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Should you Reconnect with Lost Loves

Updated on May 15, 2017
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Would you go to Great lengths to Rekindle Lost Loves?

Most couples reunite years later after divorced or widowed and take off from where they left.

· They find each again and don't have to think about the ''what ifs''

After many years of thinking about ''what if'' they finally get together and rekindle lost love.

· An example of rekindling with lost love:

A guy in his twenties dated many times and each time he found someone they managed to form a relationship. After a year they would break up.

It was his or her fault.

During this time he met a woman and fell in love with her they were inseparable until their romantic relationship took a bad turn.

They had to separate and did not see each other again.

He formed a relationship with someone he met at a nightclub they were good together but one problem was on his mind.

He could not move on freely without thinking of ''what if.''

· An Example:

The relationship with his new partner was fine. They married and had two kids and tried to make their marriage work.

The background of each partner being so unstable in relationships they both wanted their relationship to workout.

A few years into their marriage he caught his wife in the act cheating on him.

Things unraveled itself in this marriage.

He wanted to be with his wife but was not as happy as he would have been with his lost love.

He divorced his wife and remained single for a while.

Life for him was more exciting in his previous relationship with his lost love.

The ex girlfriend (lost love) had also, been divorced for a while.

They met one day while in the local store and it was a great moment for both. After a brief conversation they exchanged telephone numbers and from then on they were connected.

Both partners have kids from previous marriages and are all fine with that part of their relationship. Their love for each other was more meaningful and would last a lifetime.

He did not give up on love but gave up on a less meaningful relationship.

Love has no boundaries and no time. Love can happen at any time or place.

The lost love rekindled with more emotions and less differences.

They had to get to know each other all over again but that did not matter their lifetime together.

When people get older their second chances grow even more.

The results are more satisfying and their lives become richer and warmer.

The memories don’t just disappear it is what holds the actual past of any individual. Sometimes you feel the need to make peace while aging.

Though can be a possibility for many couples.

When you and your lost love are married to other partners it does make a difference and the relationship can be kept on a platonic level if you let it be.

Modern technology has made many lives easy to find their long lost loves.

If you choose to go in that direction watches out for those old feelings coming back it could be a problem on your hands.

A simple email to a lost love can ruin a good marriage and that is exactly what is happening in this modern day.

One can become obsessive about their lost love and try to stay in contact with the other person. Once the contact is made all issues can start all over with the good marriage.

You can't go back and resolve the ''what ifs.'' Think about what you have that should be an important part of your life and not the past.

Your choice has been made and you can't undo it. If you have something good keep it.

· Many good marriages crumble because of lost loves.

Addictions such as, drinking, drugs, gambling or some of other riskier behaviors.

They tend to perform this way even after marriage.

Their past keeps them from going forward.

The thought of getting back together with a lost love comes to mind and that can make them fall into their old habits.

What they crave for has to be and that becomes their final decision.

An emotional affair can take place very quickly if you lose control of your feelings.

· For example:

If you had a vivid dream of your lost love you get up and think about that person and would want to take action. You want to make something happen because your dream has clouded your mind.

You can't blame your dreams for your wrong actions.

· Sometimes lost loves are just curious and want to know more about the ''what ifs.''

All old feelings won't die out you can't close off those feelings. Two people who were committed to each other this can be from a romantic relationship to a marriage.

It is bound to come up in conversations. The person can't get rid of their old flames.

You have to be educated to understand these feelings of a lost a love. It is easy to misunderstand the whole aspect and turn frustrated and become unhappy.

It can be easily misunderstood when contacted by the lost love. Be clear from the start and don't take anything seriously. Be innocent and be straight about the contact.

Your current partner must know from the beginning then there would be no complications or secrets to hide.

· A lost love relationship is rarely successful.

Avoid thinking it will work out. Face up to reality.

You are no longer that vulnerable teenager. Going back and make it all right again is not an option.

· Do you think a lost love brings benefits to a current relationship?

Unfortunately, it brings no benefits to the current relationship. Here the person is not focused on the current relationship instead trying to bring back the past.

An individual recently made the mistake of re-connecting with someone they had dated over thirty years ago. At that time of contacting the lost love the person was in a vulnerable state.

A happily married person for thirty years and is a successful individual.

It was a stupid choice to make and to rekindle with a lost love is ridiculous unless both are not committed to other relationships.

Don't go there it would ruin all you have worked for most of your life.

People make mistakes and sometimes it is good to think about what you are going to do logically before even getting into it.

· An example:

A man divorced his wife over twenty years ago and refuses to stay Friends with her.

They have two children who are now in their forties.

· Do you think this man should be friends with his ex-wife?

· Would there be old sparks if they just stayed friends?

· Does a part of this man still love her even though he is happily remarried?

It is a betrayal to other partners if one chooses to contact their lost love.

· Would you like the chance to relive your adolescent life with your lost love?

Remember lost loves are no longer teens or children anymore. They are grown into adults with different lives and needs.

A simple and pure love might be it is your choice how you want to live the rest of your life.

Her husband has been in contact with his lost love for years via email and Face book. She has been married twice and now the husband wants to introduce his wife to his lost love.

Do you think the wife should be concerned or worried about the idea of meeting the the lost love?

The wife has no desire to meet her.

The husband defends his lost love and says he has no intentions with her.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Shyron thank you for all votes you kindness is highly appreciated thank you verymuch.

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      Shyron E Shenko 3 years ago from Texas

      Devika, I don't believe it would work out, there had to be a reason it did not work in the first place.

      Very interesting, voted up, UAI, and shared

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      ubanichijioke you a so right and every individual has a different opinion on this one some would like to be friends glad you feel the opposite it does not always go well. Thank you for commenting.

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      Alexander Thandi Ubani 3 years ago from Lagos

      Lost love? No way! No need of rekindling such feelings when you are happily married. When a man/woman is married, it is better to let go of the past no matter how sweet. No friendship, No contacts! LOL.

      well, that's for me.

      good write.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      billys1 ''I do not see the harm of being friends with a person that is a part of our past life.'' is right on neither do I. Thank you for sharing your comment here I appreciate your time and effort. Have a nice day.

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      billys1 3 years ago from "Somewhere", USA

      I answered "To happily married to think about it" to the poll above but if the opportunity ever did present itself, and the other person would keep things on a platonic basis then I would see no harm in being friends with a former love that was in my life. I know myself well enough to know that I, at least, could and would keep it on a strictly platonic level. In our marriage there are two people, of course, and both of us have had and do have lives outside of our home. I totally trust my wife and she totally trusts me. We both are to happily married to ruin our relationship by overstepping the bounds that we have set up for ourselves. A"Former Love" is just that, former of our past lives, not in our present one. So, with that said and within that situation I do not see the harm of being friends with a person that is a part of our past life. Plus I would make sure that my wife knew about the old friend that I was being friends with and include her in any meetings with the other person, if my wife wanted to be there. and vice versa.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thank you Cherylann it would be different once you have become an adult.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi starstream so true about people changing that is so often the issue and letting go is hard thank you

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Cris Sp thank you kindly for commenting on my hubs.

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      Cherylann Mollan 3 years ago from India

      Hi DDE! Very interesting article. I think it's a matter of time. When you're just out of a relationship with someone, and your heart is still raw from all the loving, hurting and loosing, at this time, I think I would buy into the lost love meeting again suggestion. But, somehow time passes by, you meet new people, you form a new relationship, a new habit, a new comfort level, you change somehow. Now, If you had to meet the lost love, I think things would be different, simply because you would be different. But, it's a nice thought anyway. :)

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      Dreamer at heart 3 years ago from Northern California

      This is a great subject to discuss here. Thanks for sharing it with us. The thing is people grow and change. Time cannot stand still to pick up where you left off long ago. There may be a few exceptions.

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      CrisSp 3 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      More like a recipe for disaster as Bill said. Similar to the story of "love in the time if cholera", which is great but success rate of going back to your past is quite questionable.

      Interesting, well written article.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Susan thank you for sharing your thoughts here

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      ChristyWrites you are so right ''it may not be reality if those two people do meet again,'' thank you

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      Susan 3 years ago from India

      Interesting topic and very well written. I don`t have any lost lover whom I can reconnect but I would never go back to my past.

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      Christy Birmingham 3 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      It certainly is an interesting topic, DDE. I think that many people develop an idea of what it would be like to be with the lost love - but it may not be reality if those two people do meet again. Well written and good points here!

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Well said grand old lady you know exactly what i mean as others do in their added comments thank you

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      Mona Sabalones Gonzalez 3 years ago from Philippines

      Better to find someone new than go back to an old love.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      rasta 1 thank you

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      Marvin Parke 3 years ago from Jamaica

      Lost loves are fantasies but I have seen it happen before. I wish it could happen to me but a very long shot.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      FlourishAnyway well mentioned thank you

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      kidscrafts thank you for the continuous support enjoy the rest of the weekend

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Ericdierker, thank you for commenting

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      billybuc ''besides, they are lost for a very good reason. :)'' dead right thank you

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      FlourishAnyway 3 years ago from USA

      They didn't work out the first time for a reason. Beware, beware unless both are single.

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      Suzanne Day 3 years ago from Melbourne, Victoria, Australia

      It would be unusual for the adults to reconnect as lost loves as they ARE different people with different lives. Having said that, we've all met people who are "soul mates" with us from the minute we meet them - if such a soul mate were lost to me and came back, I would certainly be pleased to have them back in my life. Voted awesome!

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      kidscrafts 3 years ago from Ottawa, Canada

      I don't have "lost loves" and I am quite happy about that :-))))

      Have a great weekend!

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      I think I get it. Been there a few times and it worked out just great. I am sure glad that right now my wife of over ten years keeps me way too busy to even think of such stuff.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      That's a recipe for disaster and I think I'll pass on the chance. Much too happy with Bev to mess around with "lost loves"....besides, they are lost for a very good reason. :)