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10 Worst Long Distance Relationship Problems
The Real Challenge
Long distance relationships are plagued by far more problems than the gut-wrenching pain of separation itself. In fact, distance isn't the toughest part of a long distance relationship. The real challenge is the discrepancy between your expectation for the relationship an the reality of your current situation.
There are several common long distance relationship problems to be aware of, but first, I want to instill in you some confidence. Many people successfully navigate through the troubles of distance relationships. Many people scoff at the long distance, but if the other person is worth it, that shouldn't matter
The Matter Is
If you are the unlucky ones who are in a long distance relationship then I can guarantee you must be having some problems while maintaining this relationship. Let's have a look on some day to day challenges you might be facing:
1. Communication problem is the main villain:
Communication is an important ingredient of all relationships. Especially when it comes to long-distance relationships where you cant see the expression on your partner's face or establish some form of physical contact. In long-distance relationships, communication has a different set of problems that are sometimes hard to tackle.
2. Insecurity factor:
Insecurity sucks! Getting insecure about partner's interactions with opposite sex is natural. The problem begins when one partner starts feeling that he/she is being taken for granted and insecure about it. This feeling of insecurity can cause excessively obsessive behavior that may cause immense emotional damage to both parties as well as the relationship.
3. Uncertainty about the future:
It's hard to fight for something that has no future and it's very often that long distance relationships seem to lead nowhere. The uncertainty about the relationship's direction can cause the relationship to be ripped apart. In a long distance relationship, it's ideal if you know the future or reality of your relationship.
4. Being disrespected:
The issue of respect comes up a lot in a relationship, and that's because mutual respect really is an important ingredient for a happy romantic relationship. A partner feels disrespected when he/she is refused, not taken seriously, ignored, made intentionally jealous, promised something and not delivered and so on.
5. Constant fights:
Fights and arguments are normal in every relationship. But they aren't normal when they happen too often and when they lead to a lot of stress and worries. chill! It's not a world war. You get angry, yell at each other, blame each other and consider each other as two opponents that have an issue to 'debate' and forget that you both are in a relationship.
6. Lack of physical intimacy:
When you are in a long distance relationship all of a sudden 'sex' is a big problem. In a monogamous relationship, managing abstinence can be its own challenge. You need to know that women love sex( even more than men do) and online sex is not as satisfying for women as it is for men. So, enjoying a satisfied sexual life while being apart is a big big challenge for you.
7. Boring conversations:
A healthy conversation is generally the only thing that we can do online with our partner. But at some point, we drain out all the conversational topics and as a result, awkward silences start to kick in and all those happy talks become more and more predictive and boring.
8. Fear of infidelity:
" I'm afraid that my partner will cheat on me, and I can't control it!"
That's what your 'little inner voice' screams in your head anytime you feel a little bit insecure. That's why you don't allow your partner to go for clubbing because there is too much temptation going around. Keeping your partner faithful comes down to two basic principles: 'freedom of choice' and 'minimizing temptation'.
Loneliness and missing our partner like crazy it's what makes long distance relationship challenging. More so for someone who cannot fly into the arms of one's beloved whenever one wants. The absence of your partner and an awareness of the long time span that has to elapse until you get to see them in person can make the feeling a rather overwhelming one to bear.
Depression can set in for partners in a long distance relationship when the sting of loneliness begins to eat away at the core of their mental health. The long-term effects of depression can be harmful to the health of the individual partner and that of the relationship.
If Nothing Is Going Well
Overcome relationship problems before the breakup occurs and you'll be much better off. Look, if you're starting to notice more and more fights, more problems, more squabbles, and more frustration then it's really time to take action. The longer you wait the more numb the both of you will become to the fighting, and ultimately you'll break up. Now granted, sometimes this is because the relationship wasn't a good thing.
© 2017 Shivani Negi