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The Importance of Praying for Your Spouse
Prayer takes time, but even more importantly, it takes faith. You have to believe that there is someone and something bigger than yourself that will make a difference if you connect to it. Just like an electrical device does not function unless it is connected to a power source, human beings will only experience divine aid when they connect to the Source of all life and light.
Marriage is an institution of divine origin. The union of our first parents in the Garden of Eden enabled the birth of humanity as we know it. Man was to "leave his father and mother" and "cleave unto his wife" that they might be "one flesh" (KJV Genesis 2:24). The only way to preserve, protect, and sanctify marriage, is to petition its author for divine aid.
Prayer is powerful. Without it, life is empty and meaningless. Marriage without prayer is like trying to plant seeds without giving them the necessary water and sunshine to make them grow. Adding God to the marriage partnership enables both spouses to receive the benefit of personal progress, tailor made for their individual needs.
You are in a unique position
Of all the people in the world, you are most closely connected to your spouse. You are in a position to do enormous good, should you choose to do so. You know your spouse better then anyone. You know strengths and weaknesses, likes and dislikes, hopes and dreams. You have the power to bring happiness or misery.
Marriage is not an easy proposition. Two people from different backgrounds come together to form a single social unit that becomes the basis for the rest of their lives. What happens within that home affects everything, including career, family, extended family, relationships, and finances. There is nothing in marriage that does not matter. It all matters.
Petitioning Almighty God in behalf of your spouse gives you additional strength. It enables an eternal perspective to shed itself forth on your life. You see things differently. You experience life with a concern for your spouse and family's better future, and make decisions accordingly.
When you pray, express gratitude for your marriage and the blessing of having someone to love. Many people go through life without this gift. Giving gratitude to God for your spouse will help you to see the good qualities and little things that make a positive difference.
You make a difference
Marriage is God's great schoolhouse. It is the only place on earth where we learn and develop those characteristics that enable us to return to his presence. We start with love and a desire to serve our spouse, and before we know it, we become acquainted with unselfishness, a sense of humor, humility, charity, and hope.
Once children are added to the picture, it becomes even more complicated and difficult! Not only are we serving our spouse, but our children as well, and in the process, trying to earn a living to provide for them! How we need God's help and guidance! Praying for our spouse's strength and wisdom is imperative! Only then do we realize that we, in and of ourselves, are weak and simple, and that without God, we could easily fail!
Praying for your spouse will help you to appreciate all that is done for you and your family. You see the effort put forth to make life good, and that it takes both of you working in a spirit of cooperation to succeed. Disagreements fade into oblivion as you see from the other person's point of view, and how you can improve to make the situation better.
Putting your spouse in God's hands during times of difficulty gives you an anchor during the storm. You don't have to control what is happening, the outcome is in his hands, and he will not fail nor forsake you. He will make much more out of your spouse than you ever could by your own efforts alone. Your job is to love unconditionally. Let God do the rest.
You are your family
You make or break your family: your actions, reactions, thoughts, words, and deeds. When you pray for your spouse, you are praying for you. Together, you are one. You have committed yourself to something bigger than both of you. Your daily petitions on your spouse's behalf will bless your entire family.
Ask God for safety during travel, the spirit to guide in making decisions, the wisdom to use money wisely, and the courage to stand up for beliefs. Pray for protection from the evils and temptations of the world. Pray for those who work with your spouse, that they will see the good that is done. Pray that their hearts will be softened when difficult things happen.
Daily heartfelt, sincere prayer will be your source of power and inspiration as you pray for your spouse. You will realize your own nothingness before God and your dependence upon his aid. You will feel his grace more fully in your life, and you will feel his immense love you. In turn, your heart will be filled with unconditional love for your spouse and your family. Now is the time to start!