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The Need

Updated on April 24, 2012
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I am a Christian pastor who wishes to bring glory to God in all that I do, and to help people through my writing to know Him better.



Life is a solitary journey through space and time, and yet the individual spends his life longing for union with another. Indeed, if an infant does not have human touch, once outside his mother's womb, he shrivels and dies. This does not change as that infant grows to adulthood.

I. The Search for Relationship

The loneliest place to be is in a crowd, for there we realize how anonymous we are to the world of individuals all around us. What's more, we understand to the greatest extent possible on this earth, how little those individuals want to know us. True, they need to be understood and loved as much as we, but they seem to be looking in other directions from where we stand.

So here we are, our innermost being encased in these bodies of flesh and bone, concealed and begging to be released from the prison that separates what I am from what you are, my essence from your essence. Not that flesh and bone, formed by an all wise God, is evil. This is far from the case. However, apart from communication and connection, those bodies become stone walls of indifference, built with the mortar of fear.

II. The Fear of Intimacy

Most of us are afraid to reach out; afraid of rejection. It is in that quiet desparation that we think to ourselves: "If I show people who I really am, will they like me, or will they hurt me even more than I hurt right now? I couldn't take that, for this pain is almost more than I can bear. Anything more might destroy me!" So we go on searching, searching for perfect connection in a world that lost this ability centuries before we were born, in a place called Eden.

III. The New Hope for Relationship

Just as one man lost relationship, another made it possible for us to regain it. The founder of a new humanity was and is the Second Person of the Trinity. He became like us, so that we could become like Him. He, the Second Adam, died for the sin that separated us from a holy God, and causes separation among mankind as well. It is only through Him that the longing of the heart for intimacy and relationship is completely fulfilled. And He is the only one who knows us fully, but loves us anyway. He accepts us, warts and all.

The only requirement is that we come to Him freely and accept His gift of love and intimacy, given by means of His sacrificial death on the cross. We may choose, but be warned. The alternative is an eternal separation, an eternal void that will never be fulfilled.

In Him and only Him will the feelings of aloneness and separateness be one day completely eradicated, in the New Heaven and the New Earth. There will one day be no more mourning the loss of a loved one, no more crying over broken relationships and no more pain of separation. In Jesus Christ, the great need of humanity to fill that void of intimacy will finally be done away with forever. And It will be replaced with an eternity of love and relationships with God and His redeemed people.


If you've been searching for love and relationship and have come up void all of your life, then come to the God who longs for a relationship with you. Not because He needs it Himself, but because He knows you do, and He loves you enough to share of Himself with you. He wants to give you the desires of your heart. He wants to fill that void with His presence. It has been said that our hearts are restless, until they find their rest in Him. Jesus said: "Come unto me you who are weary and heavy laden, and I will give you rest." That is a promise from the God of the universe. And He never lies. So come to Him today. It will be the greatest decision you've ever made in your life.


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      Jeff Shirley 5 years ago from Kentwood, Michigan

      Thanks again Lifegate. God bless you.

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      William Kovacic 5 years ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

      A lot to ponder. Thanks for getting the brain waves in gear as I meditate on the truths you've written.

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      Jeff Shirley 5 years ago from Kentwood, Michigan

      Thank yoiu megni and danngrz for reading and for your comments.

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      danngrz 5 years ago

      I love the line, "the loneliest place to be is in a crowd". Its so true. I enjoyed reading this. Nothing compares to the love of our father in Heaven.

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      megni 5 years ago

      Yes, God knows us and when we ask him for help, He never fails. He made each of us for His work, all we have to do is to love who he made us into and to align our lives with HIm. Thanks for sharing.