Humor and Laughter Are Not Only Important in Life But Also For a Better Marriage
The Importance of Humor in Marriage
Married couples should spend time laughing together and enjoying humor, but at times it not so easy because couples might have grown up in different backgrounds. Your sense of humor and your spouse’s own might differ. You might have grown up in a house where teasing each other relentlessly is the order of the day and your spouse grew up in a home where they took things seriously, and never teased or made fun of anyone. As result if you tease her/him she/he becomes upset. She/he doesn’t understand when people are joking or being sarcastic. Don’t contemplate going for someone else that is more compatible with you, instead of spending your life without laughter. You might not have married your partner for his/her sense of humor but other good qualities; you should focus on those qualities while practicing trying to be funny.
Writers often write about the importance of compatibility when selecting a life partner. However, they tend to write on the importance of having similar goals or education or the same values. People rarely talk about the importance of having a compatible sense of humor. Laughing together is important and enjoying the same jokes can help ensure that you’ll always be laughing together.
You may not have enough time for quality time together, try to create opportunities to relax and enjoy some laughs. Without humor your daily life may become monotonous and you may start to feel bored. Take delight in comedies on television and at the movies that incite laughter.
Laughter is beneficial to life and marriage. Henry Ward Beecher wrote, “A marriage without a sense of humor is like a wagon without springs – jolted by every pebble in the road.” Do some fun activities as a couple that is likely to create some laughs and this will differ from couple to couple. If you and your spouse differ on what you find humorous, stay open-minded. Be supportive of your spouse’s interest.
Corey in ‘The importance of laughter in marriage’ stated the following as the benefits of laughter:
- Reduction of stress and tension
- Stimulation of the immune system
- An increase of natural painkillers in the blood
- A decrease in systemic inflammation
- Reduction of blood pressure
- Lifts your spirits
- Brings couples closer together
- Can help keep a relationship fresh.”
Life can be stressful at times and it’s important that you reduce stress, for the mind can only operate efficiently when the emotions are under control. Laughter can provide you with an instant escape from the realities of life in order to survive difficult circumstances. Laughter releases chemicals in your brain which can enhance your day and reduce your stress. Every relationship needs to have a good laugh because it releases endorphins in the brain that are energizing and good for you. It is a way of letting-off steam. This is why humor and laughter in a relationship are marvelous gift. Rose confessed, “If it wasn’t for my husband making me laugh all the time, I would sometimes let my worries overwhelm me. Life can be nasty at times so if you know how to laugh when you’re upset, either with your spouse or yourself, it’ll be easier.”
When a couple laugh, it can help them feel bonded. Research has found that laughter produces Oxytocin, a chemical in the brain also referred to as the bonding chemical. Laughing together can help solidify your bond as a couple. So seek opportunities to enjoy fun activities that are likely to spark some laughs together. Agnes Repplier wrote, “We cannot love anybody with whom we never laugh.”
Laughter is not only healthy for a marriage, but vital to good health both emotionally and physically. Voltaire wrote, “The art of medicine consists of amusing the patient while nature cures the disease.”
Humor relieves the tension that can build up between couple. It also will bond you with those you laugh with. Avoid being on the edge and over sensitive, so that you easily hurt. Alexander said, “I’ve learned not to tease my wife too much as she can be very sensitive about it. She is very good-hearted but teasing is just not her nature.”
People instinctively shy away from the emotionally delicate person for fear of arousing an unpleasant reaction. Avoid the temptation to react with hurt feelings, and you will get on better with your partner. Together, work on building your sense of humor. Couples who can laugh at themselves or at their situation usually feel stronger when problems arise. Laughter can sometimes release negative tension both physically and psychologically.
A person who spreads nice messages and happiness to others can easily get along well with his/her spouse. Cultivate the quality of being stimulating. Share funny jokes and cartoons with each other. If being with you makes your partner feel better and more alive, your partner will sought after you and your personal relation will be better for it. It is important to have balance in your marriage relationship when it comes to humor and joking. Laughter can add to the quality of your marriage.
Without the realization that humor and laughter can create pain, you could hurt your spouse, and your marriage. Just as much as humor and laughter can enhance your marriage, they can hurt your marriage. Remember that enjoying humor doesn’t mean that you laugh at your spouse’s expense. It is crucial that you treat your spouse with respect and politeness. Never let anger make you discourteous and engage in derogatory comments. Show courtesy to your partner. Making a joke of your spouse's appearance or a physical flaw is not really funny but derogatory. Humor means you can laugh together not at one another. So watch out before what you say hurt your partner’s feelings.
At the same time, every relationship also needs to have its time of real, down to earth, serious conversation.
When conservations or problem solving becomes tense, humor can help a couple to negotiate conflict. This can be helpful when emotions are high. Joan said, “My husband’s ability to make me smile and laugh is what gets through an argument.” And Jay Leno says, “You can’t stay mad at somebody who makes you laugh. Humor allows couples to take life a little less seriously.
Jealousy drives some partners to attempt to manipulate and control. Bill Cosby says, “If you can find humor in anything, you can survive it. Certainly you can’t laugh all the time, but you should try to laugh most times. Laughing is the best way to express the joy within us. Laughter is contagious and inexpensive. Laugh and the world and your spouse will laugh back at you. Don’t go around looking like you have just sucked a lemon. Talk out all problems that develop together and arrive at reasonable solutions in unity.
Share your contagious sense of humor with each other. Cultivate the quality of being stimulating. If being with you makes a man better and more alive, you’ll be sought after and your relation with your partner will be excellent. Learning to laugh a little more just may save your life, not to mention your marriage. So lighten up. Stop taking yourself so seriously. So make some time to have some healthy laughter in your marriage today!