The Envious Friend

• Why do I call her an envious friend?

I live in a small village which consists of one hundred and fifty people

As a foreigner, I have been through many obstacles in meeting new people.

In trying to communicate, and in searching for the need to be with true people.

To be accepted, to be friendly in the most possible ways, to be together occasionally, and most of all, is to try and fit in the community.

The feeling to belong in this crowd and for me to be myself. Every time I think that I have finally found some friend, or an acquaintance something doesn't go well.

It is like I still can't find the kind of people I want to be with in this place. To be able to share conversations, and to have that spark with the crowd.

I am often left out of certain functions and conversations.

These people leave me out because of my different culture. Only, the local people know how to prepare a meal. In their eyes I don't have a clue of what to do.

I recently found a friend and was quite pleased with the friendship of this woman. I observed her behavior and saw that she has a chip on her shoulder.

This woman does not like it when I talk to her close friends. Often she has a look on her face when I communicate with her close friends. The look that shows I shouldn't speak to them.

The envious look of her says how she feels toward me. I now realize, there is no chance of me finding a friend without some nonsense going on.

It is difficult to be in a place where I have to forever prove myself to others. I have not tried to prove myself to these people and it is something I won't do for anyone.

I do feel a kind of pressure on me when I am with such people.

I don't need her friendship it is just her company as neighbors. I think it is only right to be friendly living close by each other. A few houses away. Such things should not be taken to heart as II have thought lost about it.

I see how she dislikes it when others talk to me, The envious stares from her allows me to see the true person she really is.

I talk to everyone.

The envious person does not like it when people hug me in her presence it is not a good idea.

I enjoy talking to people and laughter is great when in a happy conversations.

I prefer being with positive people. Lately, I feel my energy has been drained from me, just being with her had made me feel that way.

Envy is a cruel act.

When people behave this way it is best to keep away, and do what makes you happy and fulfilled.

People change all the time all her smiles and conversations mean nothing to me.

• Foreigners are treated as strangers.

Their simple conversations are okay. They choose not to include us in their personal conversations of which I don't mind. I do respect the privacy of others. I too, won't want to share my private life with anyone.

The mentality is different and that makes a huge difference to me.

I fail to understand their mentality in every way.

In one moment there is laughter and conversations. At times it would be too confusing to me. I often receive mixed signals from the local people, so I try to keep to myself.

• The envy is seen in their eyes and directly.

It is an ugly situation to be with envious people, they pretend to like you, If you fall in for their false behaviors you will be crushed.

I know it is hard to understand a person with a different mentality. I try to mingle on certain occasions.

I have forgiven the many incidents we have been through and have moved on. Sometimes there is only that much one can take from envious people.

One has to quit that friendship and be happier and not to feel over worked up in keeping such friendships. It is not how good friendships work out.

• Envy is not a pretty emotion.

When in a room with strange people there is tension and a sense of insecurity among them. I have been there and coped well with the situation.

Everybody wants to show they are better than the other in some way. This can be from their intelligence, their beauty, or to who has a better life.

Envious people are bitter and are backstabbers. They always want what you have and will do anything to get even with you.

''I can do better than you.''

• Psychologically envious people feel less powerful.

We are living in our new place for almost two years the people around me are most envious crowd. Maybe I feel this way because of their mentalities but this can be so frustrating.

• What we sometimes plan to do others want to also do.

• For example:

We have our terrace undercover. When it rains it is still possible for us to sit outside and enjoy a barbecue or watch the rain.

One person did exactly the same at his house. He built a roof to cover his terrace.

What different we have they also want to do at their homes. I overlook most of these envious behaviors.

I don't want to stoop down to their level of thinking in such a way. .

Challenges here are certainly challenges.

It is hard to cope with and hard to get out of it. I try my best to avoid the envious people. I have my life and I live as I wish.

In this modern time it should be a bit different.

However, it is not like that in a small community, everybody knows what goes on in other people's lives.

I try to be on my own and communicate mostly with my English speaking friends.

Foreigners stay together.

Occasionally I do speak to the local people but with caution.

One should not become bitter with envy.

Good relationships are fostered by envy and affects you emotionally, your security and stability.

I am not a victim of this and would not let myself fall apart or become weak. It is a traumatic experience if you let envy take over your life.

• Do you wish you had the other woman's hairstyle or hair color?

Instead you should be complimenting the individual on how good their hair color or hairstyle looks on them, rather than wish you had that same kind.

I am disappointed in the way a foreigner is treated here especially, in my case living here for so long and the people still can't find it in their hearts to accept me.

Where I come from all nationalities are accepted with a warm heart and are treated well. We are friendly, kind, and are willing to help foreigners.

Envious people are found all over the world I feel it much harder in a small community.

When individuals are envious they judge others and their own situations.

It is the act of conflict that leads people to doubt their own values and experiences, their discomfort and suffering.

Once you realize that your personal values are a result of your condition that tends to under-value the greatest human qualities.

Such as: compassion, affection, the good energy, and the positive mind. You reconnect with your very own goodness for yourself.

Congratulate each other on the great achievements don't turn your back on each other.

Envy is not healthy move up to your highest power don't let envy destroy you.

People succeed and envious people try their level best to spoil it.

''I want what you have.''

''I will buy what you have even if I am not able to afford it, I will make sure to have it.''

Anger and harsh conversations with envious people can make you feel unhappy but is not worth getting into.

I am fine with what is and will have better if I work towards my goals.

I enjoy being with people but often there are certain people who show their envy directly and make me feel angry.

I avoid anger and add more fuel to the fire the look on their faces don't scare me. It is just the way I am, you either like me, or you don’t, accept me or not.

They can't take away my happy character which is so loved by my many friends around me.