- Gender and Relationships
Texting Rules For Grown Ups
I must admit even I have fallen prey to these online texting rules; Don't reply to his text right away, make him wait for it or he will lose interest. Don't reply at all, he will want you more.
Do these rules apply to ALL men and women? And if someone texts you every day, does it really mean they are desperate or just bored?
The answer to the first question has to be no or it would mean all men and women are exactly the same. And to the second question; why do we always assume someone is desperate or bored if they like contacting us on a regular basis? Did you ever consider they might just really like you?
We all know that men are instinctively preditorial by nature, hunters who prefer the chase rather than being "stalked" by seemingly desperate women who lustfully appear ready for them every time they call. The truth is, some men like being chased and are even turned on by a female's initiation to a role that males have dominated for centuries. What man wouldn't want to be desired by a woman they find attractive?
Being an attractive woman and making herself available to a man she's interested in, does not mean she has low self esteem, is bored or desperate. I am none of these things. I just don't play games.
There are exceptions to every rule and this is proven simply by observing that we are human, imperfect and therefore unique. We should not assume that these rules will give us all the same results.
My theory is that showing little or no interest in texting doesn't mean he/she isn't interested. It could be many things and you'd have to ask the the person directly to know the reason why they do what they do. Never assume anything about anyone.
How about we all try something new and just be honest with each other? There's a fresh concept, right? Forget the rules about who called who first and "Tag you're it!" games. It's such a waste of time. Life is short.
Follow your own rules about texting because it's not going to matter in the end. It's all based on how the other person feels about you. If they're still texting, then they're still interested. So what if you text them something and they don't reply right away? It's not all about you. They have lives too. Never take it personally when your text is not quickly replied to unless you are sitting next to them watching them read it and walking away.
Any time you receive a text from someone you like, they are showing interest in communicating with you, regardless if it's a silly smiley face or stating the time of day. It's like a virtual tap on the shoulder. In fact, pretend that every time someone texts you, they just tapped you on the shoulder. How do you feel? Is this someone you like? Well, if you're not busy, tap back!
Don't allow a clock to determine your standard for communicating with someone you like hearing from and don't rely on someones rule book to dictate your life.
In this age of technology, forget the games. We have enough problems just remembering our passwords and looking for affordable healthcare.
Rules should not exist in something as silly as a text, where words are punched in by the same fingers that can just as easily wrap themselves around a steering wheel and drive to say hello in person. What a concept, huh? Go figure.