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Success principle: Commitment
We have heard the slogans like Committed to quality, committed to
customers. It speaks about commitment. Every walk of our life seeks
commitment. When you enter into wedlock, you are committed to your
spouse. When you join an organization, they seek your commitment.
Students need to make a commitment to their school and hostel. They
needs to be committed to the rules and regulations. Business
association requires commitment. Parents seeks commitment from their
children. Society seeks commitment form the citizens. Rulers and
presidents make their commitment to the country by taking an oath. We
are living in a world where commitment is a necessity to survive.
Very often we found ourselves braking commitments. Braking commitment attracts unpleasant events. It is painful and no one desires it. But circumstances compel us to brake the commitment. As we grow, our priorities and values change as per the situation. Then we need to replace our old commitments with new ones. When you enter into wedlock, you are making a new commitment. You can't continue your old relations and commitments. If you do so, it would make adverse effect on your married life. You cannot please two partners at a time. If you continue in multiple relations, you would have to pay the price. Your condition would be pathetic as none of them would trust or support you.
Better commitment means better relationship
In short, in order to have a healthy relationship, we need to live a
committed life. Whether it is with your spouse, your children, your
parents or business associates or your employer, you need to keep a
committed life for a better relationship. You would not allow your
child to live a life s/he pleases as long as you provide for them. You
are looking for a commitment from them as you support and provide them
whatever they want. If they misbehave, you would not be happy to
provide for. It is true with us too. If we are not committed to the
omnipotent, He won't be happy to provide for us. You limit your support
to those who disobey. It is natural. In order to have a better
relationship, you need to maintain a better commitment. If we are not
committed to the employer, he won't be supporting you any more. To
have a better relationship, we need to have a better commitment.
Whether it is your spouse, your children, your parents, your colleague or the organization you work for or the society you live seeks commitment from you to have a better relationship. If you are not committed they'll avoid you. Maintaining a better relation is the key to success. For that you need to be committed.
That is why companies says that they are "committed to customers", "committed to quality" etc. Companies are looking for a better relationship with their customers for repeated sales. If they sell poor quality materials to the customers, as against the law of value for money, the relationship between the company and the customers would brake. Customers would not return to such products or services.
In order to be successful in life, we need to maintain the relationship by fulfilling the commitments we made in our life. If you think you can be successful without being committed, you are living in a fools heaven. Every walk of our life need commitment. That is the only way to success.
There are commitment which are short term and longterm. Have you ever heard of the saying "Jack of all trades, master of none". This saying is fitting to those people who spent their time in short term commitments. When you start a business, you need to committed to it for at least 5 years. Then only you will see the results. If you start a blog, you need to committed to it for a long period. After 6 months, you may not see any traffic or monetary benefit from it. When I started with Hubpages, my first few months there, were no earnings. Then the earnings pickup momentum. Gradually it started to increase. Then after 13 months I got my first payment. Many of those who started with me left hubpages after a few months. They said it is a waste of time and effort. They are right. Because short term commitment is a waste of time and effort.
If you are committed to a short period of time, then it is a waste of time. After 6 months I started to get some social networking recognition, links, search engine placement and some traffic etc. It increased my earnings from cent to dollars. If I quit at that point, then the time spent for making hubs were a waste of time and effort. It is same with any kind of business. Over a period of time you will find some good customers. You will get some networking connections and recommendations, loyal customers and good business only if you are committed to your business for a long time.
It is same with the family life. Husbands and wives needs to committed to each other for a long period. Then only they can lead a good family life. After few years of my marriage, there surfaced some differences in between us. Then I sit back and thought of getting out of the wedlock. When I put more thought into the problems, I understand that I cannot get out of the marriage as marriage is for a life time. (I believe Bible) It is a longterm commitment. The only way is to resolve the problem and live together happily. Then I started to understand her views and thoughts. We talk about it and resolved problems and differences one by one. God created one Eve for Adam. Not many. Understanding that truth will help you to make adjustments in your life and continue in your married life. We are now happier than any other couples around us.
Short term commitment is the reason for the increasing number of divorces in the world. We are living in a world where people live together for a short term and move on to another partner. It is hurting. Longterm commitment has its won benefits and joy.
If you change your commitment every 6 months, then after 5 years, you will have 10 types of experience which are of no monetary benefits to you. If you are committed to one project for a long time, you will develop your skills to a point where you will be making money through it. After 3 years with hubpages, I am getting bimonthly (some times monthly) payouts from my hubs. I learned a lot about SEO and other related things.
To the religious: Commitment
In order to live a fulfilling life, we need to live a life that is committed to our God. God is the provider. He is also looking for some commitment from us. To have a better relationship with God, you need to live a committed life. We cannot please men and God at the same time. We want to please men around us. We want to please our spouse, we want to please our neighbor, we want to please our boss, we want to please our kids. At the same time we would struggle to please God.
Wen men come in between you and your God, you need to brake the commitment either with God or with men to please the other. You need to know when to break your commitment to please the highest esteem. Is your God more important than your spouse? Then, in order to please God, you need to brake the commitment with your spouse. Often we does the opposite. We want to please our spouse, relative or boss and we forget God as he is invisible. End result would be the lack of support of God due to the broken relationship. He will limit his support and providence as an employer stop supporting an uncommitted employee.
You need to know when and where to brake the commitment in order to please God. When you are braking the commitment with the God, you are deceiving yourself. Go and look at the mirror. Speak to the guy in the glass. He will tell you, what is the cost of braking the commitment with your God. You know the price. But often tempt to ignore it. By braking the commitment with God, you are braking a relationship. To build a human relationship, you are braking the heavenly relationship. Ask yourself, Is it worth braking the commitment with God? What would be the price you have to pay for it? If God is with you, you can build relationship with men easily. Do not worry about earthly relationship. God will take care of it, if you are faithful to God.
A successful life need a better relationship and better commitment. Don't deceive yourself.
Success principle - Commitment.
Now, try to immersed in the water and stay there for a while.
Soon you will find that you are 100% committed to breathing.
You don't worry about motivating yourself to breathe. No excuses to breathe. You don't have to justify your desire to breathe.
Commitment is action.
No debate. No excuses. No whining about how hard it is. No lengthy analysis. No worrying about what others might think. No cowardly delays. Just go. What if something gets in the way of your commitment? What would you do if someone tried to prevent you from breathing?
Now I hope you understand what is commitment. Commitment is taking action which you desperately needed. Without it you won't exist. That means your possibility of existence is entirely depend on your commitment.