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The Difference Between Us
I am set to be married in 13 days. It is a joyous occasion for us both. Even though this is my second marriage and his first. My first marriage was a mistake from the get go. So I won't even get into that. But this marriage, well this one feels right. I've truly found my other half in him. Even if you don't believe in soul mates, I do. He makes me happy in every way. Spoils me rotten, even when I don't deserve it. Supports every decision I make, even if they aren't the best ones. And just generally makes me want to be a better person. He holds me when I'm sad, and wipes the tears from my face when I cry. Tries everything he possibly can to make my world with him a better place.
But yet there are soooo many differences between him and I. To look at us together it's almost hilarious. Just yesterday I got to thinking about love, marriage, and lasting ties that bind us all. And the differences in the men and women around us all. Now my soon to be husband and I really are polar opposites. I mean they do say opposites attract right? Let me get into the examples.
When it comes to the toliet paper....he puts the roll over the top, where I like it to hang under.
He leaves the bedroom door wide open, I like it closed.
It doesn't matter the temperature, I sleep with a blanket, he does not.
He plays video games to relax, I write articles and play on Facebook.
He loves heavy metal music, I'm more into R&B and rap.
Now yes these are petty little things that make us so different. But we do have our big quirks about us. Things that drive him nuts about me and things the drive me nuts about him....
He cleans out the leftovers in the fridge every other day. If it was left up to me there would probably be mold on it. (Now don't take this as I'm a lazy person who doesn't get rid of anything, I'm just less dramatic about it all)
He'll wash the laundry but refuse to put it away. Where as I'll refuse to do the laundry until I'm ready to put it away. (did that make sense to you?)
He's a semi neat freak, I on the other hand am not.
He even goes so far to rotate our towels so that they all get used at least once a week. I personally just throw them in the drawer.
He makes lists. I go with the flow.
He's a up and at'em kinda guy. It takes me at least 15 minutes to crawl out of bed and another 15 minutes to actually start getting ready.
When I'm ready to go I'm headed out the door. He on the other hand takes 20 minutes to get out the door because he has to first remember everything that he needs. Then has to go back through the house to be sure that everything is off at least twice.
I don't stress over finances. He on the other hand does. We could be millionaires and he would still say that we are always broke.
I let him handle all the money because I know I'm bad with it, but yet he still asks me how much to spend on certain things.
He stresses and over analyses everything. But like I stated, I'm more laid back. He will make lists of everything we need to do, to get at the grocery, the bills that need paid etc. I'm lucky to remember these things at all.
He browses store isles and actually shops, while I'm a get in and get out kind of person.
I'm sure that there is more to this list. I'm not listing these as bad things at all. It's just kinda of funny to get them down and read over them. Because we are so much polar opposites of each other. And yet, every little quirk about him I love. Everything about him that drives me insane makes me love him that much more. Our marriage isn't going to be out of convenience or something to do. It is going to happen because we genuinely love and respect each other. And yes there will be bad days and there will be good days. Every relationship is like that. But if you can stick through the bad and still be there in the morning then it's all worth it right?