ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

Texting Rules For Grown Ups

Updated on August 19, 2013
Click thumbnail to view full-size
I was just thinking of you too!  YAY!  Who would've thought being honest was the way to go!He just texted he wants to see me for lunch.  But I won't reply until tonight so he'll think I'm crazy busy & important.Awwww....he's been texting me all day wondering why I'm not replying.  This game is sooo easy.
I was just thinking of you too!  YAY!  Who would've thought being honest was the way to go!
I was just thinking of you too! YAY! Who would've thought being honest was the way to go!
He just texted he wants to see me for lunch.  But I won't reply until tonight so he'll think I'm crazy busy & important.
He just texted he wants to see me for lunch. But I won't reply until tonight so he'll think I'm crazy busy & important.
Awwww....he's been texting me all day wondering why I'm not replying.  This game is sooo easy.
Awwww....he's been texting me all day wondering why I'm not replying. This game is sooo easy.

I must admit even I have fallen prey to these online texting rules; Don't reply to his text right away, make him wait for it or he will lose interest. Don't reply at all, he will want you more.

Do these rules apply to ALL men and women? And if someone texts you every day, does it really mean they are desperate or just bored?

The answer to the first question has to be no or it would mean all men and women are exactly the same. And to the second question; why do we always assume someone is desperate or bored if they like contacting us on a regular basis? Did you ever consider they might just really like you?

We all know that men are instinctively preditorial by nature, hunters who prefer the chase rather than being "stalked" by seemingly desperate women who lustfully appear ready for them every time they call. The truth is, some men like being chased and are even turned on by a female's initiation to a role that males have dominated for centuries. What man wouldn't want to be desired by a woman they find attractive?

Being an attractive woman and making herself available to a man she's interested in, does not mean she has low self esteem, is bored or desperate. I am none of these things. I just don't play games.

There are exceptions to every rule and this is proven simply by observing that we are human, imperfect and therefore unique. We should not assume that these rules will give us all the same results.

My theory is that showing little or no interest in texting doesn't mean he/she isn't interested. It could be many things and you'd have to ask the the person directly to know the reason why they do what they do. Never assume anything about anyone.

How about we all try something new and just be honest with each other? There's a fresh concept, right? Forget the rules about who called who first and "Tag you're it!" games. It's such a waste of time. Life is short.

Follow your own rules about texting because it's not going to matter in the end. It's all based on how the other person feels about you. If they're still texting, then they're still interested. So what if you text them something and they don't reply right away? It's not all about you. They have lives too. Never take it personally when your text is not quickly replied to unless you are sitting next to them watching them read it and walking away.

Any time you receive a text from someone you like, they are showing interest in communicating with you, regardless if it's a silly smiley face or stating the time of day. It's like a virtual tap on the shoulder. In fact, pretend that every time someone texts you, they just tapped you on the shoulder. How do you feel? Is this someone you like? Well, if you're not busy, tap back!

Don't allow a clock to determine your standard for communicating with someone you like hearing from and don't rely on someones rule book to dictate your life.

In this age of technology, forget the games. We have enough problems just remembering our passwords and looking for affordable healthcare.

Rules should not exist in something as silly as a text, where words are punched in by the same fingers that can just as easily wrap themselves around a steering wheel and drive to say hello in person. What a concept, huh? Go figure.





Comments

Submit a Comment
  • Rosana Modugno profile imageAUTHOR

    Rosana Modugno 

    6 years ago from 10th Kingdom

    That's exactly what I mean! Thank you for saying it; If they are turned off, they are not for you. There will always be someone out there who wants the same things you do. :)

  • efeyas profile image

    Elizabeth 

    6 years ago from Some Sunny Beach, USA

    I agree 100%! Games are incredibly immature and quite annoying if you ask me. If you like someone just show it. If they are turned off by that then they aren't the right person for you in the first place!

working

This website uses cookies

As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, hubpages.com uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at: https://hubpages.com/privacy-policy#gdpr

Show Details
Necessary
HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the googleapis.com or gstatic.com domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
Features
Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
Marketing
Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
Statistics
Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)
ClickscoThis is a data management platform studying reader behavior (Privacy Policy)