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Spiteful Things Partners Do After a Break Up/ When Cheating

Updated on February 20, 2019
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Break up and Cheating Partners

Couples break up worldwide, at different times, and in different cultures. I read of how a man cooked and served his ex girlfriend's dog to her and some people are very spiteful after a break up.

  • The following are examples of how partners reacted in anger toward their ex:

One girl could not take any more lies from her boyfriend, so she put clean cat gravel on his sandwiches his teeth were gritty. An ex girl friend made sandwiches from a road killed frog for her ex to get back at him for the break up. During a divorce trial he wanted the dog and she wanted to leave him penniless.

Her idea was to take away all she could from her ex-husband. Weeks later, a box arrived in the mail for the ex husband and when he opened the box he was speechless. It was full of ashes, the dog's ashes.

  • How far would you go to get back at your ex?

She attempted suicide to get the attention from her ex. On many occasions she tried to crash her car. After the breakup she told all his friends he was an abusive and cheating person.

She became a manipulative individual with that kind of behavior. A couple shared a bank account after spending two years living together. One partner made the other think they had a job when in truth she did not have a day job. (She lied to him).

He got fed up of her lies and ended the relationship and had to close the bank account. While at the bank he was told both parties have to be present to close the account. The ex was not coming around for a while. He took his name off the account and opened a new one.

After having a few thousand dollars in his new bank account and doing well problems arouse. She wanted to get back at him even though she had a new boyfriend.

  • He had lost interest in her!

He found out that there has been some fraudulent activity on his account. His ex girlfriend had written forty thousand dollars in fraudulent checks from their old bank account. He was flat-broke.

She was not working so the trial did not help him. It was a total loss for him and she knew exactly how to get back at him for ending their relationship.

His ex set everything he had left at her place on fire. She tricked him into getting her pregnant. They were dating for a while and she sabotaged the birth control. Once pregnant she cut off all ties with him. He remained civil with her and all she wanted is a child.

  • It was a hoax:

An ex was falsely accused of domestic violence this had taken away her childhood and every photo of good memories. The judge knew it was not true but six months of her life was destroyed.

They were married for many years and one day she starts an affair with his best friend. Prior to that affair he did not spend time with her. So, to get back at him she cheated after their separation.

Horrible relationships in many cases turn out worst than expected. A break up can be a good idea and a bad idea. The thing is you can't live with someone or be with someone if you are not happy.

He gave a random girl his telephone number the next day after a break up.

Was that a spiteful thing to do after a break up?

What you can become after a break up?

Ever thought of what you can become after a break up?




Totally messed-up

Hateful toward gender

Feel hopeless

You tend to mingle with those who have experienced a break up and start plotting bad actions together. When things don't pan out you become your own enemy.

  • Do you think women are more vengeful than men when it comes to a break up?

Most women after a break up feel they can do whatever they want to be vengeful. They don't find anything wrong with their actions. Most men hurt most women and this is without realizing their faults or actions.

On the contrast, women plan out their actions and go ahead with their viciousness. When a man is hurt he drinks it off with some broad and or a one night stand. Women when mad about issues with their partner they find someone they know will affect their partner's thoughts.

  • For example:

She will choose someone her partner does not like just get back at him. Certain people can sink down to many levels. He dumped her after she was really in love with him.

It was so cruel of him to do that to her. The spitefulness that most women can go through is shocking. A man doing something wrong is a big issue and he is yelled about it.

She is often in immense pain after a break up. To feel better she chooses to act out her anger through pain.

Men and women can do evil to each other it is part of life, however, people react differently to hurt and sadness. An ex poured bleach on everything in his apartment. She then kicked and damaged his entertainment systems by throwing all down a flight of stairs.

More bleach and ammonia was poured over these items.

Thereafter, she put all in a garbage bag and took it to the basketball court where he was with friends.

  • Is that spiteful or what?

She secretly made a copy of his house keys and entered quietly with food while she knew he was with another female.

This woman made up the table for three and added laxatives in his food.

  • He knew what her actions meant!
  • She knew he was cheating on her!

The girl told her boyfriend she was pregnant he gave her money to have an abortion she took the money and had a night out with friends. You can be vindictive, manipulative, and spiteful in both genders. I think that women get to a breaking point more than men do in their relationships.

  • Reasons for women behaving in this way:

Women are more emotional and justify their hurt with pain openly. The vicious attack is planned and acted on much later. Some women don't show physical hurt toward men. Women know what they do is wrong but they do it anyway. The intense emotions certainly justify their angry emotions.

  • Women love hard and fall hard.

Karma always catches up with you. If you hurt a woman you will have evil coming toward you. He was devastated after their break up but when he saw at bars having drinks with a few friends he had to get back at her.

The ruthless conversations were about how he felt in a direct way, and the name calling, and the use of vulgar from his side made her sob. He wanted to hear her sob over what she had messed up in their relationship.

Partners can become stalkers and make the life of their ex miserable. In this case, when he broke up with her she became a super stalker. She would sit across from his house almost every night to see if he brought anyone home with him.

She would drive by his workplace, call around and find out where he was, and show up out of nowhere and play out her craziness. Like, one time she kicked in a whole side of his vehicle. Also, she had called him hundreds of times daily. He did not take the matter to the police.

It was hard for him not to speak to her they had a child together. On many visits when they got together to discuss the needs of their child she would go right into a conversation about their relationship. Complicated issues such as this one can make more unnecessary words for couples when together.

Well, some women are like that and some men too are like that too.

A friend hates her ex and she is determined to break up his new relationship.

Her ex had cheated and lied to her for over twenty years.

Her only reason for staying with her husband that long is they have a daughter together. Spiteful things that one can do to their ex after a breakup or when found cheating could be mind blowing to oneself.

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This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2014 Devika Primić


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    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      FlourishAnyway so interesting of that experience. Got me thinking of how lucky CW had been. Thank you.

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      4 years ago from USA

      I know of a divorcing couple years ago who had no children but had a dog between them that they both professed to love. They fought bitterly over who would get custody of the dog. She finally gave in, heartbroken and emotionally spent. When she did, he said he no longer wanted the dog. Then they fought over who had to have custody of the dog, as neither wanted it. A third party (the woman's mother) ended up adopting the poor doggie whose name was CW. CW lived a long and happy life but the bitter couple did not.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      jtrader thank you.

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      4 years ago

      My word, those people are scary.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi fpherj48 I thought of this topic due to the many broken relationships that I have learned of. In almost everyone of these relationships partners had a plan to hurt the other. Thank you for the Up+++ I so appreciate reading your interesting comment.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Pawpawwrites Thank yo for sharing your views here.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      DealForALiving So true! Thank you.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      D.A.L. You always find the best to say and I am so grateful to have read another one of your pleasant comments. Thank you for he vote p, interesting and useful.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      midget38 yeah, true and thank you

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      ChitrangadaSharan thank you for the vote up. I appreciate you commenting at my hubs.

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      4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      One of the most blatantly foolish quotes ever spoken is, "Revenge is sweet." Don't know where it came from or who can claim being it's creator, but it is nothing short of a lie.

      There is nothing "sweet" about intentionally going about to hurt, punish or slander another human being, much less someone you once loved.

      Further, if children are involved, this sort of behavior is the very worst one can entertain. I am always shocked and appalled when men & women think nothing of dragging their precious children through their personal issues. It's unacceptable, unnecessary and in the end, never fails to wreak havoc.

      Alas, human nature prevails and this sort of damaging spitefulness is witnessed all around and far too often.

      The hard core facts of reality are simply impossible for some to deal with, so they want to transfer their pain to the former partner. have brought this to the forefront and given your readers much food for thought. Let's hope you have reached those who will see the light...Up+++

    • Pawpawwrites profile image


      4 years ago from Kansas

      I is amazing how mean people can be. I always believed, that if it was over, just walk away.

    • DealForALiving profile image

      Sam Deal 

      4 years ago from Earth

      This article could be really long if you thought about all the awful stories we see and hear on the news these days... Thanks for tackling this article~

    • D.A.L. profile image


      4 years ago from Lancashire north west England

      What a fantastic article which will surely resonate with many readers. You deal with the subject of Human emotions so wonderfully. It is unbelievable what a rejected or heart broken partner will do to some one they have once loved and shared their life with. You have given some classic examples and I have experienced many more either personally or of friends and family. Great read. Voted up,interesting and useful.

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      Michelle Liew 

      4 years ago from Singapore

      Ah, as they say, there is a very thin line between love and hate. People do the worst things possible!

    • ChitrangadaSharan profile image

      Chitrangada Sharan 

      4 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Sounds horrible!

      A very well written hub with examples. I wish people learn from this and let bygones be bygones and just move on.

      Very thoughtful and useful hub, voted up!

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thank you AliciaC for your constant support.It is always nice to read your opinions.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      alexadry I am glad to have read a comment from you I appreciate you stopping by here.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Sunshine625 To let go is easier said than done for most individuals. Thank you

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Good morning to you MarleneB, defintely a waste of energy and time to act in such awful ways thank you.

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      Linda Crampton 

      4 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      You have described some truly horrible and chilling situations, Devika. It's sad that people can be so cruel when they break up with someone.

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      Adrienne Janet Farricelli 

      4 years ago from USA

      Some sad situations you have listed here. Why are some people capable of moving on while others act on spite? Perhaps insecurity? I cannot comprehend the underlying motives. Great hub as always, DDE.

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      Linda Bilyeu 

      4 years ago from Orlando, FL

      I've never been a spiteful person, I just move on. I read about the guy and the dog, that was just cruel. Any spiteful act is mean. Just let it go...

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      Marlene Bertrand 

      4 years ago from USA

      I have a difficult time understanding why people do such horrible things to the other person when they break up. Yet, the horror stories are plenty. Whenever I have had a breakup I just break up. I leave the situation alone. Even if the other person is trying to get back at me, I don't spend the time or energy on retaliating. It's just too exhausting. I'd rather get on with my life. Still, it was fun to read all the stories you shared.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      dashingscorpio Thank you for sharing your insight on such topics you always have something more to say and that often leaves me thinking about relationships on a other levels too. I appreciate you taking the time to share your opinion.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      billybuc Thank you for sharing your insight here.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello RachaelOhalloran move on is not always the thought of every individual unfortunately some choose to show their bad behaviors. I am glad you stopped by at my hubs. Thank you for the constant comments.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Ericdierker thank you for sharing your direct words here.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi always exploring nice to see you stop by thank you very much.

    • dashingscorpio profile image


      4 years ago

      Some people just refuse to move on with their lives!

      I'm constantly reminding people there are over 7 Billion people on this planet! Odds are in your favor there is someone who wants a person like you!

      In order for your ex to be "the one" they would have to see you as being "the one"! At the very least a "soul-mate" is someone who actually WANTS to be with you! (and vice versa :)

      The opposite of love is not hate. It's indifference.

      If you hate someone it means you still think about them with feeling.

      "Anger is the Mask that Hurt wears."

      Your future lies ahead of you and not behind you. Always move on!

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      Bill Holland 

      4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Someone once said that after a breakup, there is as much hatred as there was once love....I suspect that might be true for many people, but it is hard to understand.

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      Rachael O'Halloran 

      4 years ago from United States

      I've never experienced a break up, and can't imagine such behavior toward the other party.

      It's over, move out and move up.

      Revenge makes people ugly - in mind, body, and soul.

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      Eric Dierker 

      4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Just horrible. But the hub is well written;-)

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      Ruby Jean Richert 

      4 years ago from Southern Illinois

      I can't imagine why anyone would continue with hate actions when the relationship is over. Interesting article. Thank you for sharing..


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