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Ten common mistakes husbands make.
The world of a man is entirely different from that of a woman. You as a man can afford to be practical, but in your practicality you hurt the sensitivity of your wife by not showing your love in the right manner. You feel that your wife is too emotional and you do not have the inclination to care for the tender and sensitive feelings she has.
- You think that your wife talks too much and you are not interested to listen to what she has to say. Your wife feels that you are insensitive and do not care about her feelings. ‘Who else to talk to,’ is what your wife feels when do not pay attention to what she says.
- You think that taking care of the home and children is the prerogative of your wife and that it has nothing to do with you. Your wife too will feel fatigued from hectic office work and she would feel cared if you help her in the household chores.
- You feel that your wife does not have any knowledge about money matters and so you do not involve her in it. It makes her resentful when you make arbitrary decisions regarding financial dealings and investments. You will be taken aback if you know that her knowledge about money matters is equal to you.
- You make snide comments about her physical appearance. This is a sensitive subject and she hates it to be discussed and when you make fun of it she fees terribly upset and hurt.
- You talk about gadgets and other technologies with eagerness, but you keep your mouth shut while discussing family issues. You do not want to get involved in it as you are not interested.
- You think that your wife should make herself presentable to you and in the process forget that she too can expect the same from you. You loiter around the house, unshaven, shabby and dirty while she inwardly fumes.
- You strew things around and would not pick it up. Your bed is laden with wet towels, changed clothes, newspapers and your eyes are oblivious to it.
- You make unwarranted comments about her family which makes your wife bitter and sad. You totally ignore her family when they visit you and your wife makes up her mind to return the complement when your family visits you.
- When you want to make up after a fight, you think sex is the only way to say sorry. It makes your wife furious when you do not apologize in words and action that you are truly sorry. For you sex is a compulsion while for your wife it is an option. Her need is caring words and affectionate and demonstrative gestures that you care.
- You do not think of the financial commitments and spend recklessly. She is half mad when you go on a thoughtless spending spree and buy all the unnecessary things. You buy whatever your children ask you and she is terrified as to how to meet out the essential expenditures.
You should always acknowledge that your wife is there to share your problems and she has equal rights and say in running the family. You should be able to make her feel that she is the most important person in the world for you. It is not enough if you think inside your mind, but you should effectually show her by your demonstrative actions that she is the pillar of strength in your life.