- Gender and Relationships
Eating Habits (or lack of) Can Be A Real Turnoff
Manners on Your Date
Rudimentary Eating and Social Habits....
I have heard and experienced several events in the past few months that really bring it home that people don't always know that they don't know how to behave in certain situations. Now, I am definitely /not/ an authority on how to act, since I tend to mess up perfectly good situations with my lack of tact... however, maybe a lack of tack will help in this arena. There are several people that this post is referring to, so don't feel bad if you are one of them... it seems to be going around:) Let's talk about people's eating habits... Have you ever had a guest come over to your house, open your freezer without asking, notice that you have icecream, ask if they can have some (you say yes because you are feeling nice), and that person proceeds to sit down with a spoon and the 3/4 full icecream container, and eat the ENTIRE thing (straight out of the container, I might add... so they assume from the get-go that they are intending to eat it all)? Now, it isn't as if I would want it back after they started eating it straight out of the container, but it would have been preferred for that person to show some self-restraint. I think that 3 scoops max, if they are serving themselves, would have been the upper limit of what was acceptable. And I think that should only be /after/ you voluntarily offered it to them. It isn't like they asked if they could have the whole 1/2 gallon of icecream. Or the entire box of candy-bars, or anything else they have asked if they can have /some/ (not ALL) of. My opinion on this topic is that A: if you are at someone's house, don't snoop for food; B: if you decide you really must have some of something, and you ask, only assume that ONE serving is all you would get; C: unless someone says "I don't want any more, you can eat the rest of it" then you absolutely should NOT eat any more. D: If you are offered seconds, you may take them, but do not assume that means that you can have 3rds and 4rths too, unless they are also offered; E: when in doubt, ask the friend who owns the item to serve you. If you do/have come to someone's house and you eat or drink all of something, it would be really considerate of you to bring more of the same item (and then /not/ consume it) when you come back the next time. If you often come over and eat stuff, it would be really considerate if you make it a habit to bring stuff over in return.This brings me to my next topic, although closely related... the actual eating part. Outside of highschool, it is never cool, admirable, amazing, or any other positive word, to eat your food blazingly fast. Gobble is not a good word. It is exceedingly disgusting to watch someone eat like a barbarian, hunched over their plate, and shoveling food in faster than they can breath. They say to really get the nutrients out of your food, you need to chew each bite at least 10 times. For the gobblers of the world, this is a great benchmark. Also, it is a good idea to actually speak in between each bite, if in a social situation. Miss Manners actually states that you should "cut your food, place it in your mouth, and put your silverware down whilst you savor you bite, only to begin preparing the next bite once you have completed the last." Although that might sound excessive, it goes a long way towards really learning to enjoy your food, be pleasing to your company, and impressing your friends;) But don't forget, you need to put your napkin in your lap too, and try to keep your elbows off the table while you are eating:) (before and after the food elbows are completely fine:))Trying to impress people by eating fast, or vast amounts of food is exceedingly juvenile, so please don't go there:) This is not an eating contest, and no one is going to steal your food:) Being a gentleman/woman is always a good thing though, and can add to any anyone's appeal! I shouldn't need to say it, but just in case: -No blowing your nose at the table or wherever people are eating (go to the bathroom to do that), not only because it is a disgusting sound, but also because you should WASH YOUR HANDS afterwards... -No talking with a mouthful (esp with people who have hearing problems, and have to read your lips!) -If you have to pull something out of your mouth, don't leave it in plain view -If someone didn't invite you over for dinner, don't /expect/ to be fed, but be thankful if you are -Wash your hands before you eat -Don't use something you have already stuck in your mouth in a communal dish -Always offer to help with the dishes, or do at least your own -When you leave the house of your host, please look around first and make sure to relocate all of your trash to the correct place.
(basically: clean up after yourself!)
I hope this has been informative, helpful, and perhaps humorous:) When in doubt of your manners, go buy a book:) It never hurts to learn more, you can use your new found manners at any time, and you just might IMPRESS someone! We all need to try an learn new tricks, all the time:) Elevate yourself:)