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How to Stop your Divorce and Save a Bad and Hopeless Marriage

Updated on June 14, 2017
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Anamika S. Jain has been a social media consultant for six years. She has written more than 200 articles on relationships and dating.

Stop your Divorce and Save your Marriage

Many of the marriages head to divorce because no or little efforts have been put on saving it. Majority of people who have taken their time in getting into the marriage contract and promised to live together for lifelong are not very patient in fixing the problems and saving the marriage. The fact is that in a marriage you do not go to bed one night with a good one and wake up the next morning with a failed one. It has been worked up to slowly and only got there because both parties ignored the relationship troubles for a long time.

Divorce is not the answer to all Marriage Problems . It is better to save a marriage if it can be saved as many times a lot of things are at stake like children and alimony issues. Remember that you have vowed to be together for ‘better or worse’. So you may as well make it better. Rescuing your relationship and resuming your love life is not an easy task but not a difficult one. Most problems can be sorted out between the couple and if still there are differences visit a marriage councilor together to save your Bad and Hopeless Marriage from ending up in Divorce .

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How to save a Hopeless Marriage

Saving a Bad or Hopeless Marriage from ending in Divorce is not an easy job to do. But if the Couple work together and put their best efforts, it is not difficult either. As I said earlier, most problems can be sorted out between the couples or by visiting a marriage councilor together for advice for help in saving the marriage. If your marriage is worth saving do everything in your power to save it rather than regret later.

So, How to Stop your Divorce and Save a Bad and Hopeless Marriage? You may try the three step approach in this article to stop the divorce and save the marriage.

  • Find the Problem

The first step in saving the Marriage is finding out what the problem is and when and where it started. Try analyzing what is wrong and think on how it can be fixed. As long as you can identify the problem you can work on fixing it. Rescuing your relationship and resuming your love life is not an easy task. But you can't fix your marriage without knowing exactly how it got to be where it is now.

  • Fix the Problem

This is the most important step in fixing the problem. Communication is the key here. Sit down and have a talk with your spouse and try to figure out what went wrong if you have not figured out already. If it is your fault accept the responsibility and change it. If it is your spouses fault give a chance to make amends. Try to work out a solution to your problems. Marriage is a partnership and It's going to take both you and your spouse working together to get things back on track. Try reaching a compromise on the key issues.

  • Get back to Older Times

Things may have gotten bitter in between you but you definitely might have had some good moments in life. Let go of all the bitter or bad experiences and start over. Spend time with each other and bring the spark back in your married life. Work together in building up your love and trust in each other so that you're never in a bad spot again.

Try to save your Marriage when you can, lest you may regret. At least there won’t be the regret that ‘you did not try to save your marriage’ even if your efforts of stopping the Divorce failed. Hope you found the tips on Saving Marriage helpful. Please feel free to express your opinion on this topic by commenting below!

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    Esther 

    6 years ago

    I've tried the 3 steps and if those are the only 3 steps to save a marriage, i think it's time for me to end it now coz i failed to save it.

    I'm losing faith, trust, hope and confident towards him, whatever he promises, he never fulfilled. Even he did, it's not a sincere one. He looked at his computer game more than talking with me. I'm the one who did most of the talkings. A relationship that is lack of communication pushing us apart. I told him my thought, I want the feeling of those days, he promised he will change but ended up, all gone with the wind. and now, he start lying to me, or perhaps hide it from me. I hate this. The reason why I'm still holding myself back from divorcing with him is my dearest daughter. She is innocent. I hate him for making my life miserable. I wanted a happy marriage and family, he destroyed it. I want a divorce but pity my daugther for losing her rights to make a choice here... What should i do??

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    Cellspy 

    7 years ago

    A relationship is a trust you must commit to working on. When couples involved realize this the healing can begin. Make each other thoughts concerns and ideas first and stay married.Thoughtful hub

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    Marc @ Apres Divorce.fr 

    7 years ago

    These are great advice Anamika ! Sometimes it si tough to see people who also don't when to stop hurting each other and get addicted to the struggle of a marriage where nobody is willing to to anything to make things better. In this case, the best is to leave.

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    Anamika S Jain 

    9 years ago from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India

    Thanks for the visit Philipo, Kmadhav and Tatjana.

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    Philipo 

    9 years ago from Nigeria

    I think people should build a good foundation for their marriage.  That way, it cannot be pulled by the wind of destruction.  People should learn to pray more and know God the more. I am writing a hub on WHY MEN MARRY MORE THAN ONE WIFE (POLYGAMY).

    https://hubpages.com/business/philipo

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    Kmadhav 

    9 years ago from New delhi

    yes , you are right with these solutions. marriage is is most important part of ours life lilke schooling , food, sleep, business or job. We should save marriage because this is the connection of only not two persons even two families come together.

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    Tatjana-Mihaela 

    9 years ago from Zadar, CROATIA

    Great advice and Hub, Anamika...if the both sides work on that, romance can be back, and so many children - happy again.

    Bravo!

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