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Romance: Pandora's Box?
For the Ladies
Do you remember laying next to that boy at 15? Touching his foot, giving simple yet EXTREMELY not obvious hints! Oh ladies, you have made a couple boys in your day miss big moments, and on the other hand helped them define the way they perceive life and passion and yes--romance too! From what I've noticed through all my experiences and conversations is that there is two fundamental changes why romance stops sparking from 15 years old to 28 years old: Change number one is obvious-- we're 28, life just tends to shove it's way in! And sadly, change number 2 is even more obvious...we just flat out forget how to enjoy things the way we did when we were 15. At least now after my rant about how to fail at romance, I can possibly help out with romance-- because passion, creativity, and remembering to be 15 years old are my strong suits! I'm going to do this really easy list format and invite all responses, this way everything talked about here can get solved--and hopefully through conversation I learn something alongside my readers:
For the guys:
-Compliments are HUGE! Don't non-stop all day give her compliments, but when you go out with her--tell her she's beautiful. When you see her naked after a long period of no sex, give her a once over and stop at her eyes and tell her she is gorgeous!
-Girls, ladies, and women will all tell you they hate surprises. They're lying, they hate the fact that you are dumb enough to say I'm going to surprise you...JUST SURPRISE THEM!
-When you're laying on the couch with her, sometimes they just want to lay-- so instead of groping and forcing her into that "routine" mindset, try showing some self-control and waiting for her to make that move, give her the decision to slide her foot up your calf to your upper thigh-- then you can start rubbing her back and progress slowly, explore her body, kiss her passionately and for crying out loud make her feel like she's 15 again and getting her body touched for the first time all over again.
-Guys-- seriously drop the pride, you're probably one of the guys that has no clue what you're doing in any of these departments because you think you know everything-- COMMUNICATE! Talk to her and listen to where you are lacking-- stop getting all prideful when your girl tells you something we all don't want to hear, but we NEED to hear it!
For the Ladies:
-Actions speak louder than words. Remember this because no matter how busy you think you are or how tired you are-- every single one of you know how easy men are! Surprise us at work with lunch (takeout- preferably good Thai food). Be the first to make the move once in awhile, we like to feel attractive too, especially by you!
-Men are hardwired to gawk at a body that is just unreal! So, gawk with him, because if he's one of the good ones-- your body is out of this universe to him! Jealousy is cute, fighting about jealousy is childish (that statement actually goes both ways, heats not all on you ladies).
-Never never never never never never fake it-- you're creating a problem for yourself with the guys who can tell and who can't tell. The guy who can't tell thinks he's amazing and now you're stuck with that...and the guy who can tell is going to confront you about it!
-Cook something amazing (personal preference hah), random spontaneous sex (or oral), keep his needs in mind, so he keeps yours in mind!
-Play a video game with him and actually enjoy it, I don't know what it is about a girl who can game, but it lightens any mood and just turns me the hell on!