelley. I have never heard that quote before but it's about to become one of my favorites. It always amazes me how we choose our own actions and blame God for the consequences. Thank you for reading. I'm glad you found it interesting.

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    Shelley Watson 5 years ago

    Wow this tragedy is repeated again again. Someone once said something to the effect "God limited genius, why didn't he do the same for stupidity?" Common sense is unfortunately not very common. All strength to you and your family. Voted up and interesting!

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    Motherbynature 5 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

    Hello Larry. Thanks so much for the prayers. It's a scary thing to realize that people can be so selfish. Yes I do carry a heavy burden but it comes with added wisdom :)

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    Larry Wall 5 years ago

    The story you tell is tragic and unfortunately not unique. Too many, men and women approach sex to casually. Without getting into the moral issues, the possibly of AIDS, herpes and other STDs should be enough to cause anyone to stop and think and think real hard. As far as your friend with the accounting degree, I have know a lot of people who where highly intelligent, when it came to the field of work, but totally lacking in common sense. My prayers go out to you and your family. I will also be praying for you. It is apparent that you are carrying a heavy burden. You can only inform people and pray for them. As adults, they have to make their own decisions.


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