- Gender and Relationships
Last Sunday, there was this article in Hindu talking about a Tenth planet on horoscopes. In Hindu Arranged Marriages, matching horoscopes of bride and groom is a major process undertaken ceremoniously by parents. In the article, they were discussing about how the groom was considered a tenth planet as the planets' position determined the fate of the person! The author had ended the article with a note that, nowadays, the brides are only to be considered as the Tenth Planet and not the groom!
This seemed to be a very valid point, being a woman myself! The cultural shift has made women very independent. This in turn seems to have many many consequences! Of late, I see a lot of moral questions are being raised by people with my mindset on the integrity of women, that have no answers!
It is really tough to find a suitable bride for eligible bachelors these days. Girls seem to have endless demands which include even changing the name of the groom! Values seem to be deteriorating a lot in general especially among women.
There is a famous saying in my mother tongue which says, its the saree which is torn be it falling on a thorn or the thorn falling on the saree. When God created Men, he created certain characteristics and over a period of time, this has not changed much, values were never intact for them from the beginning. But, to keep the society intact God created women with more values, integrity and sense of protection, this seems to be sliding down rapidly nowadays - thanks to the much hyped equality between men and women!
Equality can be achieved only between two identical creations and definitely not between men and women. Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus indeed!
The point here is, freedom for women was indeed required but how much, is the question! Women had to come out of the kitchen, get educated and learn about the outside world, but never cross certain limits - the way of dressing, the way of socializing, the way they misunderstand men and end up in a ditch eventually!
Divorce rate has gone up mainly due to this change in attitude of women. Men are always men and they cannot be changed and if women remain to be women, there is no problem!
There are still men who are chauvinists and still ruin their better half's life, only the count is decreasing, which is a positive trend! Of course, this does not mean men have to ill-treat women or disrespect them. Its about knowing each others' strengths and weaknesses and acting accordingly.
After all, planets in the horoscope cause positive things to happen as well and the Tenth Planet is no exception, be it the groom or bride!