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Single and Seeking Someone Special? Dealing With Frustrating American Singles Dating Process
If you're single and seeking someone special to love, marry or just date, it's hard not to get discouraged by the frustrating American singles' dating process.
What makes matters worse is that singles often get bad dating advice from well-meaning family and friends; they often suggest that a single man or woman needs some form of makeover to find someone special.
If you're like most single women or men, you're probably having issues with your self-worth for not finding your soul mate or someone to date. You may be very vulnerable to suggestions that you're single and alone because you're too fat, too thin, too tall, too short, too much or too little of something.
So, what do you do?
You go on a diet to get thinner... or you bulk up by bodybuilding... or you get a new wardrobe or a new hairstyle... or you get a hair transplant or get hair removal done... blah... blah... blah. And when you still don't find that special someone, what do your well-meaning family and friends tell you? You must not have made enough changes! Don't you just want to scream?
Well, you don't have to go along with what people are saying. Yes, your family and friends have good intentions. But, you've probably heard that "the road to hell has been paved with good intentions."
When you're looking for that special someone, it's very important for you to take a closer look at yourself. Figure out who you really are and what your needs are. Learn to accept and respect yourself -- warts and all.
Of course, it's important to be the best person you can be and make the best use of your gifts. When it comes to finding someone special, you're most likely to be good enough to find someone wonderful just the way you are. If you're like most singles, you don't really need cosmetic changes or even a quick-fix therapy to find someone special. Someone out there will be very lucky to find someone like you.
What can you do if you're not meeting other interesting singles? Just like everything else, dating is a numbers game.
You have to meet a lot of singles to find the ones that share your interests and your values. And among these singles, you still have to find the ones that you can get along with. And among the singles that share your interests and values as well as those that you can also get along with, you also have to have chemistry. In addition to everything else, you have to be attracted to each other.
Can you see why it's extremely difficult to meet someone special if you're just relying on meeting a couple of singles every few weeks or months?
What's the solution?
Millions of American singles dating and meeting other interesting single men or women use online dating services or single's services in their local communities. When you can narrow down your choices to tens or even hundreds of singles in your area, finding someone special is no longer impossible. Imagine how you're going to feel when you finally find that special someone!
If you're single and seeking a special man or woman, you can take control of your love life and your social life. You can make it easier on yourself to find that special someone sooner rather than later by using local dating and matchmaking services or online singles' services (also known as cyberdating, computer or virtual dating). Enjoy singles' nights, dances, parties, events and other activities. You owe it to yourself to just do it.
You can meet new friends to hang out with. Meet someone to date or meet your soul mate. You deserve it. Just have fun!