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The Harmony of Differences

Updated on February 12, 2013

The Space amid Male and Female

Since birth, parents and medical practitioners could differentiate male from female. I'm not just talking here about their physical differences, but also behavioural. From being babies till adult, men and women have already been showcasing their diversities and differences from each other.

“Gender differences” is not a new issue. Psychologists and educators have already made an ample research and studies on how men and women differ and what may be the solution to these differences. And even up to date, the search and studies are still ongoing.

The Gap...

Lately, a research had been conducted with regards to the salary of doctors. And you know what they found out? Male doctors have higher pay than women except for the general surgery where women earned an average of $11,000 more per year than men.

So, is this a confirmation that this is a man's world?

Based from the study, the reason behind the higher salary is not about women being inferior to men but about the choice of women to pursue lower-paying jobs in primary care fields or they choose to have fewer hours of work. Women are more relationship-conscious than work-conscious. 

Speaking of the differences between a man and a woman...

In the past decade or so, the women's magazines have taken to running home-handyperson articles suggesting that women can learn to fix things just as well as men. These articles are apparently based on the ludicrous assumption that _men_ know how to fix things, when in fact all they know how to do is _look_ at things in a certain squinty-eyed manner, which they learned in Wood Shop; eventually, when enough things in the home are broken, they take a job requiring them to transfer to another home. -- (Dave Barry)

For a male and female to live continuously together is...biologically speaking, an extremely unnatural condition.-- (Robert Briffault)

All women become like their mothers. That is their tragedy. No man does. That is his.-- (Oscar Wilde)

Women speak because they wish to speak, whereas a man speaks only when driven to speech by something outside himself - like, for instance, he can't find any clean socks. ~(Jean Kerr, The Snake Has All the Lines, 1960)

It is the difference between men and women, not the sameness, that creates the tension and the delight. (Edward Abbey)

The idea of masculinity has now been commercialized. Femininity had been commercialized a while ago. But men, in general, have lost what the meaning of what being a man is all about. (Anonymous)

“The difference between men and women is that, if given the choice between saving the life of an infant or catching a fly ball, a woman will automatically choose to save the infant, without even considering if there's a man on base.” (Dave Barry)

Why the Great Difference?

Being different is universal. I mean all of us have this so called "individual differences." Just imagine that all the people living are the same. Ah, probably, you may find it a boring and a dull world to live. We are born with different genes and lived on different environments, so naturally all of us, male and females are different from each other.

The Harmony in Diversity: RELATIONSHIP

Relationship is one of the things that could join two or three or many different people. Specifically, relationship between a man and a woman gives a glimpse of impression that, even there is diversity, harmony could happen.

The Harmony between Man and Woman

Men and women are different in nature and this kind of variation made them harmonious with each other. Just like a coffee and a creamer, eh.  And though there may be harmony between them, yet, it is very inevitable for them not to clash and fight.

When Harmony Turns to Division

Here are some of the things to do when the Harmony between You and your Partner turns to division.

1. Understand

Understanding the differences between genders will help a lot when it comes to misunderstanding. Having different likes and dislikes with your husband/wife is common to all. It is only up to you to understand these differences. After all, you already accept those differences, since you meet him/her right?

2. Commitment

Nothing beats "commitment" when it comes to dilemmas in relationship. Being committed means choosing to stay despite the dissimilarity and problems. Any relationship without this will eventually end.

3. Communication

You need to talk to your partner, about the situation you are in. Communication could lead to understanding and could straighten out whatever misapprehension you have with your spouse/partner.

4. Time

Now, if your partner doesn't want to talk to you, then trust and let time heals the wound, but don't make it too long. Sometimes, in case of differences, one of you wants to be alone and think things over. This is not actually a bad or a wrong decision, instead it eases and makes way for the rational side of your relationship. Time could tell if you couldn’t or could handle your relationship despite the differences.

5. Love

The reason for every relationship is love. It is the bridge between the gaps of differences.  It connects people despite diversity. In case of problems in a relationship, one must reflect if (s)he still love his/her partner. If love could still keep the relationship in tack, then why not pursue it, but then if there’s nothing left and love is not there anymore, there’s always a good reason to end that relationship and thus ending also that differences. 


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    • Laura in Denver profile image

      Laura Deibel 6 years ago from Aurora

      Nice hub! It is interesting that married men live longer than unmarried men. I also heard that unmarried women live longer than married ones.

      A hub on this subject would be really cool.

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      My Esoteric 7 years ago from Keystone Heights, FL

      Oh so true!

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      Cathyrin 7 years ago from Philippines

      Hey My Esoteric,

      Thanks for the comment. Indeed, communication is a great key for a harmonious relationship but it is also a great factor of every misunderstanding and quarrel. :(

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      My Esoteric 7 years ago from Keystone Heights, FL

      Nice hub, thanks. I have found Prozac works very nicely when communication fails; which seems to happen frequently since neither us know how to do it well, even with a counselor present.

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      Lora 7 years ago

      I find your hub cute, eh. Sometimes the difference between the man and woman is the reason why they love each other. I don’t know but when I’m still single I always admired the guys who are completely like me, but when I meet this person, I don’t know but being with him each day doesn’t bores me. Maybe because I’m always surprise of the things I would know about him, whew, though it is completely different with my point of view of life.