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The Best Ways to Ruin Your Relationship

Updated on February 10, 2012

Put Your Own Needs First ALL THE TIME

Your needs are clearly more important than anyone else's in your life, so make sure you put your needs first all the time, especially if you want to ruin your relationship. This tip is one that will fast track you from love to break up in no time.

All you have to do, is do whatever you want without ever stopping to think about how it will effect your partner or how it will make them feel. Keep in mind that if you ever take the time to be considerate of their needs, that your relationship might have a chance of staying together. So avoid that sort of behavior at all costs in order to effectively ruin your relationship.

Make Your Partners Needs Your LOWEST Priority

Even better than putting your own needs first, is the developing a pattern of making your partners needs your lowest priority. And remember, you must continue to do this even if your partner has managed to do everything in their power to meet your needs. That way they will be so thoroughly frustrated with you after a short period that they won't even want to look at you, let alone sleep in the same bed with you.

So if they want the house to be cleaner, make sure not to clean at all, and you might even consider making a few extra messes. If your mate wants more physical and romantic intimacy, make sure that's the last thing you give. And when they complain of how little you seem to care about their needs, let them know verbally that you just don't care, to make sure there are no misunderstandings.

Forget About Intimacy

Intimacy is one of the glues that keep a relationship together. Don't get me wrong, sex isn't everything, though it's a big part. Especially seeing as there is a very specific name for a platonic relationship. It's called - Friendship.

Physical intimacy is important to anyone who wants to have a healthy, meaningful and fulfilling relationship. We need to be touched, caressed and cared for in intimate and loving ways.

Ask Your Partners Opinion, Then Completely Ignore It Every Time

One of my favorites - with this method, you're sure to provoke major feelings of insignificance, unimportance and even contempt in your partner. A sure fire way to send your relationship down hill until it reaches the big Dump in the sky.

You'll want to use this step often if you really want to get your point across - that you just don't care about your relationship.

Complain About Your Partners Faults Constantly

If you spent all your time thinking about the good things about your partner, complimenting them and encouraging them, your mate might get the idea that you care about your relationship. If that's what you're going for, that's fine, but it won't do you any good if you want to ruin your relationship.

In this step, the goal is to make sure you focus mostly on the faults your partner has the hardest time with. Then, when you've thoroughly gotten their got, use some smaller less significant flaws to focus on, just to throw salt in the wound. Make sure to pick at them constantly about the way they dress, how they act like their mother or father and how much better you felt when you weren't with them and didn't have to deal with their horrendous flaws.

Say You'll Be There, Then Don't Show Up

I don't know about you, but when someone tells me they will meet me somewhere or be somewhere I've asked them to be, and then they don't show up (or stick around depending on the scenario), I find that infuriating. The first few times are easy to shrug off as bad days or coincidences, so if you really want to harness the relationship ruining power of this tip, then you'll want to do this as much as possible.

If you're partner asks you to go out with them, say yes and then make an excuse for why you can't go or just tell them you've changed your mind and don't want to go. This tip is especially effective if you use it for the more important events like birthdays, anniversaries, family gatherings, achievement celebrations and anything else you know is super important to your mate. This will inspire a special type of resentment in your partner that will fester over time until they just can't stand the sight of you.

Make Sure That You Have Plenty of Time for Everyone EXCEPT Your Partner

This one is a sure fire way to send your relationship to proverbial hell. In a successful and happy relationship, each partner puts the relationship first above all others. In a crooked relationship that's doomed to fail, each partner makes sure to put everyone before their partner and every other relationship before their intimate one.

So make lots of play dates with your stupidest friends (because that really drives your partner nuts the most), help out everyone with the silliest problems and make plans as often as you can, to make sure you've got as little time as possible to make plans with your mate. And even if your partner manages to catch you on a day when you've got no other plans, you can always fall back on how horribly dirty they've made the house, that now you have to clean it and are to made to go anywhere with them.

To really make things worse, you might consider making plans with your friends or family later on after your partner has become frustrated with your lack of desire to go out with them, or after they have left to go to their event without you.


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  • NotPC profile image


    7 years ago

    This is a really interesting hub, well done!

  • Injured lamb profile image

    Injured lamb 

    7 years ago

    Thanks Amanda...this thought provoking hub really made me think a I wish that this hub of yours could reach as many people as it can especially to those who really don't have any sense of how to maintain their relationship well or at least not to ruin it...great job Amanda, and you know you deserve my voting...up and useful! Cheers!

  • JamesPoppell profile image


    7 years ago

    Nothing burns me more then someone telling me they are going to meet me somewhere and they don't show up. I agree with the word you used to describe this, "infuriating." This is a good list. Vote up.

  • HattieMattieMae profile image


    7 years ago from Europe

    I can feel for you! It's a rough world out there in relationships. :)


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