ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

The Option of Homosexuality

Updated on June 1, 2017

Just One Anecdote

During the tumultuous years of
the 1970s, a particular American
University got its first:

Women's Studies Department.

Within a month of the first classes,
a particular Professor needed to
speak to a particular activist
student.

She Needed to Speak to her In
absolute privacy.

The Professor told the Activist that she was accused of 'turning three girls into lesbians.'

The activist who 'knew everyone' asked, in strictest confidence, the names of the girls.

The Three

Ann had been a virgin in June.

She had sex on Prom night with her
beloved.
She learned she was pregnant in
July.

She told her beloved.
He rushed her to an abortion clinic.

In September, when Ann entered University, she had no boyfriend.

Ann had gone from being a child graduating High School, to having her first boyfriend.

She went from having a boyfriend to having her first sexual encounter.

That act of sex resulted in pregnancy. Resulted in an Abortion.

Ann had gone from child to woman before she was ready.

Instead of having the beautiful 'first love' she had a painful episode. Not
only physically by emotionally and spiritually.

For her boyfriend she had been an easy lay, then a problem, then some
one he used to know.

Beth was in love with Larry. Larry saw her as an aide de camp.

Larry was the leader of an Anti-War group, Beth was a member. He used
Beth to give out leaflets, organise meetings, etc. but never saw her as female.

He was attracted to lots of other women in the group, but not Beth.
No matter what Beth did he never saw her as a woman.

Carla was a 'mess'. She could keep psychologists busy for years. She was
the type of person who, when asked "What do you want to do?" would reply, "Nothing," and when someone suggested; "Let's go to the movies," Carla would claim everyone was 'pushing her around.'

These three had entered "Women in Society" in September as 'straight', and by October had 'turned into lesbians.'

The activist, who knew the histories of the three told the Professor, (who was a lesbian):

"It is probably true. You gave them an option.
Ann will never ever be used by another man.
She will never be pregnant again, she will
never have an abortion again.
Beth can never be rejected by a man again,
and Carla now has a reason why she's 'different'."

More recently

In a particular well known homophobic country a number of women, many in their 50s, have entered into lesbian relationships.  The majority are from the lower classes and have  trailer loads of children fathered by different men.

As this sudden change is so discordant, every other sociology/psychology student has raced downtown to understand 'what happened.'

The stories are all basically the same.

Female engaged in sex with male at young age, often unwilling.  Whether she was raped by father/uncle/neighbour/brother or area Don, or gave herself to the first passing male who would 'help her in life'  she went through various partners, had a number of children for men who either beat her, robbed her, abandoned her, leaving her with another mouth to feed.

Emotional fulfillment never came from  males.  There was never any love, it was sex and use.  

Now, having worked most of her life, (often selling in the market) she doesn't need/want anyone to take care of her, she simply wants to love and be loved, and she finds that with other women whose life mirrors hers.


In the 'Old Days'

As 'late' as the 1950s the idea of a
girl being a lesbian did not occur.

Considering the gender bars,
where girls were to wear dresses
and play with dolls and boys got
to do all the exciting things, it
was no wonder that there were so many 'Tomboys'.

A 'Tomboy' was the term for a girl who could do things as well as the boys.
Run, ride a bicycle, play sports, climb, etc.

She wasn't interested in cooking and sewing, playing house, and sitting silently in a white dress with a doll on her lap while the boys ran up and down kicking a ball.

There was no sex aspect; she didn't want a penis or to make love to another girl,
she wanted to have the freedom to be active, assertive, powerful.

Many 'Tomboys' reached puberty and began being 'girls', experimenting with makeup, fashion, dating boys, getting married and having children,
physically fulfilling the 'woman's role' but maintaining that independent
'Tomboy' mind set.

Today, would they not be categorised as lesbians?

Despite being in 'pre-sex' stage would they not be labeled and then full fill the expectation?

Options

I would not doubt that there are people 'born that way', whether through being in the 'wrong body' or being 'genetically wired' or even having a hormonal imbalance.

I am sure there are those who are and have always been attracted to members of their own sex. However, there are other factors which are not exactly 'nurture' which can and do operate.

In the first anecdote, (that at the University) Ann embraced lesbianism as
protection. One can only speculate that if Ann had not had sex on Prom
night and become pregnant for someone who couldn't care less about her,
or if Beth hadn't loved Larry so much, or if Carla had gotten some kind of
counseling when she was a child, that none of the three would be lesbians.

In the second, (market women) if they had been born in other places, where they
would not have been exposed to heterosexual sex as early and unpleasantly as
they had, but enjoyed childhoods, grew up, and as women met and were loved
by a man who provided for his children, then it is clear they would not look within
their own sex for the kind of emotional fulfillment they have been unable to obtain
from the other.

Pressure?

In Western nations the 'need' to label has become fierce.

In the 50s/60s/ as late as the 70s there was no need to categorise. A girl who wanted to play sports, wear jeans, who cut her hair short was more seen as someone who wanted the freedom boys had than the sexual equipment.

Where boys were punished for being weak or girly when they showed interest in 'girl things' the girl simply exasperated her parents.

Most 'Tomboys' did not become Lesbians. As hormones kicked in, as they found boys sexually attractive, as their bodies changed they kept their mindset but filled the woman niche. They would become feminists, interested in Women's Rights, not women as lovers.

Today, the girl is 'channelled' into accepting herself as a lesbian or transgender when she is not. However, once one is so categorised, she falls into her category and fulfills those expectations.

It may be much later in life that one appreciates what she may truly want or not want.


Comments

    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    • qeyler profile imageAUTHOR

      qeyler 

      7 years ago

      I was actually looking for a photo that wasn't porn...

      Thanks for your comment.

    • RedxVelvet profile image

      RedxVelvet 

      7 years ago from California, United States

      A very good hub! I actually read it all the way through instead of scimming for pictures like I do on some...xD shameful, I know.

      Thumbs up!

    working

    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, hubpages.com uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at: https://hubpages.com/privacy-policy#gdpr

    Show Details
    Necessary
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the googleapis.com or gstatic.com domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Features
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Marketing
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Statistics
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)