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Secrets to a long-term and happy relationship

Updated on February 21, 2012

Every relationship is different. But there are some common key elements which are vital in all relationships in order to make them happy and long-lasting.


I am sure you have heard this many times before, but without doubt it is true. Trust is one of the most important components in a healthy long-term relationship. Without trust negative feelings like suspicion, anxiety and even paranoia might take over. If you do not trust your other half, it means you do not believe in them. Some people might find it hard to trust because they have been cheated on or let down by their partner in the past. The best thing to do in this case is to talk to your partner, and share your fears. Be honest with each other as honesty is one of the key parts in rebuilding trust.


Quite obvious isn't it? Love is the most beautiful human feeling. It means respect, fondness, support, affection, friendship. If there is no love, then what is the point of the relationship?


This is a quite important factor, because I know many people who lost their partner to not giving them enough personal space. Most people do not like if someone is constantly calling or texting and wanting to be with them 24/7. You need to give your partner a chance to miss you. By giving each other enough freedom, you will look forward to see each other more, and will keep the passion running for a longer time.


Bad communication can lead to many misunderstandings and arguments in any relationship, no matter how strongly each partner feels towards each other.If something bothers either of you, it is vital to discuss it to prevent an escalation of the problem. Good communication doesn't involve only words. You also need to be a good listener to become a good communicator. When you discuss something, make sure that you are using positive body language and facial expressions, such as your precious smile. If your communication will lead into an argument, just step back and give yourself and your partner a little time to see what went wrong. And after a suitable amount of time, when you both calmed down, just try to carry on with the discussion.


While sex is not the most important factor , it is an integral part of a long-lasting relationship. Sex is not only about physical, but also emotional closeness between the two of you. Sex keeps the relationship healthy and alive, and helps you to learn about each other more.

Respect each other

No one is perfect. Fact. So do not expect your partner to be either. Everyone has their little flaws, you need to accept these, after all, these flaws also make your partner the person you fall in love with. If one of you makes a mistake, help each other to correct it and find a solution. Respect in a relationship shows how mature and loving it is.


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      Alexander Thandi Ubani 5 years ago from Lagos

      Fantastic! Great and helpful hub

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      Robert Burroughs 6 years ago

      You are welcome, you can call me Robert.

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      stanzi11 6 years ago from London

      Thank you rtburroughs2 for your comment, I am glad you enjoyed my hub.

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      Robert Burroughs 6 years ago

      This was a great read. As somebody who has experienced the good,the bad, and the ugly of relationships, I can relate.

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      stanzi11 6 years ago from London

      Thank you, I actually wrote it from personal experience, as I have been in a long term relationship for over 6 years now.

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      colpolbear 6 years ago from Pennsylvania

      These are all very true points. Great advice!


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