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Sharing With Others Is Important

Updated on June 7, 2012
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Welcome

Just like always a warm welcome to all who have stopped by the Fireside. It is always a gift to find you here. Thank you all for stopping by and saying hello and may you leave some love and take some away with you.

I was reminded today of something by a dear friend and the importance of sharing with each other our true feelings. I suppose the question is why we fail to do so as often as we should and it is the reason I have decided to write on this tonight. A shorty but I do hope it moves you to think about all your relationships.

Gather around, I know it is late but there is an array of goodies, Coffee with creme and sugar on the side, tea herbal and regular and of course Diet Coke. Help yourself curl up in the chair and soak in the last of the heat coming from the Fireside.

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Lets Talk

When was the last time you heard the words coming from the heart of another that spoke "I Love You" with true and meaningful commitment. When was the last time you spoke them to another and truly meant them. Today we are all so caught up in our daily lives we sometimes fail to see our greatest reason for living right under our noses.

There are many different kinds of feeling we can express to each other and yet the word love carries the greatest meaning. I have become a modern man in many ways. Back when I was younger a man would never say to another I love you man. Yet today we hear it, I say it and I do so in such a way it often impacts the listener showing he is a valued friend.

I have had some great people come and go from my life. Some have just been there for a moment in time and yet others for long periods. Can I love them male and female alike and share with them the whys. You bet I can and you bet I do. When I speak it I speak it with meaning and trust it is received as truth.

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The Need

We have all had someone in life whom we have lost through death or separation of one sort or another. We have all missed the chance to say goodbye and have them leave without hearing the words we regret never speaking.

As I look around all who gather here I have no problem saying you matter to me and matter to the many you stop in to say hello to today. We are community and the common ground we have is writing and sharing. Can there be rough waters here in this community. Of course, there are a few I have come across I would never allow to enter and leave a comment because of past dealings. They have had their chance and will not have another because of the pain and trust that has been lost.

Trust is a time tested way of telling if love and caring are real. It is something that has taken years to learn and something to not be casually thrown away. It takes time to build relationships and at the end of the day when we leave this world it is all that matters because it is all we take with us.

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A young man has left home in anger towards his wife or child. A older man the same with his wife. Maybe even the other way around.

As they are driving to work the unspeakable happens there is a terrible accident and they slowly pass away. What are the thoughts going through their minds. I can tell you what mine would be. I would be wanting to say I'm sorry. Then what of the news that come to the loved ones left behind. Consider their feeling at not only the loss but the bitter words spoken.

I beg of each of you to never need to go through such a thing. To avoid it speak what is on your heart and do so with a heart that speaks the truth. Speak it with a new conviction understanding it may be the last chance you have. There is a great peace in sharing your true feelings with others.

I heard those words today, words of caring, words of meaning and words I hold dear to my heart. Not only be a good listener but be a better speaker of your feelings. The benefits and understanding of what will take inside outweigh never saying a word.

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      Rolly A Chabot 5 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Morning Cathleena... Thanks for the comment and yes I agree with you. I do think if the world took the time to speak such words and care from the heart it woud be a better place.

      Hugs from Canada

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      Cathleena Beams 5 years ago from Lascassas, Tennessee

      Okay - I'm sending my husband to talk with you! Just kidding, but I do like what you have to say. It is good for guys to learn how to say "I love you" to others. It takes a strong, confident, capable man that understands what is important in life to do this. Thank you for sharing your insights into what true character is. Awesome hub!

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      Rolly A Chabot 5 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Sharyn... so glad you were able to vist... always a blessing and you can nap all you like. Sorry for your loss but Mom knew she was loved because you took the time to tell her.

      As I was reading I could not help but think of my Mom... 91 and her memory is slipping and yet the words I love you perk her spirits daily when I call. Everything else may be forgotten but those words warm her heart.

      Hugs from Canada...

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      Sharon Smith 5 years ago from Northeast Ohio USA

      Hi Rolly,

      I just love the wisdom that you share with us all. Sharing is SO important. I was devastated when my mother passed away unexpectedly yet I never regretted that I let her know I loved her every single time we talked. The fireside was so relaxing, I think I need a nap now. (that's a good thing:)

      Sharyn

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      Rolly A Chabot 5 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Audrey... thanks for the visit and yes I think over the years of the many times I have forgotten to say so and have come to regret not doing so.

      Hugs from Canada

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      Audrey Howitt 5 years ago from California

      What a great message contained in this hub--we all get so caught up we forget to say I love you in a meaningful way--Thank you! And cheers!

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      Rolly A Chabot 5 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Pam... Thanks for stopping in and saying hello... great to see you as always and yes it is so very important to stop what we are doing and remember to share the love we have for others... know that you are dearly loved...

      Hugs

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      Rolly A Chabot 5 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Pam... good to see you again... smiles... been missing you but I think life catches up to us all on occasion... good you are here.

      Many Hugs

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      Pamela Oglesby 5 years ago from United States

      I love your fireside chats that are so wise and filled with truths that remind us what is most important in life, and this was no exception. God Bless.

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      Rolly A Chabot 5 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Paulsen Hall and thank you for coming by and enjoying the Fireside... Good to have you join us.

      Big waves from Canada

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      Paulsen Hall 5 years ago from Kampala, Uganda

      awesome writing Rolly, i sit at my imaginary fireside and enjoy our chat to the fullest,thanx for sharing...

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      Rolly A Chabot 5 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Morning Gypsy Rose Lee... welcome again to the Fireside and the wonderful comment. Unless we make peace we have no peace.

      Hus from Canada

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      Gypsy Rose Lee 5 years ago from Riga, Latvia

      Voted up and awesome! We must take the time each day to consider what and who is important to us and never let anger and bitterness destroy a relationship. I find my peace in the Lord and when things don't go my way I simply look toward the Heavens and find inner peace and then go on and right what is wrong. You said it so beautifully thank you for your inspirational words.

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      Rolly A Chabot 5 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Juliana... glad to see you made it through the challenge and were able to rest here a little while. I not forgive or share love is a terrible way to go through life... Been there and done that and refuse to go back... smiles... to you and all who read this know that you are loved.

      Hugs from Canada

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      Rolly A Chabot 5 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Rosemay50... so true and far to often it happens where things are left unresolved or apoken. Thank you for the connection to your awesome poem.

      Hugs from Canada

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      Julianna 5 years ago from SomeWhere Out There

      I always take your words to heart. We should always tell the people we love that we do love them. If we were arguing we should say we are sorry. And we should always forgive those who trespass against us. Another wonderful hub. Thumbs up and shared. :)

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      Rosemary Sadler 5 years ago from Hawkes Bay - NewZealand

      A beautiful meassage Rolly and one I tried to share here.

      http://rosemay50.hubpages.com/hub/Dont-Sleep-yet

      We all need to remember that life can be whisked away in the blink of an eye.

      A beautiful meaningful hub and exqusite photos.

      Thank you for sharing

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      Rolly A Chabot 5 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Always... hugs for doing what you are suppose to do. Good for you it is so important.

      Hugs to you... you are a dear friend

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 5 years ago from Southern Illinois

      This is wonderful Rolly. So many times i have missed saying goodby. Today, I never miss a chance of telling those close to me, " I love you. " I want to tell you that your pictures are very beautiful. Thank you for sharing...

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      Rolly A Chabot 5 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Dave... we all need to be in that place... trusting all is well with you and the Mrs and all the beaners... Good to chat with you the other day.

      Waves from way up here

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      DavePrice 5 years ago from Sugar Grove, Ill

      I runnin full speed into the modern times, 'cause I LOVE YOU MAN!

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      Rolly A Chabot 5 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi ChristyWrites... thanks for stopping by and saying hello and pleased to hear you enjoyed my ramblings... Good to hear you have gleaned a message here and please do step out and tell all those in your life of just how much they mean to you.

      Hugs from Alberta

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      Rolly A Chabot 5 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Kimberly... so great to see you here and thanks for the comment. Spring has arrived so the fires may be less because of the heat but you will always find warmth love and company here.

      Alberta Hugs to You

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      Christy Birmingham 5 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      What a heartfelt message here Rolly. We must never take each other for granted! Your words are not lost on me my friend.

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      kimberlyslyrics 5 years ago

      Rolly you are an inspiration and a great writer, These fire logs will be seeing much more of me

      Oh how I thank you

      Kimberly

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      Rolly A Chabot 5 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi lifegate... The mark is a good one for us all to remember after writing it I had come to realize it was something I was failing at... smiles... so for the record Love you Bro...

      Hugs from Canada

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      William Kovacic 5 years ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

      Rolly,

      I so much enjoy reading you, but this one left a mark. Thanks for the challenge to live everyday like it was our last. One day it will be. Oh, and those pictures are beautiful.

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      Rolly A Chabot 5 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Morning prairieprincess... sorry to hear about Grandpa... hugs to you for what you are facing. It is hard to try and understand why sometime. Thank you for reading this and know along the journey you are not traveling alone...

      Many Hugs from Alberta

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      Rolly A Chabot 5 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Louise... and you have a great weekend as well... stick you head out the door and listen to the birds telling us all it is time to wake up and get ready for some great weather.

      Trust all is well with you and the family... congrates on the wonderful website. You are an amazing writer and researcher.

      Hugs

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      Sharilee Swaity 5 years ago from Canada

      So very true, Rolly. I am thinking about this very thing a lot lately, as my Grandpa was just diagnosed with cancer. This is a sobering hub and I appreciate you sharing it. Take care!

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      Cloverleaf 5 years ago from Calgary, AB, Canada

      Thanks for another great fireside chat, Rolly! You do such a great job of spreading the love. I hope you have a wonderful weekend!

      Voted up and awesome.

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      Rolly A Chabot 5 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Billy.. thank you for the comment and it has touched me deeply. Consider yourself hugged.... smiles.

      Smiles from Canada

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      Rolly A Chabot 5 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Jackie... it is far bigger than we know and the impact love can have on on others when we share it. Thanks for the visit and know that you and all others are loved here...

      Hugs

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Truer words were never spoken my friend. I love our little fireside chats and here I will give you the highest praise I can...I respect you as a person.

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      Jackie Lynnley 5 years ago from The Beautiful South

      Love is so big isn't it? It is so wonderful and who would ever want to live without it? You have some beautiful words to remind us, thank you so much and may God bless you for touching so many.

      Jackie

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      Rolly A Chabot 5 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Ruchira ... thanks for reading and commenting... it is something we should never fail to do... so very important to share with others just the way we feel...

      Hugs from Canada

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      Ruchira 5 years ago from United States

      What a beautiful message Rolly. I totally agree with your message.

      Thanks for the enlightenment. Voted up indeed as beautiful.

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      Rolly A Chabot 5 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi CC... thank you for te visit and so pleased to hear you enjoy the Fireside... Book... smiles... well one can never tell...

      Hugs from Canada

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      Rolly A Chabot 5 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Morning Marcy... thanks for the comment and you are so right when you say "Even a few hours can let the opportunity slip away." Well spoken and one which catches your breath when you think of the chance to share with another.

      Hugs from Canada

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      Rolly A Chabot 5 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Good morning Ardie... glad you could make it to the Fireside and spend a little time reflecting. Our words and our actions towards others speak volumes. Sometimes our feelings towards others and I think this is where we all need to become more open. Thanks for stopping by...

      Hugs fro Canada

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      Cynthia Sageleaf 5 years ago from Western NC

      I love your fireside chats. :) You write so beautifully. These could all become a book! Cheers!

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      Marcy Goodfleisch 5 years ago from Planet Earth

      What a touching reminder that we have only the moment we're in to enjoy our loved ones; even a few hours can let that opportunity slip away forever.

      Beautiful photos, and tender words. Thanks!

      Voted up, beautiful and awesome.

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      Sondra 5 years ago from Neverland

      You leave such a beautiful and important message behind with your words today :) Its not always easy to remember to tell others how you feel about them but you must make the effort. I hope each person in my life knows how much I care through both my words and my actions. Thank you for reminding me of this.