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Tell-tale signs of an abusive husband

Updated on April 27, 2013

Many abusive male partners don't show their true colors as soon as they get married.They lie low until after their first honey moon. Before the honey moon they pretend as if they don't even harm a fly.They pretend to be sheep,yet inwardly they are ravenous wolves in sheep's coats. They do this to hoodwink their partners and win them over.After they are established in a relationship their true colors start to emerge. The slow chameleon starts changing its colour and becoming abusive.The question remains what are the signs of an abusive husband.

An abusive husband is a ravenous wolf in sheep's clothing. He is a control freak, possessive and does not see anything good from the spouse.The abuse partner is domineering and treats a wife as deadwood.On the surface and to other people an abusive husband pretends to be nice. An abusive husband is usually critical of anything good done by the partner. Even if the partner irons his shirt properly he still finds a mistake on the ironed shirt in order to pick on her. He is not appreciative of his partner's efforts neither is he able to listen and learn from the spouse.

He is violent and full of I know. He doesn't take no for an answer and he wants things done his own way.He uses clenched fists to instill fear in the wife and to discipline her. An abusive husband takes a wife as a commodity and as his first child whom he can bully at will.

An abusive husband or partner doesn't want to help with the house chores,he thinks that doing dishes and baby sitting is a woman's job and are not traditional jobs for men,yet the child he is asked to baby sit is his.He believes that a woman should do everything for him whilst he is smoking his cigarettes and downing his booze. An abusive husband shouts to his wife on top of his voice without respect. He doesn't respect his spouse in the presence of kids and in public. He calls names to his wife such as,you fat cow.He wants to know how every penny is spend but doesn't want to contribute financially.

He spends his money on gambling but likes to eat good food at home without contributing. He always want to know where his wife is going, with whom and why? He often spies on his wife to find faults and descend on her high handedly.An abusive husband doesn't want to spread the bed even if he was the last to leave the bed.An abusive husband is always angry he doesn't use reasoning to solve issues but he smacks the wife as an alternative of his weak thinking.He suffers from anger management, he doesn't have good listening skills.

An abusive man is not willing to admit his failures,he knows everything and is a go getter at all cost.He doesn't want to look for job and fend for the family.His ideal day is made up of drinking beer and waiting for the wife to do everything for him.Violence is the game changer for an abusive man. Watch out for these behavioural traits in relationships and seek help before it gets worse.


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    • samazi profile imageAUTHOR

      Masimba Mukichi 

      5 years ago from United Kingdom

      Thanks for your insight, Agnes.

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      5 years ago

      You are not alone. I am in the same situation.


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