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Telltale Signs That You Are In a Hopeless Relationship

Updated on December 29, 2015

Depending on how you want to make them out to be, relationships can be the simplest or the most complicated aspects of your life. But at some point of time in your life, you can expect being in a relationship that is, without a doubt, headed towards an absolute catastrophe. Getting out of such a relationship before it’s too late is the most courageous decision you would ever take. But, the question is - how to find out whether or not you’re in a hopeless relationship. Here are a few telltale signs that your relationship is heading nowhere:

Sex has just become an obligation or duty

One of the major indicators of a relationship that is headed down hill is when your sex life just doesn’t have the passion it once used to have. When the performance of the act feels more like an obligation or duty, you know your relationship is in trouble.

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You often find yourself attracted to other men/women

Do you often find yourself attracted to other men and women? Sorry, that’s your evidence; your relationship is not very healthy. If every other man or woman besides your partner seems to be appealing to you, it’s time for you to think seriously about where your relationship is heading.

You are constantly having ugly fights and arguments

Another major indicator that your relationship is heading towards its end is that you and your partner are constantly fighting and arguing. An occasional fight or argument is healthy in every relationship. However if you find that you are consistently arguing with your partner for even the smallest matters and those arguments lead to ugly fights, then it is probably the time for you to exit the relationship in a sophisticated and gentle manner.

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Relationship Problems

There is a constant feeling of disconnect from your partner

If you find that you and your partner are constantly disconnected from each other, it is a sign that your relationship is beginning to deteriorate. When you find that the both of you have absolutely nothing to talk about and there is no mental communication remaining in the relationship, the best thing to do is to part ways in an amicable way.

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Relationship Problems

Work is more important than the relationship

If either you or your partner seems to have suddenly turned into workaholics, it’s an indication of avoidance. When work becomes your or your partner’s favorite excuse to avoid being present at social functions or dinners, it is evident that you are losing interest in the relationship. Lack of interest in the relationship calls for a break up.

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Relationship Problems

Your partner is no longer the fun person he/she used to be

If all you have left is the memories of the fun person your partner used to be, it is a cause of concern. If your partner was the kind of man who always planned romantic dinners, fun picnics and incredible vacations and he suddenly isn’t taking the same initiative anymore, it’s a major indicator that your relationship is heading down the dumps. It’s time to talk it out! If that just doesn’t work anymore, it’s probably time to call it quits.

Common Problems in a Relationship

Avoiding plans for the future

Do you find that every time you ask your partner about the future or marriage, he/she avoids the discussion like the plague? This is a telltale sign that your relationship is on the brink of dissolution. If your relationship were a healthy one that actually had chances of turning into something long term and serious, your partner would not avoid such vital discussions.

Your phone is more intriguing than your partner

Are you and your partner constantly glued to your respective phones when you are in the company of each other? Do you find your phone far more interesting than your partner? Being glued to your phone is just your way of escaping reality and avoiding your partner. It is a sign that you really don’t wish to be in the presence of your partner and would much rather be at some other place. If you find this occurring too frequently, it’s time for you to rethink yourself as a couple.

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Relationship Problems

You no longer encourage each other’s life outside of the relationship

Do you find that your partner no longer supports and encourages your life outside of the relationship? Does he show absolutely no interest in your work, friends, hobbies and interests? This is another sign that your relationship is headed towards a disastrous end. Before doom strikes, it is most advisable for you to part ways amicably and like mature adults.

You or your partner are cheating

If either you or your partner is cheating on the other, there is no bigger indication that the relationship is over. Typically a person only cheats when he or she is bored with his current relationship, or the passion has faded away, or even when the relationship has become more of an obligation or duty as opposed to a pleasurable and warm feeling. If you are cheating on your partner or are aware of the fact that your partner is cheating on you, it is definitely time for you to respect yourself and your partner enough to walk out of the relationship with honesty and dignity.

Break ups are always hard for both parties, but the best thing to do is to avoid staying on in the relationship just for the sake of it. Most people tend to hold on to their relationships only because these relationships have become comfortable and known territory. But living in denial is the most disrespectful thing you can do to yourself and even to your partner. So take a chance, stand up and face reality and have the courage to walk out with dignity of a relationship that no longer appeals to you. It may be hard at first, but you will eventually move on to a better place in your life.

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      dashingscorpio 2 years ago

      "But at some point of time in your life, you can expect being in a relationship that is, without a doubt, headed towards an absolute catastrophe. Getting out of such a relationship before it’s too late is the most courageous decision you would ever take." - Very true!

      Unfortunately much of society believes most relationships and (all) marriages can be saved or at the very least "worked" on vigorously before giving up. They act as if everyone married the "right person" for themselves!

      A divorce is nothing more than a public admission that someone made a mistake in their mate selection process.

      Like attracts like and opposites attract divorce attorneys!

      “Some people think that it’s holding on that makes one strong; sometimes it’s letting go.” — unknown

      The goal is to find someone who shares your same values, wants the same things for the relationship that you do, naturally agrees with you on how to obtain those things, and last but not least there is a mutual depth of desire and love for one another.

      There is no amount of communication or work that can overcome being with someone who does not want what you want.

      Very few people are walking around with one hand raised in the air screaming: "I'm looking for someone to change me!"

      There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships: We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. Accept them as (is) or move on. The choice is up to us!

      There is no virtue in living an unhappy life!

      Every ending is a new beginning!