Should You Reconnect With Lost Loves

Most couples reunite years later after being divorced or widowed and take off from where they left.

They find each other again and do not have to think about the ''what ifs'' After many years of thinking about ''what ifs'' they finally get together and rekindle lost love.

· An example of rekindling lost love:

A guy in his twenties dated many times and each time he found someone they managed to form a relationship. After a year they would break up. It was his or her fault.

During this time, he met a woman and fell in love with her they were inseparable until their romantic relationship took a bad turn. They had to separate and did not see each other again.

He formed a relationship with someone he met at a nightclub they were good together, but one problem was on his mind. He could not move on freely without thinking of ''what if.''

An Example:

The relationship with his new partner was fine.

They married and had two kids and tried to make their marriage work.

The background of each partner was so unstable in relationships that they both wanted their relationship to work out.

A few years into their marriage he caught his wife in the act of cheating on him.

Things unravelled themselves in this marriage. He wanted to be with his wife but was not as happy as he would have been with his lost love.

He divorced his wife and remained single for a while. Life for him was more exciting than his previous relationship with his lost love.

The ex-girlfriend (lost love) had also, been divorced.

They met one day while in the local store and it was a great moment for both. After a brief conversation, they exchanged telephone numbers and from then on, they were connected.

Both partners have kids from previous marriages and are all fine with that part of their relationship.

Their love for each other was more meaningful and would last a lifetime.

He did not give up on love but gave up on a less meaningful relationship.

Love has no boundaries and no time. Love can happen at any time or place.

The lost love was rekindled with more emotions and fewer differences.

They had to get to know each other all over again but that did not matter during their lifetime together. When people get older their second chances grow even more.

The results are more satisfying, and their lives become richer and warmer.

The memories do not just disappear it is what holds the actual past of any individual.

Sometimes you feel the need to make peace while ageing.

Though can be a possibility for many couples.

When you and your lost love are married to other partners it does make a difference and the relationship can be kept on a platonic level if you let it.

Modern technology has made many lives to find their long-lost loves.

If you choose to go in that direction watch out for those old feelings coming back to you, it could be a problem on your hands.

A simple email to a lost love can ruin a good marriage and that is exactly what is happening in this modern day.

One can become obsessive about their lost love and try to stay in contact with the other person.

When there is a contact other issues can start over and make a good marriage go bad.

Think about what you have that should be an important part of your life and not the past.

Your choice has been made and you cannot undo it.

If you have something good keep it.

Many good marriages crumble because of lost love.

Addictions such as drinking, drugs, gambling, or some other riskier behaviours.

They tend to perform this way even after marriage.

The thought of getting back together with a lost love comes to mind and that can make them fall into their old habits.

An emotional affair can take place very quickly if you lose control of your feelings.

For example:

If you had a vivid dream of your lost love you get up and think about that person and would want to act.

You want to make something happen because your dream has clouded your mind.

You cannot blame your dreams for your wrong actions.

Sometimes lost loves are just curious and want to know more about the ''what-ifs.''

Good old feelings will not die out and you cannot close off those feelings.

Two people who are committed to each other can go from a romantic relationship to a marriage.

It is bound to come up in conversations.

The person cannot get rid of their old flames.

Your current partner must know from the start there would be no complications or secrets to hide.

A lost love relationship is rarely successful.

Face up to reality. You are no longer that vulnerable teenager. Going back and making it right again is not an option.

· Do you think a lost love brings benefits to a current relationship?

Unfortunately, it brings no benefits to the current relationship. Here the person is not focused on the current relationship instead of trying to bring back the past.

An individual recently made the mistake of reconnecting with someone they had dated over thirty years ago.

At the time of contacting the lost love, the person was in a vulnerable state. A happily married person for thirty years and is a successful individual.

It was a stupid choice to make and to rekindle with a lost love is ridiculous unless both are not committed to other relationships.

Don't go there it would ruin all you have worked for most of your life. People make mistakes and sometimes it is good to think about what you are going to do logically before even getting into it.

· An example:

A man divorced his wife over twenty years ago and refuses to stay friends with her. They have two children who are now in their forties.

· Do you think this man should be friends with his ex-wife?

· Would there be old sparks if they just stayed friends?

· Does a part of this man still love her even though he is happily remarried?

It is a betrayal of other partners if one chooses to contact their lost love.

Would you like the chance to relive your adolescent life with your lost love?

They are grown into adults with different lives and needs. A simple and pure love might be it is your choice of how you want to live the rest of your life.

Her husband has been in contact with his lost love for years via email and Facebook. She has been married twice and now the husband wants to introduce his wife to his lost love.

Do you think the wife should be concerned, about the idea of meeting the lost love?

The wife has no desire to meet her. The husband defends his lost love and says he has no intentions.

You must be educated to understand these feelings of a loss of love.

Easier to misunderstand the whole aspect and become frustrated and become unhappy.

It can be easily misunderstood when contacted by the lost love. Be clear from the start and do not take anything seriously. Be innocent and be straight about the contact.