The Almost Falling Apart Marriage
There is no Perfect Marriage
Marriage and Communication
Everything changed, all disappeared from her life, a new life began immediately.
She did not know how anything about love, and what to say, or how to approach the situation, and did what to her, that she felt was right.
A difficult moment and nobody would ever know how she felt, and what would have made her feel happy.
What mattered was not there anymore but her and only being.
Life went on and so did the good and the bad days.
She faced many challenges alone, the hardest part was not being able to talk to anyone about her problems.
Nothing felt the same and would be the same in her life.
What was will no longer be, and the present moment showed her more and that made her stronger each day.
Her pain and sadness had escalated but her memories will not disappear.
Only, she knew how hard her life was and still is he has not said a word often he would avoid conversations that he knew would upset her.
Communication slowly faded inside them.
The more she sacrificed for him the more he wanted and did not think of how much she gave up to be with him.
They are so different like strangers as to say than the once in love married couple.
Her choice was the hardest, and his decision made her the choice that caused many upsetting moments.
If only she knew then what she knows now how different her life would have been?
She did not know that was her worst of all, not knowing what to expect made all the changes in her life.
The rapidly changed life increased her knowledge unexpectedly, and helped her through all hard times.
He never touches her like he once did, the feelings are there but closed up inside, and that makes their lives so estranged.
They fall asleep like strangers, and with forceful kisses at night like something they have to do to be together. His pride got in the way of their marriage.
The past issues of his previously bad marriage has been carried over to the second marriage, and the bad habits from his past life has been carried over to his current marriage.
He does not see that his ways and habits as having such great effects on his marriage. He sees is what he wants from their marriage.
The problem here, this man does not believe in conversations and in solving the issues in a proper manner.
Avoidance is key to him, and that is failing a good marriage.
It is sad to know what once was a good marriage is falling apart so painfully.
She is always there but he can only be when he can, though that is rare.
Unfortunately, the woman has to accept her life the way it is, or she can do whatever she pleases to.
It is most difficult to make a conversation with him he does not understand her conversations, and pays no attention to what she actually speaks of.
He tries to not hear what she has to say and stares at the television to block out her conversations.
The more that happens the more she feels pushed away from the actual relationship and her husband.
Why does he behave that way?
Does he not see what she has sacrificed for him?
He never buys her any gifts, be it something small, or to show some appreciation. It is all taken for granted.
She will be there waiting on him and that is just how he sees it.
Every birthday and wedding anniversary is just like any other ordinary day, he never shows interest in those special days.
This man has no time for her and that makes her feel like any other woman living around her.
He does not make her feel special anymore. Everything has totally stopped in her life because he won't let it be.
Everything to her has been and she will always see it that way as a has been.
She has stopped crying about what she knows will never be.
Happiness took a while to come back in her life and after all that hoping and wishing for some miracle to make him come back in her life like he had from before, that no longer exists.
All feels like it has never happened like a thing of the past.
Her good life has been taken away because he did not give much thought to his hasty decisions.
Since he only thought of himself, and not of her needs that is why at times it had been so hard for her to cope with life.
Life for her has always been great until she realized what she lost will not be and what she misses in her life that her husband can no longer give to her.
Too much of time alone showed her there is no other life for her but loneliness, and after growing into that life of loneliness she saw more of herself.
She learned more about what she wanted from life.
His bad past experiences from his previous marriage has caused the friction.
All he sees is what he knows and what he thinks is right and of how he thinks everything should be.
He made those mistakes in his past marriage, and had to put up with a bossy wife who wanted the rich lifestyle.
He could not give her that so gradually they went their separate ways.
Money was their major problem. He does not see that he has brought that past problem into his current marriage.
She has to take all that in and not say a word.
Her focus is on her life and does not get into any complications with simple conversations that could cause many arguments.
A life that she once loved with her husband has become so bitter and different makes her wonder what more does she have for to live with him.
He does not have the time for his wife and won't take her anywhere that ought to make one think more about the almost failing marriage.
It is often of the cost of going out, but he feels free to go out when with other people.
He shows her no free time and that is getting less and less each day.
They have drifted apart and are going further and further away from each other.
He won't make any adjustments to their marriage and she has had enough of trying to make something of what no longer exists.
Nothing in her life will ever be the same again. She lost the man she once knew and he feels she has changed in some ways, but he does not get the point in his marriage. He wants more from her that is his point.
To him their marriage is normal and has no issues. The more silence the better they are together.
When communication fails in a marriage slowly everything else fades away.
As much as she had tried to get through to him he won't see things her way. It is like his way or no way.
He feels that if she is not satisfied then she should leave.
He has hurt her far too much, but she still remains with him through all times.
He manages to please everybody else, but he won't go out of his way for her and has no intentions of doing so.
His negative mind shows that he does not care much for her and has been like that for a while.
Her opinions don't matter what others suggest to him he will do, and what she suggests to him is often over looked, and he does not care to give it a second thought.
What they started was great and after twenty years, it feels empty to her, like it never happened.
She has been positive all the way for herself. Nothing in her life will ever be the same again.
Can their love hold their marriage together even though so much has changed between them?
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