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Sex over 40 - advice for couples

Updated on July 9, 2013

In our 20s we often concerned about our look and they way our friends see us, we comparing ourselves to our friends which is so silly, but true. But as we get older we have other priorities in life, we are more into what satisfies us, what our partner likes and we are less concerned about what our friends will say or think about us.

Middle age couples tend to have sex less more often than younger peoples, I assume it's because some women are worry about a few extra pounds or about wrinkles or they are constantly tired after work, while men have their concerns about erection and not being able to please his woman.

There is one more reason why couples over 40 have less sex. Most midlife couples have monotonous sex life, it’s pretty hard to get excited about that, they do same thing as they did 20 years ago which is quite boring and sex becomes a routine.

They key point in maintaining an active sex life after 40 is to bring in some changes, don't be afraid to try one of your fantasies, become more innovative and more imaginative.

Why sex is better over 40

Women entering their 40s are more comfortable about their look, social status, career, who hey are and what they want. In our 20s we more focus on the end result- orgasm, as be get older we enjoy he sensations along the way just as much as the orgasm.

According to a research carried out on 25, 000 over 40 couples, they say that sex really gets better with age.

Married women over forty claim to have the best sex of their lives.

81 percent of interviewees said they were more open while making love, more sexually adventurous than in their 20s.

63 percent said they were more confident and more unfettered.

Are you having great sex after the age of 40?

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How is sex different for women over 40?

Most women in their 40s are concerned about their body changes after pregnancy, or age changes, but you can't run away from this, all you can do is to keep feet, follow a diet, wear cloths that highlights your best sides.

Women also are concerned that their partner will reject to make love, because she is not as pretty as she was in her 20s.

Here is what men think, men don't care about the age or weight, what they want is fun, caring, sensual woman, who's ready to experiment in bed and make them feel good.

Does a fantasy life change at this age?

People after 40 become more accepting of their sexual fantasies; that’s important!

5 reasons why sex is better over 40

  1. You know how to ask for it.
  2. You know exactly what you like and how to receive it.
  3. You speak your mind while making love, it's not awkward anymore.
  4. You can laugh at it. If you can't band like in your 20s not a big deal.
  5. You are motivated to discover new routes to orgasm.

With the right man sex can be incredible.

For those of you who rejoining dating scene, and keen on finding someone special, I can share my experience of finding my soul mate on a dating site, you can do it too.

Sex Quotes

Sex is a part of nature. I go along with nature.

- Marilyn Monroe

I need more sex, OK? Before I die I wanna taste everyone in the world.

- Angelina Jolie

Social progress can be measured by the social position of the female sex.

- Karl Marx

Some things are better than sex, and some are worse, but there's nothing exactly like it. W. C.

- Fields

Sex is a part of love. You shouldn't go around doing it unless you are in love.

- Bettie Page

Sex is emotion in motion.

- Mae West

Celebrity Sex Advice

Here are seven pieces of sex advice from famous women age 40 and under.

Don't ever fake it in the bedroom (And we don't just mean orgasms)

You have to really enjoy [being sexy]. Not fake anything. Sexy is being in the moment, whether that means being coy or coming on hard. Faking is always lame and it never comes across the way you want it to.

Cameron Diaz, 40

Sex with your ex isn't always a bad idea

I think it's a good idea when you know that you're not going to see them again or call them again. If it's ex-sex with the hopes of it not being over, you're screwed. Ex-sex is also a good idea when there's unfinished business, like maybe when it's subtly hate sex, or let-me-show-you-how-much-I've-learned-in-the-past-couple-years sex.

Rashida Jones, 37

Experiment, experiment, experiment

Some people are more experimental in bed and others are more boring. If you are wild and crazy, bring it on so the other person is well aware that you have little devil horns that come out every once in a while. It's good to make an effort to dress up sometimes, to do things outside of the norm.

Heidi Klum, 40

Don't be afraid of dirty talk

I know a lot of people have a hard time talking dirty -- they don't know what to say, how to start, or when to end it. Also, at first they will think they sound ridiculous. And they might. But let me just say that talking dirty is so important in sex. And it's pretty easy. To wit: Establish from the very beginning that you like this. And trust me, you want to do it early on. Because if you wait too long to introduce the concept, your Special Lady Friend will be a little thrown and might not take you seriously.

– Olivia Munn, 32


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      2 years ago

      Please check your spelling and grammar.

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      Maureen M 

      2 years ago

      Some really good advice. Based in reality.

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      Devika Primić 

      5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Sex over 40 - advice for couples, sounds helpful and very interesing indeed

    • AmandaJon profile imageAUTHOR

      Amanda Jones 

      5 years ago

      Thanks for the comment, I appreciate it, something changes all the time which makes life exciting and interesting.

      Thanks for reading my hub.

    • AmandaJon profile imageAUTHOR

      Amanda Jones 

      5 years ago

      Thank you Sue, I'm happy you enjoyed reading my hub.

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      Susan Bailey 

      5 years ago from South Yorkshire, UK

      Interesting hub for the over 40's AmandaJon. Voted up and interesting

    • AmandaJon profile imageAUTHOR

      Amanda Jones 

      5 years ago

      Thanks a lot for your comment, glad you enjoyed my hub.

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      5 years ago from Austin, TX

      Great hub. I also agree with your top five reasons -- no more awkwardness between the couple, they're more concerned of what truly makes them happy and comfortable other than reaching an orgasm. Voted up.

    • AmandaJon profile imageAUTHOR

      Amanda Jones 

      5 years ago

      Always welcome, glad you liked it, feel free to read my other hub, I write about dating over 40 in my hubs.

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      Linda Bryen 

      5 years ago from United Kingdom

      Thank you for this interesting hub about sex being better when women reached the age of 40 and over.

    • AmandaJon profile imageAUTHOR

      Amanda Jones 

      5 years ago

      Welcome Dora, share your opinion with us please, will be glad to hear it.

    • AmandaJon profile imageAUTHOR

      Amanda Jones 

      5 years ago

      Thanks a lot d.william. You are right that women peak sexually after 35 y.o closer to 40, I think you can enjoy sex at any age if you want it.

    • AmandaJon profile imageAUTHOR

      Amanda Jones 

      5 years ago

      Hi tomy101 thanks for your comment, you are absolutely right spice up each other and enjoy your life.

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      Dora Weithers 

      5 years ago from The Caribbean

      The chart is very interesting. So are the quotes. Thanks for sharing.

    • d.william profile image


      5 years ago from Somewhere in the south

      voted up, awesome, interesting, and useful.

      Great article. It is common knowledge that women peak sexually well after 35 y.o. while men peak much earlier.

      Some people believe that you lose the ability to enjoy sex as you age. That can not be further from the truth. That pleasure of life is the very last to leave us in our old age.

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      Christopher Hyer 

      5 years ago from Midland, Texas

      I think you are right on the dot with the sex thing after 40. Put a little spice in each others life and live it. Love to love and enjoy it. Great hub.

    • AmandaJon profile imageAUTHOR

      Amanda Jones 

      5 years ago

      Zanaworld, Oh thanks a lot, I really appreciate it. I'm so excited when people leave comments on my hubs, thanks. Will be glad to read your comments on my other hubs.

    • AmandaJon profile imageAUTHOR

      Amanda Jones 

      5 years ago

      Thanks always exploring I really like your user name. Thanks for your comment. Will be glad to read your comments on my other hubs.

    • AmandaJon profile imageAUTHOR

      Amanda Jones 

      5 years ago

      Michememe, Ha ha awesome! I'm glad to see like-minded people here. Thanks for your comment.

      Will be glad to read your comments on my other hubs.

    • AmandaJon profile imageAUTHOR

      Amanda Jones 

      5 years ago

      RealityTalk, Thanks, glad you enjoyed it.

    • AmandaJon profile imageAUTHOR

      Amanda Jones 

      5 years ago

      Dashingscorpio, thanks a lot, your opinion is important to me.

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      SA Shameel 

      5 years ago from Bangalore

      Very nice hub... When you are over 40, you bound to search for such advises.

      Great Hub worth taking note of.

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      Ruby Jean Richert 

      5 years ago from Southern Illinois

      Interesting article..Enjoyed the read and quotes....

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      Miche Wro 

      5 years ago

      I absolutely love this hub! A few months shy of 40 but my sex life with my 43 year old partner is great!! We don't have less sex...we have more sex! Especially on the weekends...we can't keep our hands off each other!

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      5 years ago from Planet Earth

      Nice Hub. A good read!

    • dashingscorpio profile image


      5 years ago

      Excellent hub! Voted up, useful, & awesome! :-)


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