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Since When Was It Okay To Tell Others How to Live?

Updated on June 2, 2013

What is Right for You, is not for everyone.

There are so many hubs/threads here at Hubpages telling others how they should live. Religions squabbling over whose God is right and whose isn't. Atheists squabbling over the reality of religious beliefs and Gods in general. Those for and against Marriage Equality etc etc etc.

Today, I've had enough.

Who are we to tell others how to live their lives?

So what if you've found a God who completes you - Mary Jane Smith has a different one who completes her, how would you feel if she told you yours was wrong?

Who are we to say who and who cannot get married - if TWO people love each other, isn't that what matters? Sure, there are many many loveless marriages out there - doesn't mean that everyone has to be the same.

Threat to straight marriage? Since when is the celebration of love a threat to anything? But, hey, I'm not judging your marriage views - I'm asking a question.

Who said God is better than Buddha, or that Buddha is better than Vishnu? Or that one God is better than many, or vice versa.

Are we THAT insecure?

It has got to be a case of severe insecurity if we have to tell others whose Gods, lifestyles, love lives, jobs, opinions etc etc are wrong and that ours are better. Why else would we have a need to push our beliefs on others - even going to the extent of denying rights.

I do understand the somewhat in-built need to tell people about something that makes you feel awesome - such as finding a religion that makes you feel better about yourself, or an experience that changed your life. But, whilst it may be awesome for you, and I guess you'd love everyone to experience it - it is NOT right for everyone.

That's why they don't force straight people into gay marriages, or kill people now if they aren't Christians, or don't believe the world is flat (Oh, how far we have come!).

We DO NOT have that right

We do not have the right to tell someone else how they should live, who they should love, which God they must follow. So, why is it that we still do it??? And how do we stop?

- Do Unto Others as You Would Have Them Do Unto You or And if it harm none, do as ye will. Think before you speak - would you like it if someone said or told you to change things about you or yours, in the way that you were about to? No? Then, what gives you the right to do that to them?

- Those who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones - Do you live a perfect life? If not, how can you expect people to meet standards you set, when you cannot meet them yourself?

- Love is Love is Love - Love of God, Love of Life, Love of others - gender irrelevant.

Now, if you stop and think of these things - you will realise - you would hate people to do what you were about to do to someone else. Tell them how to live their life. Now, what you will most likely do is: Smile, hopefully at the person you were about to tell off, and walk away.

Doesn't that feel better?

Thanks, and a challenge

Thanks, in part, to a Hubber who shall remain nameless - for the hub that drove me to this.
What was it about, you ask? Suggestions on how to live a life that would be pleasing to God, by denying a huge part of a person, merely because this Hubber felt that that kind of lifestyle would be displeasing to God. Neglecting to realise - God makes us all in his image. To live a life that denies one who they are is not a life ordained by God, but more a snub to his creation. I cannot tell him (Hubber) how to live, because I do not have that right. But I can live the way I was ordained to. And I shall

Do you think you can manage to live without telling others how to live? Let me know!

Oh, and by the way, I do recognise a irony in me telling you how to not tell others how to live - this is a challenge - for us all!


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    • jlpark profile imageAUTHOR


      4 years ago from New Zealand

      Thanks Elsie, for yr comments and reading this hub.

    • Elsie Hagley profile image

      Elsie Hagley 

      4 years ago from New Zealand

      Interesting reading, I agree with you no one has the right to tell others how to live. Enjoy living your life, if you are happy nobody else matters, no matter what they say, be happy.

    • jlpark profile imageAUTHOR


      5 years ago from New Zealand

      Emanate - I appreciate the irony of the hub...I was ....expressing my viewpoint, and providing an idea that people may choose to take up if they wish! *smiles*

      I think it hit a spot - after a night of just gaffawing at the ridiculousness of some people's ideas around LGBT etc - when I came across someone who thought telling me how to live in a way that would please God (and most likely keep the Hubber from feeling uncomfortable..) thinking he was right in doing so, as well as posting another hub as though an authority on a group of people he obviously knew nothing about (same group as the "pleasing to god").....I'd finally had enough. By the way, even though I was polite - my comments to said person were deleted - so I followed the recommendation of the answers to my question! .

      Usually I live as you would do - "is that so?" etc. I think it was the straw that finally made me put what I had been trying for months to put into words - into words.

      Thanks for reading and providing an interesting take on it in your comments.

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      Gary R. Smith 

      5 years ago from the Head to the Heart

      Is your hub telling others how to live, or just expressing your viewpoint?

      I respect the right of every person to their beliefs and choices.

      All of us have the choice whether or not we read a hub or a comment, and if it hits a hot spot we have a choice whether to respond or not. If someone comes across as telling me how to live, I usually prefer to respond with 'Is it so?' or 'That certainly is one way to look at it' and then let it go.

    • jlpark profile imageAUTHOR


      5 years ago from New Zealand

      Laura - thanks for reading mu hubs. I believe I was in the perfect headspace and frame of mind to be able to get out just what I wanted to say when I wrote this....I really should thank the hubber again, but then again - they were an example of a hubber I strive not to be.

      I believe that you are able to close the comments if you want - I've never tried it - my BP may thank me if I did but hey it's low anyway!

      I've learned a lot here, about a lot of things. I do enjoy my time here, it's only occasionally I get annoyed - usually if I'm being told how I should live by someone who is righteously trying to tell me I'm going to hell....(grins)...but I've learnt to smile, and walk away when I've had enough.

      I've been here...6mths - I've earnt a huge $1.15 as of today! But I'm happy.

      And hey - this is my new philosophy - the content of this hub. I feel much better already.

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      Laura Tykarski 

      5 years ago from Pittsburgh PA

      I'm glad you were shoved this hub says it all. I have been here for 13+ months and haven't seen anything written so straight-forward and bare-bones honest. I have met some stunningly good writers here but also some folk strangely bent on regularly telling other hub-writers (through at times abusive comments) just how they should-live,believe or act. I've hesitated on several story-lines not wanting the back-lash I have seen on other hubs but the fact remains theological themes seem to be hot-traffic producing animals here. Those interested in more profit then conscience will continue to comment. I myself have been here to learn how to produce decent web-based over a year I've only made a whopping $3.00 but what I have gotten here has been something beyond the buck. Experience.


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