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What is Teamwork in a Marriage?

Updated on April 6, 2017
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Teamwork and Marriages

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Why Teamwork is Important in a Marriage?

I thought about teamwork in a marriage, and could not put my finger on what is the true meaning of teamwork.

A marriage is believed to be teamwork or is it led to believe and when you say teamwork.

  • Why do I find teamwork hard to understand?

I have noticed many traditional marriages and teamwork in these marriages don't exist because I have seen it and really don't like what I have seen.

  • Whether you marry for love or for money teamwork in traditional marriages are rare?

For example:

She is married to a traditional man and he works at his day job. When he gets home then only to work on other jobs around the home.

The wife spends more time alone than with her husband as most traditional couples do.

Partners such as this one don't work together and have less conversations to progress the day and are living in separate worlds.

  • Teamwork here is cold.

He mainly works for himself and does what many traditional men are expected to provide for the family.

A family man who provides the food and other basic needs for his family and when it comes to having the simple pleasures at the end of the day that is not possible.

The wife has tried to talk about their married issues but to no avail.

The money issue is the most delicate part of their lives relationships are mostly destroyed because of money and cheating here there is no cheating but money is the evil.

He works to have what he wants and to provide for the family and is not able to afford his wife. She does not ask him for anything.

He prefers not to go out of his way to give her the pleasures a man would do for his married wife.

Sometimes love is just not enough.

I mean the once in a while going out to enjoy themselves together for example, to have a meal out or a drink and not even a coffee is worth going out for him it always about how much it will cost him going out.

I know it can be difficult on men who work all day and then choose to continue other jobs. They want to have a perfect home.

To buy something nice is always about the cost the problem with this man he gambles a substantial amount of money on a monthly basis.

He makes sure that a specific amount of money is daily in the gambling online account.

He prefers an empty wallet something that is part of him and a ritual made to focus on everything else but her.

Gambling to him is not an expensive deal but buying small gifts or going out with his wife sounds a costly affair.

It is hard to see a couple after all those years together and still have to cope with all the unwanted issues.

  • When he is allowed his salary he does whatever he chooses and she never once asked any of the following questions:

How much did you earn?

What have you bought with your money?

Do you have any spare for me?

Can we go out for the evening?

Are you coping with your finances?

Do you have a specific budget plan?

When can we go shopping?

Why did withdraw a specific amount at that time when it was necessary?

The common questions mentioned are so true and can affect many marriages.

He has not once given his wife money to spend on her personal needs.

If he does give his wife some money he takes it back a few days later.

It is his money giving it to her makes no difference when he asks for it back she has to give it to him without any questions asked.

His money belongs to him and that alone shows teamwork means nothing in this marriage.

When she had a job it was the best thing that could have happened to her at that time so desperately in need.

A job meant having her own money and she could buy what she liked and wanted.

The problem began when her money became his money. The understanding here is his money has always belonged to him and suddenly her money also became his money.

Her earnings were good enough for her and with the planned budget she had in mind money for winter time had been safely saved and the summer job was a great experience.

The fine young woman had a limited amount of money for her personal requirements. The husband slowly added more debt on her list of bills and that made her feel pressured in to paying more of the bills.

The extra bills that she did not account for and frustration slowly comes in between them for all these reasons.

He made sure that every month got heavier for her and he did not want his wife to have what she knew would make her life so much easier.

She did not see in her bank balance every season working this way just worsened.

She worked harder and could not see the surplus money.

One day she could not take it anymore and quit her job and started working for herself, self-employment and it worked out perfectly.

It put her right back where she started staying at home with the least amount of cash or working her hardest with the least amount of cash it was the same for her.

There were more cons than pros in the list made for her working the way she did and only to have her money taken away from her by her husband.

He did not care of her plans or of what she had planned with her money he wanted what she earned and that she would be in the same boat as he is financially.

If both people worked together they would see a difference in their lives and would be successful together.

In this case he is for himself and waits on her having money to buy something that he likes and won't spend money on anything that he thinks is expensive.

Instead he will wait for the time when she has the extra cash to buy it for him.

He works and earns for himself and she had to work to earn for both there was no teamwork in that situation.

''I want what you have and I want my share too.''

It is sad to see most couples live this way and then they wonder why their marriages are so ruined!

If marriage is teamwork that only works for some couples unless they have another strategy I don't know of..

  • What is teamwork?

People work together on a project and make sure the project is based on a certain theme add ideas taken from each other to make it all possible.

In a marriage ''I do for you and you do for me.''

Unfortunately team work is not always shown in traditional marriages.

In this marriage it is always about what she had that interested him the most, and then he gets right back with his old habits.

The same old ways of asking her for money. It is always too expensive for him to spend his money. He would rather spend it on gambling which to him is the least of expenses.

She has to organize everything in the home and mostly all is left to her, it is like there is only one person living in that house.

Decision-making is poor he plans ahead without her consultation.

Anything planned is often discussed with others before the wife knows more about it.

You win little achievements with talent and with intelligence you can win the bigger achievements.

When two people work together they show strength not much is shown with the efforts of one person.

  • You get a wonderful attitude with teamwork.

Teamwork effort is shown in good results.

You can't beat the idea of teamwork.

It is very important to work as a team to reach further.

Your dreams come true with teamwork; if one person has a plan the other should follow or lead that plan.

In any sport without teamwork all falls apart.

  • What makes a good sports team?

The answer is teamwork.

The beauty of relationships or marriages teamwork is the key to all of what you do.

Only parents can teach children teamwork and children see it in their parents.

Everything goes with teamwork from arguments to bad times and good times all moments are faced as one.

In teamwork you always get something back from your hard work.

You learn to appreciate what you with each other and you know if you had not worked as a team you would have not achieved it.

  • What does teamwork do for you?

Individuals or partners in a marriage build trust in teamwork you know that person is responsible and reliable and you know what they want from life.

  • Are second marriages based on first marriages?

In this situation it is his second marriage and it looks like he his doing exactly what he had in his first marriage the old habits always stay.

Teamwork is about adventure and great experiences.

If you don't share experiences or such times with your husband your life long partner then with whom?

She is wasting her years with someone who only sees life from his point of view.

He point of view is meaningless to him.

Teamwork pays off in sports teams and should also pay off in marriages.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi chin chin thank you kindly for sharing yo thought son this hub I so appreciate your time in stopping by

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      Chin chin 3 years ago from Philippines

      It is difficult to find teamwork in marriages especially when the partners are not meant to be in that relationship. Many couples marry for the wrong reason and shouldn't marry at all. Most partners have different background and culture. It takes hard work from the couple to get teamwork into marriage and make it work. So, marriage is a serious decision.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Tolovaj well said you are so right in your stories. A path many couples should follow hand-in-hand thank you very much for sharing your thoughts at my hubs.

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      Tolovaj 3 years ago

      Marriage is a path, not a goal. This path is sometimes easier and sometimes harder, but in general it's always better to travel with company, what means compromises and in so individualistic society these are hard to achieve. I study fairy tales (which often end with a marriage) for many years now an it seems people through history look at them as kind of business, not only a romantic happening with magic and sparkles and everything. I guess this supports the theory of teamwork.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      ologsinquito thank you very much for comment on my hubs.

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      ologsinquito 3 years ago from USA

      You do need teamwork to make a marriage work, in so many aspects, which change as you travel through life together.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      FlourishAnyway thank you

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Bill you said this so perfectly,''This is more than a great hub it is a tremendous hub. This one subject could occupy a web site all by itself.'' Thank you kindly for constantly sharing your thoughts at my hubs have a lovely day.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thank you billybuc

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi MsDora thank you very much for stopping by

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      FlourishAnyway 3 years ago from USA

      You are right in that a strong partnership (teamwork) is needed for so many things -- raising children, handling household duties, financial arrangements, and everything in between.

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      billys1 3 years ago from "Somewhere", USA

      Hi DDE,

      Although I voted yes teamwork works best in marriages, it is something that we need to practice in all aspects of our life. As for marriage, I believe that team work is cooperation. When we cooperate with our mate it is only natural that we will get along with them better, our marriage will prosper and grow, it will thrive and become a never ending source of joy for both hubby and wife. One huge thing that teamwork in a marriage shows is that you are listening to your mate, a basic part of communications. What relationship will not grow and thrive and be successful with communications and teamwork in the groundwork of its foundation?

      This is more than a great hub it is a tremendous hub. This one subject could occupy a web site all by itself.

      Bill

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Fantastic suggestions and points made. Bev and I are a perfect team and our marriage is strong.

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 3 years ago from The Caribbean

      Teamwork is working together for the common good. That includes making and spending the money together. The success of one is the success of both--as in the sports team. Good thoughts.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Good Afternoon to you kidscrafts teamwork is a among the most important factor in any relationship and a marriage it shows much more strength and ability have a lovely day thank you for stopping by

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      kidscrafts 3 years ago from Ottawa, Canada

      You are right Devika. Teamwork in marriage is very important! I know that with my husband, we try to be available for each other and help each other. Teamwork makes for sure any marriage stronger.

      Thanks for sharing this interesting hub!

      Have a great week!