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So You've Decided To Get Married

Updated on March 10, 2014
Bride and Groom
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"Good plans shape good decisions. That's why good planning helps to make elusive dreams come true."~Geoffrey Fisher


So you've decided to get married! What an incredibly wonderful time for both you and your partner as well as your family members and friends. You have so much to look forward to during the planning process. But wait a minute.....why is it that you're suddenly awake at 4:00 in the morning in a cold sweat and panicking? Have you finally realized that you haven't a clue as to where to begin? Suddenly the reality starts creeping in that you need help? From the moment you and your partner agree to go down that blissful nuptial road, you should decide on whether or not you will hire a wedding planner.

Hiring A Certified Wedding And Event Planner?

Although hiring a Certified Wedding and Event Planner for your wedding can be a worthwhile decision, the truth is that many couples can't afford the cost involved. Some Planners charge by the hour, some by a flat rate and others charge 10% or more of the total cost of the wedding. In most cases it is money well spent but some would find the cost best utilized elsewhere. Others just like the idea of being in control of their own wedding plans. Whatever the case may be, you too can achieve your dream wedding without the help of a professional planner.

The Wedding Planner
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Things To Come....

Together we will explore topics, over the next few months, such as: Planning Your Engagement; Global Wedding Traditions; Etiquette; Budgeting; Venue Selections; Choosing The Ideal Officiant; Selecting a Photographer and Videographer; Choosing a Cake Vendor; Transportation Options ; Attire; Flowers and Decor; Food and Beverage Selections; Entertainment; Pulling All Of Your Wedding Plans Together; Designing Your Room Layout; Dealing With Special Situations; Bridal Shower; Bachelor and Bachelorette Parties; Arranging a Rehearsal Dinner; Preparing a Wedding Day Emergency Kit and so much more.

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Don't Stress Out!

Regardless of how crazy some days might seem, you must remember to enjoy the planning process and don't stress out over the small things. It doesn't matter whether you spend $5,000 on your wedding or $150,000, there is no such thing as a wedding without some sort of glitch. It is all part of the process. Just keep reminding yourself that "there is no situation that can't be corrected, augmented or modified". Remember that you control the show, the show does not control you. If you keep this mindset, life will be so much easier and you won't be in a constant state of panic.

Even when it comes down to etiquette, (which we'll discuss in more detail later on), if you want to do it differently and it feels right then just do it. This is your day so put your unique stamp on it.

Stressed Out Bride
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"Marriage is an Athenic weaving together of families, of two souls with their individual fates and destinies, of time and eternity--everyday life married to the timeless mysteries of the soul."
~ Thomas Moore


It is interesting how every wedding can be unique, however, the elements are entirely the same. There are certainly differences in budgets, themes, size, food, colour schemes and so on, but essentially weddings are all comprised of the same aspects. There are engagements, gifts, ceremonies, vows, food, drinks, cakes, flowers, dancing, etc.. The only thing that may set one wedding apart from another are perhaps cultural differences and religious beliefs, and even then we seem to find a common ground in most cases. At the end of the day, the purpose is the same, the sentiments are the same and everyone involved have the same intentions. It is to celebrate the union of two people and the coming together of two families.

A wedding is supposed to be one of the most memorable and happiest days of one's life. The truth is, sometimes the road to your big and perfect day can often be filled with overwhelming uncertainty, stressful moments and a truck load of decision making.

The key to successful planning is to do your research, ask questions and don't be afraid to enlist the help of family members or trusted friends. You can't ask for better help than that of those who love and care for you the most. They will only have your best interests in mind. Also, they will feel involved and not left out.

The Happy Couple
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If you stick to your budget and follow a few helpful tips, not only will your wedding planning experience be a happy one, but you will also achieve the type of wedding you have always wanted and dreamed about.

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      rose-the planner 16 months ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      Hello Pinto2011 it was such a pleasure to have you drop by and share your thoughts. I appreciate your lovely comments. I hope you drop by again soon! Take care and have a wonderful day! -Rose

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      Subhas 2 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Earlier in India, the whole family used to divide the different tasks as mentioned by you, but now due to time and distance, we too are hiring and doing things as nicely described by you. Nice to see you here Rose. I will keep visiting your well crafted articles.

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      rose-the planner 4 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      Thank you so much for stopping by Sunny River DIY. I really appreciate it! Take care and have a great day! -Rose

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      Sunny River DIY 4 years ago from A Place Without A Name which resides somewhere between Fantasy and Belief, just north of Reality.

      Great thoughts. :)

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      rose-the planner 4 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      Thank you so much for stopping by Marie. I really appreciate your kind words and support. Thank you for sharing your story with me. Regardless of how you choose to get married, you should never have any regrets. At he end of the day as long as you are with that special someone, that is all that really matters. Take care and have a wonderful day! -Rose

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      Marie Flint 4 years ago from Jacksonville, Florida USA

      Rose, you did a good job on this hub.

      One phrase I noted: there is no situation that can't be corrected, augmented or modified . . . My marriage is over the hill, so I think this is no longer true for me, but it's a nice thought, and reassuring to someone planning a wedding. Mine was elopement style.

      I have no regrets, but if I had it to do over, I'd put a little more into it, and I would want a religious ceremony, complete with blessing. I do think that a reasonable amount of planning is a good start for a couple to see how well they work together before actually saying, " I do." And, inviting friends and family to a dinner-and-dance reception afterwards helps solidify the couple's bond to their community. Marriages done with a little tradition last longer, I think.

      Thanks for sharing your enthusiastic expertise.

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      rose-the planner 4 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      Thank you so much for stopping by thelyricwriter. I really appreciate your kind words and vote up! I hope that one day you and your wife have the perfect celebration. Take care. -Rose

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      Richard Ricky Hale 4 years ago from West Virginia

      Rose, great article. I've been married for nearly 10 years now, but we had a small wedding. My wife and I are wanting to do it right so we're planning to have one as soon as we're able. As of now, we haven't thought about it much because of financial issues. Glad to have somewhere to come and get helpful information such as this. Voted up, useful, awesome, and interesting.

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      rose-the planner 4 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      Thank you so much for stopping by pstraubie48. I really appreciate your kind words and support! Take care and have a wonderful day. -Rose

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      Patricia Scott 4 years ago from sunny Florida

      O, my....I do not plan to ever marry again but if I do I shall come rick back to your site, not just to this article, but to your collection. You cover all of the important aspects of the wedding event.

      My great niece has just gotten engaged. They have not set a date yet but I know her Momma is planning a grand wedding for her. So I shall send this to her.

      Well done...Shared, pinned, and voted up Angels are on the way ps

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      rose-the planner 4 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      That's awesome Emily! Now I am really looking forward to seeing the movie. Take care and have a fabulous day!


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      ediann 4 years ago

      Rose, I feel the same way. Thank you sweetie! Sometimes we have to laugh and a good friend recommended I see We're the Millers and it helped me in my road to recovery as I went to see it dressed as Emily and I never remember laughing so hard and I thought the 4 major actors were amazing. I also love Jennifer Aniston and Emma Roberts. I also thought Jason Sudeikis was great and the kid Will Poulter was also very good. I think you will like it since we have the same appreciation for good movies. I had a fun time and you will too. Take care,


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      rose-the planner 4 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada are so kind Emily! I am so glad that I met someone wonderful like you as well. I have seen The Wedding Planner, 27 Dresses and Bridesmaids (totally hilarious), but I haven't seen We're The Millers yet but I intend to. Thanks for the preview link, I am going to take a look at it. Take care. -Rose

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      ediann 4 years ago

      Rose, I am truly grateful to find such wonderful people as yourself. It is my pleasure to share with you and I am grateful for you kindness, support and understanding and am glad to be following you. One of my favorite movies was the wedding planner which I'm sure you have seen, 27 dresses and recently bridesmaids. All of them are fun to watch!!

      A movie currently in the theaters you must see which I saw twice and loved is this:

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      rose-the planner 4 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      Emily, you are such a kind and genuine individual and I sincerely appreciate your kind words and support. I can just imagine how beautiful your wife was on your wedding day and she sounds like a wonderful person inside and out. You are a very lucky person to have such a wonderful partner and friend in your life. You are so right about the stress of planning a wedding and staying within your budget. However, there are always other considerations as you mentioned, i.e. saving for a house and so on. You are fortunate that your dad was able to contribute, unfortunately many couples have to pay for everything on their own which can be pretty tough. Once again, thank you for stopping by. Take care. -Rose

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      ediann 4 years ago

      Dear Rose, I wish I had come across your very informative and special advice in planning our wedding years ago. I think that is one of the most stressful times for young couples to be and not only do they have to consider their budget for their wedding plans but they also have the burden of trying to save for a house and other major outlays. It has been said that for some young couples to be they try to skimp on their wedding by making planning decisions that cut back for affordability sake. Some even opt out of the wedding reception altogether. We had a nice wedding but a simple one with about 100 guests and we worked on a budget and was fortunate to have financial assistance from my dad. Ideally it would be nice to put the planning in the hands of an expert like yourself. I can see you are very dedicated in what you do and I look forward to reading your beautiful writings. When I married I though my wife looked so beautiful and I was so very proud and I thought to myself that that must be the hardest role to be the bride because they are in the limelight and the center of attention. With that said if I were born female I think I would love to be a bride and in ways being male to female transgender that was something I had thought about from time to time but knew it could never happened so I reveled in my wife's beauty and thought she did a wonderful job as a bride. The pressure to remain composed is most difficult and I'm sure you have many conversations with brides to be about their nervous jitters which is natural. You are a very kind and caring person and I am grateful for your comments on my writings. You make me feel good with your kindness and acceptance. I will share this with you from my blog:

      Love, Emily

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      rose-the planner 4 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      Thank you for stopping by Blondey and for your kind words. I truly appreciate it! Take care! -Rose

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      Blondey Hubpages 4 years ago

      Wow! This is amazing and so helpful! Helpful tips for sure. You've pretty much covered EVERYTHING and yes every wedding is unique! I'm saving this for friends or myself lol if they get engaged. And sharing

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      rose-the planner 4 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      Thank you so much for stopping by RedSirenJulie, I really appreciate it! First of all, congratulations on the upcoming nuptials, that's wonderful. It is difficult to make everybody happy when planning a wedding. Just remember, even though you would love to please everyone, whatever you do, don't compromise your vision of the ideal wedding. After all, this is your wedding and although loved ones mean well, sometimes it is best to politely explain to them that as much as you genuinely appreciate their input, this is your day and you want it to be your dream not theirs. Best of luck to you and your sweetheart! Take care and have a wonderful day! -Rose

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      Julie Ritchie 4 years ago from East Sussex, UK

      Thank you for this. It is so easy to get stressed on the lead up to the big day. We are planning a really small and informal wedding, and still it is easy to get swept away and swayed by others who expect certain things...

      I have to keep reigning in family and friends and we have felt the pressure of expectation.

      We are trying to remember that it is our day and we can have it how we like, and of course we still want to keep the family happy.

      So anything that can help alleviate the stress is useful.

      Voted up.

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      rose-the planner 4 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      Thank you so much for stopping by justmesuzanne and for your kind words, I really appreciate it. Take care. -Rose

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      justmesuzanne 4 years ago from Texas

      Excellent thrifty ideas! Voted up and useful! :)

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      rose-the planner 4 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      mjkearn thank you so much for your kind words and support. You're right, the people on HubPages are awesome.

      Take care and have a great day! -Rose

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      mjkearn 4 years ago

      Hi Rose

      Fabulous hub and great info for those planning to take this step in life.

      I never have and have no intentions of ever doing so, I think, LOL.

      Certainly if I do I will be coming back to your articles for advice.

      Have bookmarked for this very reason.

      Oh and I forgot. Welcome to HP the people are amazing.

      Have a great day.

      Voted up, ticked and shared.


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      rose-the planner 4 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      Thank you so much for your kind words DDE! Have a great day! -Rose

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Interesting, informative and definitely useful to many readers. Great advice on wedding planning

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      rose-the planner 4 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      So nice of you to drop by again. I thank you so much for all your kind and supportive words. We Canadians must stick together, you know. It is cloudy in Toronto right now and we are expecting rain. The mayor is still the mayor, unfortunately. As far as never being married, trust me, it's never too late and you're still a young man. Of course, there is nothing wrong with being a confirmed bachelor either. By the way, I hope you win the Lotto 649 or Max Million and find your beloved Toronto Argonaut Cheerleader. Keep in touch and I hope you enjoy your swim in the lake, (must be nice). Take care. -Rose

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      epigramman 4 years ago

      Well Good afternoon Rose from Colin and his cat crew Tiffy and Gabriel after waking up from night shift sleep - how is the weather in T.O. today and is your Mayor behaving himself, lol.

      Well I am 55 now and never been married but certainly you put together the most amazing hub presentations and I will promote your hubpage on FB so more people can read you .......

      Will try our lotto 649 tonight will is a cool $7million so maybe I won't have to look for a rich woman and just end up with a Toronto Argonaut cheerleader, lol lol, I may take a quick dip in the lake but as I speak the sun is hiding behind clouds again - it may be that kind of summer - keep in touch and so will I and have a wonderful safe and happy evening

      Colin aka the epi-man

      lake erie time ontario 4:30pm

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      rose-the planner 4 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      Thank you so much rajan jolly! I really appreciate it.

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 4 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      Very interesting and I'll like to read the entire series by you, time permitting. Will be bookmarking all these hubs.

      Voted up and useful.

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      rose-the planner 4 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      KoffeeKlatch Gals. Thank you so much! I really appreciate it.

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      Susan Haze 4 years ago from Sunny Florida

      You have some excellent tips and advice. You have done some terrific research. Up and awesome.