- Gender and Relationships
The Marriage of John and Mona
God instituted the marriage of Adam and Eve. Man did not choose his mate and he had no say in the matter. People who love God should allow Him to find the mate.
The Lord did not create many Eves for Adam to choose from. He could not choose from the beautiful, brainy, simple or athletic types of wives. All these like beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. It is Hobson's choice and God knows best.
- And God blessed them, and God said to them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it:
This was the beginning of marriage in the bible. When Abraham was getting in years, he told his respected servant to look for a wife for his son Isaac in his father's house. His servant prayed to God for guidance and he found the perfect wife for Isaac. Marriage was an institution made for man to replenish the earth.
God had set up marriage between a man and his wife six thousand years ago as an example for man to follow. In marriage, the couple must put God first in their marriage and everything will fall into place. Marriage should not be based on attraction, love, dating and wooing but belief that God is at the centre. Love may change, dating may be long and unfruitful. Wooing can be too demanding and fail, When couples concentrate and obey God, He will guide them into the right path of marriage.
The Groom and Bride
Both the groom and bride to be love God and decide to allow God to work in their marriage. John Chang a young Christian engineer in his late 20's born and bred in Canada went to Scotland with a group of about 20 young members to visit the churches in Scotland and Paris led by Pr. Timothy Yeung. At the first meeting in Edinburgh, he did not meet his future bride, Mona Ho. John was told of an eligible mate for him and some time later, he went again to Edinburgh to meet her and was satisfied that God led her to him.
Mona Lisa Ho, the bride worked in office administration in Scotland. She was born and bred in the United Kingdom and seven of her friends attended the wedding in Toronto. Mona was enigmatic as her namesake Mona Lisa with the mystic smile. What is known is that her ancestors were among the three families which made up the church in Scotland during the early years.
Eligible Members for Marriage List
A profile is done of eligible members by the marriage coordinator in the church. The marriage coordinator and the preacher discuss the lists of the two churches to see whether there is a likely match.
Pre-marriage Counselling (by Skype)
Counselling was completed through the use of Skype because both John and Mona lived in different parts of the world separated by the Atlantic Ocean. Preacher Yeung used Skype to conduct counselling through good advice on how to resolve difficulties and advised them to depend on God for every thing.
Pre-marriage Counselling is extremely important to marriage for it helps to foster a good marriage. Forewarned is forearmed. If you already know what the issues are, you would be ready to solve the problems, and ward off disaster.
1. Put Jesus Christ first
- Christ can solve everything. Pray to Jesus for help to solve problems.
- And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.
- For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and shall be joined unto his wife and they two shall be one flesh.
2. Communication, failure of
- When there is no communication, the other party does not know what went wrong and cannot mend the fences.
3. Forgive and start afresh.
- Wipe out your anger and start afresh every day.
- Be ye angry and sin not; let not the sun go down upon your wrath.
4. Practise humility
- Humble yourself in the sight of the Lord and he shall lift you up.
5. Respect one another
- Do not belittle each other but respect the other person's integrity, opinion.
6. Money Matters
- Discuss money problems. Do not spend beyond your means and do not shove matters aside. Come to a conclusion.
7. Show Gratitude when due
- Do not brush it aside and ignore the issue. Show gratitude where it is due. Acknowledge all things.
8. Do not let other people interfere
- Deal with the problem yourselves. Pray for God's guidance.
The Marriage Procedure
Three deacons, Dn. Apollos Lee, Dn. K. C. Tsai, and Dn. Fritz Chen participated in the ceremony. Pr. Timothy Yeung gave the sermon. Every one is equal in the sight of God but played different roles in society.
Hymns: Be Thou My Vision and O Perfect Love
Prayer: Deacon Apollos Lee (Service Leader)
Scripture Reading: Deacon Fritz Chen - Matthew 19:4-6
Ephesians 5:22-33; 1 Corinthians 13:4-8,13
Sermon: Preacher Timothy Yeung - Marriage
Preacher Yeung stressed that marriage was instituted by God and that the Lord must be part of the daily life.
Solemnization: Deacon Kar Chung Tsai
Benediction: Preacher Timothy Yeung
Words of the Marriage Coordinator: Preacher Timothy Yeung on behalf of Sis. Joyce Liu
Sheng Soon Chang, father of the groom thanked all the relatives, and guests for their presence for his beloved son, John. Obviously he was extremely pleased with the marriage and spoke at great length in English and Chinese, changing from Cantonese to Mandarin. The congregation roared in laughter for he was not known as an orator before.
In western society, the father of the bride takes an important role, but not in this wedding. He spoke in English thanking every one present. He was quite eloquent in his speech.
Kun Tching Chia, mother of John and Carissa Chan. Mona's mother did not reply. Women played a submissive role in the marriage of their children.
The Wedding Party
The Best Man was Joel Yaw and the Maid of Honour was Sukey Ho
Aubrey Tham, soprano sang the hymn, "Panis Angelicus" during the procession of the bride. She was accompanied on the piano by Joanne Lee.
Ethan Lin was the page boy and Eunice Fu, the flower girl. Both looked very serious and cute for they were concentrating very hard on the procession trying to keep up with the timing.
Master of Ceremony - Victor Liu,
Interpreter - Samuel Wu
Photographs in the Chapel
After the marriage ceremony was completed, the couple stayed in the chapel taking photographs for more than an hour, posing with the different groups of relatives from far and near, church groups and members and guests. It must be very exhausting for John and Mona.
The reception was held in the dining hall of the church which was tastefully decorated and organized by Michelle Lee and the youths.
Diamond Banquet Hall
The guests lined up to sign the guest list on a 18" x 24" sheet of paper which came in a casing and could be hung as a wall decoration. The guests could choose the different colours of the small pads and markers for signatures.
The banquet was for 200 guests. The food was delicious and consists of shark fins soup, chicken, shrimps, beef and pork dishes. The food was ample and declared good by those at our table.
The hall had 4 screens so most were able to watch the films of both groom and bride from childhood to maturity. Guests were given fridge magnets of John and Mona to take home. That was a nice gesture for souvenirs.
The Guests List
The guests came from different parts of the world because the groom's parents were from Sabah, Malaysia and Singapore whereas the bride's family originally came from Hong Kong.
The guests included Caucasians, Chinese, Vietnamese and Indians. Quite a cosmopolitan crowd. Guests from the groom include uncles and cousins from Sabah, Singapore, Winnipeg, and Toronto.
From Scotland were the parents of the bride, uncles and aunts, cousins from Scotland, Los Angeles, U.S. and friends of the bride.
The marriage was thoroughly enjoyed by everyone. Practically the whole church was involved and it was a very intimate affair and from the photographer Peter Chen, the decorators of the chapel, the reception room and even the final cleaning up of the church was undertaken by the church members. The members put up their best effort and must be congratulated by all means. The church was united in giving John and Mona the best service for their marriage. It was a concerted affair which united the church.
There were about six young children among the guests. Most were carried by the parents. One particular child of two years old seemed to enjoyed the festivity very much. Little Haniel Huang, son of Mr. and Mrs. Huang danced, jumped and skipped on the raised platform of their dining table for a few miniutes laughing all the time. He seemed oblivious of the crowd but enjoying himself tremendously. A six month baby girl, niece of the groom was having a fever. Another little baby was obviously crying and was hushed by the father.
All glory to God for bringing John and Mona in holy matrimony.
FIRST MATCHMAKING IN THE BIBLE
The Marriage of John and Mona
Do you agree the marriage of John and Mona is blessed by God because they adhered to His words?
If you are contemplating marriage, would you follow the example of John and Mona and let God deal with it? Or would you prefer to do what the current young people decide for themselves?
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